Is a diamond really forever???

[divadivine682]

I have a question (don't throw rotten tomatoes at me....lol) but it seems like all these threads I read on engagement rings a lot of people are trying to upgrade to a bigger better rock. Isn't it "a diamond is forever" so why would you want to get a new one when the original one is what was put on your finger in the first place? Im just kinda confused. To me, its not about how big the rock is, but what it represents, no? When DF and I got our ring, the saleslady was like "in a few years, upgrade...blah, blah..." Why would one do that? If you could, please clarify...thanks!

 

[tiffanystar]

I do understand what you mean. But I got my first e-ring when I was eighteen and my taste has changed since then. I love my up-grade ring because we got it whilst on a special holiday.

 

[divadivine682]

thanks tiffanystar! Im sure everyone has their own story (like yours...taste changed after a long time) but when I was reading a thread on engagement rings, i would see "I just got my engagement ring but upgraded to a bigger one!" that kind of thing....it all just confuses me!

 

[manolo maven]

As our love for one another grows, so does my rock! I'm kind of kidding, but why not, if you can? To me, when it comes to diamonds, bigger is better, and thank goodness my husband is on board with that! I still have my original engagement ring as a keepsake but I don't wear it. I guess it would have made more sense to "trade up" but it didn't occur to me at the time. My "upgrade" still represents the original sentiment, anyway. The ring is just a symbol. I don't see any difference between upgrading and, say, replacing if you lose your original ring.

 

[Swanky]

a diamond IS forever, it doesn't evaporate, disintegrate. . . .

We upgraded because we've leasnred more about them sicne we got engaged, BOTH of our tastes have changed and what we originally chose doesn't reflect us anymore.

For a lot of us, it's not the stone itself, it's what the whole thing represents, changing it's design doesn't change what it represents to me:shrugs

 

[divadivine682]

a diamond IS forever, it doesn't evaporate, disintegrate. . . .

We upgraded because we've leasnred more about them sicne we got engaged, BOTH of our tastes have changed and what we originally chose doesn't reflect us anymore.

For a lot of us, it's not the stone itself, it's what the whole thing represents, changing it's design doesn't change what it represents to me:shrugs

Thanks Swanky! Then i guess my question is: what does it represent if they keep getting new ones? Does it represent change? I kinda feel stupid for asking these dumb questions!!!

 

[claudette2]

"A Diamond is Forever" is a marketing slogan that has been hugely successful in driving the diamond engagement ring business. Personally, I think the wedding band is the most symbolic of the union between two people.

On a personal note: when we began looking at e-rings, I was very clear that I wanted to get a diamond that I would be happy wearing now and for a long time (meaning of a certain ct weight) because I do not want to upgrade later. I am happy to wear only my wedding band until we both feel comfortable spending the type of money it would require to get that stone...

 

[sds661]

a diamond IS forever, it doesn't evaporate, disintegrate. . . .

We upgraded because we've leasnred more about them sicne we got engaged, BOTH of our tastes have changed and what we originally chose doesn't reflect us anymore.

For a lot of us, it's not the stone itself, it's what the whole thing represents, changing it's design doesn't change what it represents to me:shrugs

Great post totally agree

 

[Carri]

When we got married we were very young and didn't have a lot of money to spend on a diamond. We decided to get a very small diamond and upgrade on our tenth anniversary. I now have my "dream" ring, and it was worth the wait. I'm planning on having my original diamond reset as either a right hand ring or a pendant.

 

[Swanky]

what I mean by the "whole thing" is the symbolism of it, not the tangible piece itself.
For example, I'd be crusehed if I lost mine, but the meaning is still intact. We made a promise the piece of carbon gifted to me is irrelevant.
I personally don't give a stone that much power
I guess that's hard for some people to understand{?}


* so embarrassed that I typed 1st before and I was quoted w/ so many silly typos!:shame:

 

[yslalice]

I think it's a personal decision to upgrade or to not upgrade. An engagement is a personal thing, and the ring as a representation of that is personal as well. It's just what feels right for you.

 

[barcreperie]

As our love for one another grows, so does my rock!

I know you said this kiddingly, but I swear I saw this in a diamond ad recently. It's pretty entertaining to see the evolution of the diamond industry's marketing, and right now they're going after baby boomers who are at a point in their lives where they can afford bigger diamonds. That's why we upgraded - we can afford a much bigger, better quality diamond than we could when we got engaged, and are much more educated on what to look for in a quality stone.

I don't have a lot of sentiment attached to my engagement rings, it's just a symbol of being married and committed to someone. And it's darn pretty to look at too!

 

[dearmissie]

the diamond doesnt mean anything to me. even if i had a cracker jack ring i know that doesnt mean he loves me less, or that our love is any different. (id just be sad he couldnt get me anything nicer and that would last.)

im really sad because i lost my promise ring and i havent found it.. so now i sadly no longer wear my engagement ring because im scared to lose it. i do wear it rarely on special occasions but thats it.. and just because i dont wear it doesnt mean i dont love him either.. im just scared..

 

[sds661]

* so embarrassed that I typed 1st before and I was quoted w/ so many silly typos!:shame:[/quote]
I kinda chuckled about that--I do the same thing get typing so fast and then on to the next task that when I look back at what I wrote its like D'oh!!!:shame:

 

[burberryprncess]

DH and I plan on upgrading my er for our 15th anniversary. Although there is a real sentimental attachment to my original er, it is really just a symbol of our love for each other and not something tangible. My future upgrade to a bigger diamond wouldn't make it any more meaningful to me. It is the thought that counts and which makes it special, not the stone or the design. The new ring will symbolize the renewal of our vows.