Is a diamond really forever???

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#16
yslalice said:
I think it's a personal decision to upgrade or to not upgrade. An engagement is a personal thing, and the ring as a representation of that is personal as well. It's just what feels right for you.
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i agree that it's really a personal decision and that the ring is a representation of something that is personal to the individual..

for me, i don't think i will ever upgrade my engagement ring (i'm still waiting for it from my bf! *chuckles*). likewise my proposal ring that i'm wearing right now.. i don't mind ANOTHER diamond ring LOL, but I can't see myself giving up my engagement/proposal ring for an upgrade as it means too much to me.. but that's just me.. :yes:
 
#17
Lululovebags said:
i agree that it's really a personal decision and that the ring is a representation of something that is personal to the individual..

for me, i don't think i will ever upgrade my engagement ring (i'm still waiting for it from my bf! *chuckles*). likewise my proposal ring that i'm wearing right now.. i don't mind ANOTHER diamond ring LOL, but I can't see myself giving up my engagement/proposal ring for an upgrade as it means too much to me.. but that's just me.. :yes:
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What's the difference between a proposal ring and an engagement ring?
 
#19
I agree that many people upgrade because as the years go by, they are able to afford a better/larger stone than when they first married. I know a lot of people that use their original stone as part of the new design or make a pendant from it.
 
#20
thanks for all the responses ladies! It was just something I've been wondering for a while and when I stumbled onto this part of the forum I thought, perfect! They'll know! lol
 
#21
Lululovebags said:
for me, i don't think i will ever upgrade my engagement ring (i'm still waiting for it from my bf! *chuckles*). likewise my proposal ring that i'm wearing right now.. i don't mind ANOTHER diamond ring LOL, but I can't see myself giving up my engagement/proposal ring for an upgrade as it means too much to me.. but that's just me.. :yes:
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I totally agree- I think it depends on how sentimental a person is. I, too, would never upgrade my engagement ring- the greatest value in that ring for me is what it represents and symbolizes.
 
#22
oo0ehxtahcee0oo said:
the diamond doesnt mean anything to me. even if i had a cracker jack ring i know that doesnt mean he loves me less, or that our love is any different. (id just be sad he couldnt get me anything nicer and that would last.)

im really sad because i lost my promise ring and i havent found it.. so now i sadly no longer wear my engagement ring because im scared to lose it. i do wear it rarely on special occasions but thats it.. and just because i dont wear it doesnt mean i dont love him either.. im just scared..
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Can i just say, that didn't you lose your promise ring whilst not wearing it. Therefore wearing your enagement ring makes sense as then you will always know where it is :yes: It does suck that you lost your promise ring, but please don't let that spoil wearing your enagement ring. Enjoy it thats what i say :flowers:
 
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A lot of people upgrade on their anniversaries and special holidays. Why? I can tell you my story.

When he first proposed, he was dirt poor. So my engagement ring was just a plain wedding band. That didn't matter to me. It was the proposal that mattered. I wore that ring with pride, and once told a man off when he made a snarky comment about it, "how about you get with a real man who can afford to get you a REAL engagement ring." How about you get over yourself? It is a REAL engagement ring, because what made it REAL was the fact that he had proposed, not what he proposed with. I told the man rather curtly I would never marry a man who only saw the material value in things.

We picked an official wedding date, and he surprised me with a diamond ring. And he said then he would upgrade it, probably when we do a vow renewal on our fifth anniversary (after he returns home from a year of abroad study in Japan.)

Why? Well, why do people buy each other presents? To show love and appreciation. And upgrading a diamond is the same thing - it's just a present to show love and appreciation. It's a way of saying, "thank you for standing with me through it all." It takes on a new meaning, but one that is still very special.
 
#25
We have considered upgrading but attached to my 1/2 carat sized solitaire is the excitement of the day we got engaged and how ecstatic I was. I don't think I can let it go or wear something else in its place.
 
#26
Keep in mind who was telling the OP about upgrading her ring -- the salesperson who sold it to her! Of course the SA is going to suggest an upgrade later. More commission for them!

Upgrades are a very personal thing -- I don't think I'd upgrade my e-ring, just because DH and I were "older" when we got engaged and we could afford what we wanted at the time. But I will most likely upgrade my wedding band, because it didn't turn out exactly the way I had hoped. The diamonds are channel-set and to me it looks like too much metal and the stones seem kind of buried in the middle.
 
#27
divadivine682 said:
I have a question (don't throw rotten tomatoes at me....lol) but it seems like all these threads I read on engagement rings a lot of people are trying to upgrade to a bigger better rock. Isn't it "a diamond is forever" so why would you want to get a new one when the original one is what was put on your finger in the first place? Im just kinda confused. To me, its not about how big the rock is, but what it represents, no? When DF and I got our ring, the saleslady was like "in a few years, upgrade...blah, blah..." Why would one do that? If you could, please clarify...thanks! :flowers:
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Please don't throw rotten tomatoes at me either, but to answer the question of the OP honestly...? No. Diamonds are NOT forever.

I have heard soooo many stories of them cracking, chipping and shredded into half. :sweatdrop:

However, because we attach a symbolic meaning to it, it's that emotion that we tied to our Engagement Diamond that we hope will last forever.
God knows how many marriages ended in shambles despite their proposals made over MEGA Rocks yah?
To me, it's the meaning, what the Diamond Ring represents that lasts forever....

Personally I am rather uncomfortable with using the word "upgrade" on my Engagement Ring. It was perfect (to me) to begin with then, and STILL absolutely wonderful now! :heart: Hence, I feel really bad/guilty even contemplating an "improvement" on it myself.
As such, I still keep my original E-Ring. I honestly love it, and am considering resetting it (or just leaving it in its original setting....I'm a sentimental sod!). On our 5th Anniversary, the DH bought me a bigger, more extravagant Diamond that suits our current taste/style better. It was my 5 year Anniversary Present. It could have been Earrings, or a Watch, but in this case, it was a Solitaire Ring.

The new Anniversary Ring may have replaced my original E-Ring on the Finger where it used to reside nowadays.....But it never replaced its meaning in my heart.
So no, like all other material things (E.g. Handbags, Shoes, Watches, Cars, Houses..) Diamonds are not forever IMO, I just work hard at my relationship so it has a shot at it....:p
 
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#29
Accessorize*me said:
No. Diamonds are NOT forever.

I have heard soooo many stories of them cracking, chipping and shredded into half. :sweatdrop:
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The actual reason I am upgrading my ring is b/c my original princess had a chip come out of the center--this chip made diamond vulnerable of cracking--to repair the jeweler would have had to polish out chip and unfortunately it would have shrunk the diamond considerably--That's what insurance is for--our jeweler is a friend and he was able to purchase a stone from a guy who wanted to sell b/c he is no longer engaged to his girlfriend--our jeweler gave a low ball bid in cash and the guy accepted so our jeweler was able to pass along the deal to us--that is why I had to change my ring and have the opportunity to upgrade:yes:
 
#30
our finances nowhere resemble what ours did when we got married...i could have an upgrade...or 2, my ring is a 1carat...small by standards on this board

but i love my ring, he picked it out...he is not really a shopper, so i cherish it

i bought another setting, but changed my mind....

i still wear my original diamond almost 15 years later
 
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