How do other people react to your love for LV?

[Purse FanGirl]

It was my dream too and Im glad its one of my dream that came true. I just experienced this twice and the experience was equally great! I was so happy then. Right now, ill try to venture on the preowned market to save some money. Im trying to buy the bags I wish to have while I still have no kids because once I do, its all about them. My friends too are not into high end bags and are more into coach and mk and I dont think they believe that anyone would buy a thousand dollar bag or even exists. They find it rather ridiculous. Sometimes it makes me feel embarrassed. Hey, i dont spend on lavish vacations or cars. If They combine all their coach/ mk bags they would probably be able to buy an LV. Besides, i know they can afford it but they just chose not to. So its my choice where to spend my money right?

I have quite the issue with my sister. She chooses to spend her money on partying, and has nothing left over to treat herself to, such as a nice handbag, let alone paying all her bills. This partying costs her about 400$ a month. At first I would feel bad carrying a nice purse around her, and the only LV I will actually carry around her is my vintage Speedy. There was ALWAYS a comment followed by eye rolling.

About a year ago she actually told me that when I get bored of the purse I was wearing that day I can "give it to her". My response was that we both spend the same amount of money every month...I just choose to spend mine on something tangible that I can pass down to my daughters some day. At least I have something to show for my money. The comments stopped completely from that point forward.

Tagged this comment because for those who are following Coach lately know that they have been stepping up their game with their limited edition 1941 collection. Exotic bags, quality designs, etc. My favorite bag is actually a $1500 Tea Rose Rogue. It's to die for. Someday my daughters will be fighting over that and the Louie.

 

[Sonmi999]

Judging from some of the responses on here, I think it really depends on where you live to how people "react" to your obsession.

I think there is truth to this. I have a friend who lives in a small southern state in the USA. She went to NYC and bought some Canal street LV fakes. Her friends and family harassed her so much for the trip and bringing back LV. She explained that it was fake but they still made rude comments. And not that it was a tacky fake but that who did she think she was and they wouldn't waste money. She threw the bag out. Which is for the best but still crazy how people get jealous and over a fake no less.

There's also another point: security. I live in a very dangerous city and in a country where most of the population doesn't really have much money. I love monogram, but every time I carry a monogram bag I get paranoid if I'm walking alone. I still carry my monogram bags, because I love them, but it takes quite some nerve.

This is a great thread, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic . At the age of 5 I got my first little $5 purse that my parents had me pick out to match my favorite outfit, and that was the day a monster was created. I've been known as a handbag lover since. I'm the only person in my family who loves purses though and I find myself making sure to switch out of my fancier/noticeable LVs before visiting certain family members who are hurting a bit more from the economy. It makes me feel bad that one of my bags is a couple months rent for them and I don't want to stroll into their homes flashing designer goods. I know they won't judge me, but I don't want to be in-their-face.
I'll never forget, right after I moved out of my parents' house I visited my childhood best friend, and I had just graduated college and gotten my life started- I walked into her parents' house to visit her with my first LV monogram speedy 25 in hand. She gave me a look that could've killed. I couldn't believe it. I knew right away she was thinking I was walking in with a chip on my shoulder. As I sat down and we caught up, she started telling me how her family was hurting financially and it was the hardest time of their lives- I immediately had a moment of awareness where I realized how I changed the energy of the meetup by walking in with this bag. I tried to change the energy back by engaging in our normal sister-like conversation, but wasn't successful. She ended up insulting me very bluntly. (In short, our friendship phased out after about a year because she started changing towards me after I graduated and started building my life).
So what is a healthy level of empathy for others' financial situations AND compassion for oneself enough to enjoy what we've earned in life?-- I pondered the thought. And after much consideration, I told myself that I didn't walk into her home dripping in diamonds or with my bank account statement attached to my forehead. I genuinely enjoy handbags, as I find them an extension of my personality. I don't buy them for the latest trend. I buy them because I love the look and comfort. For this reason, I'm going to enjoy them.
That day was an eye-opener for me though. Because I genuinely care about everyone in my life, I now put as much consideration into my bag for the day as I do making plans or putting together my outfit for the day- I make a conscious effort to not insult anyone and just stay mindful of who I'm going to be seeing and where I'll be going. I find my Epi and Damier LV is very understated and I like to use them if I'm going to be around someone who's hurting a bit more financially. I'm not going to not use my good stuff, but I don't need to walk into a family members house who's truly struggling with monogram LV.
So, for me, I love handbags and that's just fine because it's an act of self compassion to be kind and generous to ourselves. At the same time, if I ever sense that I may insult or offend with my luxury items, the bolder ones just stay home that day and out come the understated LVs. But I'm going to go to the grave with a purse collection, because I've come a long way in life from that $5 purse at the age of 5 .

I found this so enlightening. Thanks for sharing!!

 

[Mcandy]

I have quite the issue with my sister. She chooses to spend her money on partying, and has nothing left over to treat herself to, such as a nice handbag, let alone paying all her bills. This partying costs her about 400$ a month. At first I would feel bad carrying a nice purse around her, and the only LV I will actually carry around her is my vintage Speedy. There was ALWAYS a comment followed by eye rolling.

About a year ago she actually told me that when I get bored of the purse I was wearing that day I can "give it to her". My response was that we both spend the same amount of money every month...I just choose to spend mine on something tangible that I can pass down to my daughters some day. At least I have something to show for my money. The comments stopped completely from that point forward.

Tagged this comment because for those who are following Coach lately know that they have been stepping up their game with their limited edition 1941 collection. Exotic bags, quality designs, etc. My favorite bag is actually a $1500 Tea Rose Rogue. It's to die for. Someday myView attachment 3433364 daughters will be fighting over that and the Louie.

After commenting and the eye roll she had the guts to asked for your bag once you get bored? Wow the nerve..i dont like to spend on partying either..Id rather have a nice bag.

 

[Purse FanGirl]

After commenting and the eye roll she had the guts to asked for your bag once you get bored? Wow the nerve..i dont like to spend on partying either..Id rather have a nice bag.

Her comment to me actually got an eye roll from my hubby too based on the same as your observation...(him thinking "boy that took a lot of nerve!")

The eye rolls and comments have stopped for awhile now. Ever since I pointed out that we all make different choices in life as to how to spend our money, and my choice is to spend it on something tangible that myself or others I love can someday enjoy, it shut her down immediately. That was a year ago.

 

[slyyls]

My friends are all for me loving LV; but my sister has a problem with me. She prefers to carry fakes, and believe me they are bad ones.
I'm so happy I bought my LV business trolly, as I now look forward to travelling for business; which I do often; even if I'm just driving to another city. I love wheeling in my bag, and pulling out my computer at a meeting.

 

[APhiJill]

Some of them think im insane wasting money on luxury bags, including my husband ...

My mother is this way. Thank goodness my husband doesn't know how much they cost...he'd have a stroke

 

[APhiJill]

Wow. What a snide comment. Some family members lose their manners at Thanksgiving.

Holidays, weddings, funerals and family reunions...someone is always gonna show out, act a fool and/or say something tacky

 

[Mcandy]

Her comment to me actually got an eye roll from my hubby too based on the same as your observation...(him thinking "boy that took a lot of nerve!")

The eye rolls and comments have stopped for awhile now. Ever since I pointed out that we all make different choices in life as to how to spend our money, and my choice is to spend it on something tangible that myself or others I love can someday enjoy, it shut her down immediately. That was a year ago.

At least she got your point! Hope it continues to..because its very hard to enjoy your bag with people making uncalled for opinion.

 

[LVLoveaffair]

Haha! It reminds me of that I Love Lucy episode where she explains to Ethel that she cannot wear her new dress for a couple of months - that way when Ricky says "Is that a new dress??" she can say "No! It's been hanging in the closet for months." I kind of do that - I do not use my newest items around my family for a while so that I can honestly say no when my Mom asks "Did you just buy another purse??"

I do the same thing! Lol DH will ask- is that a new bag? And I just say No, I've had this one a while! He knows that I sell my bags though-and the one bag in one bag out rule - so I don't feel too guilty [emoji846]

 

[sorridi]

After commenting and the eye roll she had the guts to asked for your bag once you get bored? Wow the nerve..i dont like to spend on partying either..Id rather have a nice bag.

I can identify with this! Bags sounds much more tangible to me.. (although I believe that nothing's quite permanently tangible)

 

[LVLoveaffair]

I don't have any friends or co workers that are true bag lovers so I tend not to discuss bags/prices. At work it can be dicey because I refuse to stop carrying my LV. Sometimes there's looks or comments but I just try to ignore them. In my family, I have one sister who only just got into LV and there's one that is totally jealous and complains to my mom about "all my new bags". My in-laws are pretty wealthy but VERY frugal when it comes to clothes, shoes and bags. They spend money on new cars, boats, jewelry and vacations. So I try to stay under the radar with my bags. But, one time I carried my Black MC Petit Noe when my mother in law and I went to lunch and the movies. She looked at my bag and said - what kind of bag is that? I told her and she said " Oh, you shouldn't carry that - people will think you're rich!"
Meanwhile, she's wearing tons of yellow gold jewelry along with two huge diamond rings....

 

[Mcandy]

I don't have any friends or co workers that are true bag lovers so I tend not to discuss bags/prices. At work it can be dicey because I refuse to stop carrying my LV. Sometimes there's looks or comments but I just try to ignore them. In my family, I have one sister who only just got into LV and there's one that is totally jealous and complains to my mom about "all my new bags". My in-laws are pretty wealthy but VERY frugal when it comes to clothes, shoes and bags. They spend money on new cars, boats, jewelry and vacations. So I try to stay under the radar with my bags. But, one time I carried my Black MC Petit Noe when my mother in law and I went to lunch and the movies. She looked at my bag and said - what kind of bag is that? I told her and she said " Oh, you shouldn't carry that - people will think you're rich!"
Meanwhile, she's wearing tons of yellow gold jewelry along with two huge diamond rings....

Lol i think thieves are more attracted to jewelry than bags lol

 

[Akhira]

I feel like this story is appropriate for this thread:
Should I be upset that a family member went and brought an LV a week after me?

Okay, listen...
So, I have a family member who is ...(trying to be nice) very cheap.
They would NEVER EVER spend a lot of money on material goods - much less - purses or shoes. I even remember them saying once that people who spend tons of money on a bag are ridiculous and just want to show off. "My $20 bag works just the same."

Two weeks ago, I brought my very first LV.
She and a few other family members "liked" my photo on Facebook.
Next thing I know... who is in THE SAME EXACT LV STORE - buying a bag?

Now, I'm not saying that I have any special rights or anything (because I am new to this brand myself)... I am not one of those "nobody-else-can-have-what-I-have" people. I admire people who have luxury items. I just find this whole situation funny, considering the type of person that she is.

What are you guys' thoughts on this?
Has this ever happened to you?

 

[Divalish]

I feel like this story is appropriate for this thread:
Should I be upset that a family member went and brought an LV a week after me?

Okay, listen...
So, I have a family member who is ...(trying to be nice) very cheap.
They would NEVER EVER spend a lot of money on material goods - much less - purses or shoes. I even remember them saying once that people who spend tons of money on a bag are ridiculous and just want to show off. "My $20 bag works just the same."

Two weeks ago, I brought my very first LV.
She and a few other family members "liked" my photo on Facebook.
Next thing I know... who is in THE SAME EXACT LV STORE - buying a bag?

Now, I'm not saying that I have any special rights or anything (because I am new to this brand myself)... I am not one of those "nobody-else-can-have-what-I-have" people. I admire people who have luxury items. I just find this whole situation funny, considering the type of person that she is.

What are you guys' thoughts on this?
Has this ever happened to you?

It's annoying, yes, but it's well within her right to purchase the same bag. This kind of thing happens fairly often, where someone bashes the purchasing of expensive goods, but then sees someone close to them got one, then justifies the purchase for themselves.
On a separate note, I would NEVER post about my purchases on a venue that is not "anonymous". You're asking for it posting about expensive purchases on Facebook. It's similar to posting about going on vacation. You never know who is reading it and who may have bad intentions.

 

[Akhira]

It's annoying, yes, but it's well within her right to purchase the same bag. This kind of thing happens fairly often, where someone bashes the purchasing of expensive goods, but then sees someone close to them got one, then justifies the purchase for themselves.
On a separate note, I would NEVER post about my purchases on a venue that is not "anonymous". You're asking for it posting about expensive purchases on Facebook. It's similar to posting about going on vacation. You never know who is reading it and who may have bad intentions.

You are absolutely right, Divalish.

I was really upset about it when I saw that she had purchased an LV as well, however, she had just as much right / purchasing power as I had. Who's to say she wasn't eyeing it for a while as well? All along, I had just been assuming... and you know what they say about that

& I did not post a picture of my Neverfull, just a picture of me outside of the store holding my very first LV shopping bag... I was very excited (and I'll admit, I wanted to show off a bit, lol)

...but now I know... I'll just keep pictures of goodies to share with TPF