How to dodge the "how much did that purse cost" question?
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I normally say alot or i cant remember.
If its a close friend and they spend loads of money on designer clothes or glasses then i tell them, so if they do turn around and say 'WHAT?' i say well atleast im going to use mine for years to come unlike your clothes/glasses etc
If its a close friend and they spend loads of money on designer clothes or glasses then i tell them, so if they do turn around and say 'WHAT?' i say well atleast im going to use mine for years to come unlike your clothes/glasses etc
I respond "My hubby gifted me with this." You might also say My mom/dad/boyfriend gifted me with this.
It's none of their business what you spent on yourself.
It's none of their business what you spent on yourself.
Glad I see this topic as it gives me an outlet to vent. I was helping my friend advertise her Dior Denim Gaucho at my workplace garage sale board. I listed it at $480 as the bag is unused. A colleague called out to me as I was walking and asked me why would anyone pays $480 for a small piece of fabric when a pair of Levis jeans cost MUCH less. Might as well buy Levis jeans. And a few other colleagues laughed together with her. I just told her actual price was over USD1,000. She replied whoever spent so much on denim is crazy.
the best way to shut them up is to say it was a gift. or just tell them ALOT! which is the truth without giving a number. even if you told them the price, they wouldnt understand or justify spending that much money on a bag. if the same people are always asking you, eventually they will give up.
Sort of off topic, but Igot to thinking of this girl once who gave me a huge rant at a houseparty about my shoes... "look at your fancy shoes ms. fancy. How much were they, huh??? My shoes were only 20$ and theyre as nice as yours!!! blahblahblah
" I didnt answer but I must admit I choked a giggle when her heel snapped clean off 20 minutes later on her way down the stairs.:lolots: (she didnt get hurt, but pretty drenched in beer)
" I didnt answer but I must admit I choked a giggle when her heel snapped clean off 20 minutes later on her way down the stairs.:lolots: (she didnt get hurt, but pretty drenched in beer)
I don't see how it is rude to ask such a question if the person is genuinely interested in the bag and is a fan herself. I work for a major fashion designer label and my colleagues constantly discuss the prices of bags and what they carry etc. It's not asking about one's salary or how much one's apartment costs. Maybe it's the culture I live in but it's no big deal asking how much a bag costs.
On a similar note, a classmate was talking about her heels and I asked what brand it was..only the brand! And she dodged the question. Which is strange, considering how she brought the topic up. Anyway I didn't pursue the question. Unless she was trying to be humble because it is a designer brand and she thinks I'll find her extravagant, or she is wearing fakes/non-branded, and is embarrassed... I don't think think my question is at all rude, as I didn't bring up the topic of cost.
On a similar note, a classmate was talking about her heels and I asked what brand it was..only the brand! And she dodged the question. Which is strange, considering how she brought the topic up. Anyway I didn't pursue the question. Unless she was trying to be humble because it is a designer brand and she thinks I'll find her extravagant, or she is wearing fakes/non-branded, and is embarrassed... I don't think think my question is at all rude, as I didn't bring up the topic of cost.
Not to be a tacky girl....OK, maybe I am a tacky girl, but if I'm not familiar with a bag that I really like, I might politely ask a person how much it was, where they got it, etc., so that I could know if I could afford one. Frankly, I'm so bag obsessed, that there aren't many well known brands that I don't at least know the price range, but there are some that I've never seen or heard of. I'm not likely to ask about anything else, but PURSES are a whole different story for me. I wouldn't do it to embarass anyone, and I wouldn't do it loudly or in front of others, but I just don't see why it's such a big deal. I don't mind if a fellow bag-lover asks me. I guess it depends on your motive. Most of my friends just assume my bag cost a lot more than they would even consider paying, so they don't ask, but if one of YOU did, I'd be fine telling you. I LOVE talking about bags, and the few times I've found someone who cares, I was thrilled to chat about it.
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I would have been tempted to laugh back and mock ask, "What do you mean, you can't afford a luxury item? come on, show me your wallet!"
and keep walking....Sorry it happened to you... it's one thing to be asked privately, and one thing to offer facts straight before others, but for someone to cackle with others like hens in a chicken coop is a bit juvenile. Either she is the type that wants people to dish back, or it hits closer to home for her she really can't afford that kind of luxury. Who knows.
Honestly it depends on how the question is phrased. I've had strangers see my bag and be like "OMG! I love your purse! What brand is it? Where did you get it? How much is it?" Usually the two questions follow the price tag one. If that's the attitude, I am honest about it, usually because it seems they want to maybe get one themselves and want more information. If it seems confrontational or rude, I usually say something along the lines of "Honestly, that's not something I want to discuss with you," and punctuate it with a smile. Hopefully they'll get the idea and maybe reflect on the behavior.
With friends and family, I tell the truth. They love me and I don't have a reason to hide it. Even if some have expressed surprise-- my dad called one price "ridiculous"-- then I have plenty of honest reasons why I paid what I did. Some of it has lead to interesting conversations about product quality and location of manufacture and the issue of counterfeiting and copycat designs and human trafficking, etc. And of course with my mom we love to exchange shopping "war stories". LOL
With friends and family, I tell the truth. They love me and I don't have a reason to hide it. Even if some have expressed surprise-- my dad called one price "ridiculous"-- then I have plenty of honest reasons why I paid what I did. Some of it has lead to interesting conversations about product quality and location of manufacture and the issue of counterfeiting and copycat designs and human trafficking, etc. And of course with my mom we love to exchange shopping "war stories". LOL
