How to politely say no when your S.A push cloths etc on you?

[Sferics]

any other advice? like should i try out the dress and then say that i might not want it anymore?

Why would you do that?
To pretend in a theatrical play that you are interested and then find the dress not nice enough or something like that?
I can't see why this is "the better way".
Why all the hustle, when you can tell them you changed your mind?

 

[Luckystar01]

Why would you do that?
To pretend in a theatrical play that you are interested and then find the dress not nice enough or something like that?
I can't see why this is "the better way".
Why all the hustle, when you can tell them you changed your mind?

That’s true! Oh, I’m just so afraid that he will be annoyed. Since he is the manager and he did this for me…

 

[Sferics]

That’s true! Oh, I’m just so afraid that he will be annoyed. Since he is the manager and he did this for me…

I understand this! You seem like a very nice and polite person, but who thinks other people's well-being is more important than yours. Please be nice and polite to yourself, too.
You might have invested more thoughts in this already, then the SA ever will.

 

[Luckystar01]

I understand this! You seem like a very nice and polite person, but who thinks other people's well-being is more important than yours. Please be nice and polite to yourself, too.
You might have invested more thoughts in this already, then the SA ever will.

Oh thank you . Yes, thats tottaly right. I have been thinking of it since than, didnt have a good feeling about it. Because it is one me. It is my job to say "No, sorry, I dont want it anymore" But i didnt, and they now ordered it from paris. And it is a newly opened store, so they are very "stricht". Ah, maybe I just have to sell some stuffs and buy it, lesson learned for next time.

 

[Sferics]

Oh thank you . Yes, thats tottaly right. I have been thinking of it since than, didnt have a good feeling about it. Because it is one me. It is my job to say "No, sorry, I dont want it anymore" But i didnt, and they now ordered it from paris. And it is a newly opened store, so they are very "stricht". Ah, maybe I just have to sell some stuffs and buy it, lesson learned for next time.

Perhaps you might better buy two so you have three to do penance!

Sorry, could not resist.


(To be honest: I think, you want that dress, and you hoped, s. o. would say, you can't say no to the SA so you are "forced" to buy it )

Anyway, enjoy the dress

 

[Allisonfaye]

"I don't love it!" are my exact words leaving dressing rooms, lol

I can eliminate many things because they are too heavy for our hot climate. I have said I don't love it or I don't love it ON ME. I guess I have a pretty big arsenal of reasons in my belt. But saying no to people who want my card has never been that hard for me.

 

[Allisonfaye]

any other advice? like should i try out the dress and then say that i might not want it anymore?

Tell then what you told us...that you don't want it in two colors. Perfectly reasonable thing to say.

 

[mmvv22]

That’s true! Oh, I’m just so afraid that he will be annoyed. Since he is the manager and he did this for me…

You probably way overthinking this. I remember I was really ashamed to go and ask for exchange shoes that I bought in Paris (never worn, brought them to the US) and when I unpacked them at home I didn’t liked them anymore. I bought them only because they were cheaper compare to US prices and FSH didn’t have anything I wanted in my size. So I guess I compensate buying the one I didn’t really liked. Anyway I went to US store to exchange and felt so bad. But I was told by manager these shoes will be sold same day probably because it’s popular size and it’s the model they didn’t have. So I’m sure they will sell you dress easily

 

[Love Of My Life]

Just be candid.. You already have the dress & at this time don't have the need for another unless
you like it enough to buy another.
SM's & SA's hear these things everyday. They are professional. It is their job to do their "best"
to help the client that is how they build up their business & have clients return.
Tell him that you are appreciative of his efforts & that you will see him for the new collection

 

[880]

any other advice? like should i try out the dress and then say that i might not want it anymore?

No. 100% with @Swanky and @jblended and @Love Of My Life
This is not a big deal.

Just say I’m no longer interested in that one bc I I bought the other color

ETA: they would vastly prefer you only buy what you love and not return or agonize and keep what you don’t want.

 

[Luckystar01]

No. 100% with @Swanky and @jblended and @Love Of My Life
This is not a big deal.

Just say I’m no longer interested in that one bc I I bought the other color

ETA: they would vastly prefer you only buy what you love and not return or agonize and keep what you don’t want.

Hey guys,

Sorry for the late respons. I don’t know why but I can’t say no, and now the item has arrived the store. The thing is, there is this bag I’m eyeing which I also want. Do you think I can ask to buy that bag instead of the clothing? Just feeling so bad since they ordered it from Chanel Paris to me.

 

[880]

it is very hard to shop luxury if you are not prepared to draw boundaries; say no; or ask for what you really want. No SA wants to sell anything to a reluctant client. In these cases, returns are more likely and the entire transaction becomes a waste of time for everyone involved

 

[Swanky]

I'm not sure we can give you more advice tbh. If you won't take the advice, you'll continue to pour thousands of dollars into unwanted items.

You have NO OBLIGATION to buy anything, EVER. Period. Just say no.

 

[Bag peace]

Hey guys,

Sorry for the late respons. I don’t know why but I can’t say no, and now the item has arrived the store. The thing is, there is this bag I’m eyeing which I also want. Do you think I can ask to buy that bag instead of the clothing? Just feeling so bad since they ordered it from Chanel Paris to me.

I really would advise you not to make this so personal. The store ordered an item from another of their branches. They do this all the time, for all their clients. They did not do you a special favour, they were trying to make a sale. If you don't buy it, another customer will. If you say you don't want it, you're not upsetting anyone, it's a job and a transactional relationship, not a family tie that is being broken.

You can't be paying luxury prices for items you don't even want. You're going to look back on your experiences with resentment and a feeling of shame for having wasted a lot of money on stuff you didn't even want.
I'd actually suggest, with all due respect, that you step away from shopping for a little bit until you're able to come to it with a more objective viewpoint. Being emotionally hung up on a "relationship" with your SA and store is not a good position for anyone to be in.

Shopping is business. Luxury shopping is big business. They're trying to get you to spend your money in their shop instead of their competitors. That's it. It's not a friend helping you out or doing personal favours for you, no matter how they express it to you- it's not personal, it's a job. These are people doing a job, taking your money so that they can earn commission from it. They work hard and deserve your utmost respect, but that doesn't mean you should feel obligated to buy anything and everything because you feel they're being nice to you. The relationship stops being mutually beneficial if one party feels obliged to serve the other beyond the point of normal transactional requirements (like you feel forced to buy or they feel forced to work overtime to cater to you, for example).

Take a look at this thread again and really think about the responses you've received. As @880 and @Swanky have just pointed out- you need to draw boundaries and understand that you're not obliged to purchase stuff you don't want to. You're making a very expensive mistake with this approach and I'm sure you'll look back on it with regret if you don't correct your approach.

 

[Nobmaceur13]

A close friend works in one of the boutiques and their team do this, any pre arranged appointment with a good spending client is to be tailored to their taste offering a snapshot of the collection in items they think will interest you. They have styling experts who work with the SA to help elevate their appointment.