We are not formally engaged yet (i.e. I don't have a ring yet), but it took us well over 6 months of looking before I found what I absolutely loved. That was about a month, or maybe two months ago (but it feels like much longer!). When I tried it on my heart stopped - literally - and I became short of breath. The price was a touch more than he wanted to spend, but leaps and bounds more beautiful than anything of similar specs that we had looked at before and the setting more unique and of infinitely higher quality than all the others. We looked at dozens of different stones to find something in the exact range he wanted, but I wasn't moved by anything enough to feel good about such a chunk of money being spent on it. I have now stopped talking about the ring and tried to stop thinking about it too. I told him I didn't want to look anymore and that he needed to take over (he had wanted me to shop with him in the beginning). I don't know what he will end up with, but I hope it will be a simple band if it is not the ring that took my breath away. If I had to do it all over again, I would leave it to him completely and never agree to shop around with him. It is hard to find the ring that steals your mind and then fret over whether it will sell to someone else. I think it is much nicer to have no expectations and to just be surprised.