How can i convince a friend that fake is NOT OK!!

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kuromi

kuromi

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Jun 11, 2007
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#1
Hi all, I m feeling really frustrated over a discussion with a friend who thinks fake chanel is ok !!

She doesn't own any designer bags, which i believe this is why she doesn't feel that buying a real bag is so important to bag lovers like us!

She is now reasoning with me that people pay so much money for a real bag of cause should be because of the good quality of the bag. So if the fake has superb quality , isn't it silly for people to get the real thing for so much money then? :shocked:

I tried to tell her it's not because of quality (well as we know, not all designer bags have superb quality), it's because of the DESIGN too.

Arrghh . This is really getting on my nerves! How should i convince her?! :shrugs:
 
#2
Ugh! So frustrating. At one point I thought that it was fine to wear fakes however I would never end up wearing them because I felt so fake!
Get her to read the book "How Luxury Lost it's Luster" I can't remember the author but it gives great info on how the production of fakes supports all kinds of illegal activity!
 
#3
You can't. She's entitled to her own opinions. Next time you have a discussion, just brush it off and say no comment. Or, change the topic... She's your friend, remember? :D
 
#4
Honestly? You can't. I agree with your perspective however many people do not. This is one of those topics that in my experience, just like politics or abortion, it just tends to bring out strong POVs from people that are just not going to be easily changed.
 
#5
i feel like with some people, you just can't argue with them.
and i personally would stop just because you can end your friendship. she might think that you're trying to be a snob and telling her that she might not be worthy of your friendship because she cannot afford the real bag or what not. you never know what's really going on in their minds.
 
#6
That's always difficult as it's very much a personal choice. But I think getting exposed to the real stuff and seeing the differences in quality REALLY helps. When I first started exploring designer bags I came across A LOT of messages (from websites, friends etc) that the high-grade replicas are ok and JUST AS GOOD as the real thing, and almost fell into the trap. But after a while I realised that was not the case at all. On top of that there are all these moral issues about supporting counterfeit trade, so I chose to steer clear of them. It took a while at the beginning though. So for someone who's "new", it helps to have the right guidance :yes:
 
#7
IF IF IF I am asked or the subject comes up, I say something like

"I personally do not knowingly support ANY illegal activity and I'm sure if you realized it is illegal, you wouldn't either"

I don't get into the quality discussion because, frankly, I think (with some exceptions) it is irrelevant

Olga
 
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#8
kuromi, there's no right or wrong on this. I know it's a bit shocking for me to say this but I have had this view for a long time.

I don't buy fakes but for those who do, I am not going to stand on any high-moral ground by saying that that's wrong. At the end of the day, if the bag is going to make her happy, hey, why not?
 
#9
MIffy27 said:
kuromi, there's no right or wrong on this. I know it's a bit shocking for me to say this but I have had this view for a long time.

I don't buy fakes but for those who do, I am not going to stand on any high-moral ground by saying that that's wrong. At the end of the day, if the bag is going to make her happy, hey, why not?
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I have to agree. I mean, if it makes her happy, why not? Though this does remind me of that thread where someone...can't remember who...posted that article about how wearing fake designer bags can mean low moral standards or something like that...
 
#10
Yikkie said:
But I think getting exposed to the real stuff and seeing the differences in quality REALLY helps.
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I agree on this.
I had parents who did not understand why I would bother spending money on such expensive things when a replica is less than half the price. But after giving them the real items, and taking them to the boutiques, they can never look at replicas/fakes every again. But turn away from in disgust if they see people selling them because they can't believe there is such a huge difference between the fakes and the reals.

Now they are supportive of me buying authentic items.

I think the OP's friend needs to be exposed to more of these. But don't end friendships over these, I also have friends who never understands and flaunt their fakes around, but it is their choice, if it makes them happy, I'd be happy. I might not like it, but friendships are more important than handbags at the end of the day.
 
#11
Just say, "I'd be so embarassed if people knows that I'm carrying a fake Chanel. Can you imagine the kind of stares you'll get from everyone if people knows you're carrying a fake. It's not just about the quality. How do you feel if someone copies your work?";)

If she's still arguing with you after this, just let her be.:yes: And say, "Well, I have shame:shame: so that's why I don't carry a fake. If you have no shame, then...look at her"...smile and leave.;)

I hoped your friendship do not turn sour over this. Proudly carry your Chanel, kuromi.:flowers:
 
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MIffy27 said:
kuromi, there's no right or wrong on this. I know it's a bit shocking for me to say this but I have had this view for a long time.

I don't buy fakes but for those who do, I am not going to stand on any high-moral ground by saying that that's wrong. At the end of the day, if the bag is going to make her happy, hey, why not?
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I agree with Miffy27 - each to their own and you really cannot convince someone of something like this! Best thing to do is to state that you do not agree with it and agree to disagree.
 
#14
IFFAH said:
If she's still arguing with you after this, just let her be.:yes: And say, "Well, I have shame:shame: so that's why I don't carry a fake. If you have no shame, then...look at her"...smile and leave.;)
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I could never humiliate my friend that way just because she has a preference for fake handbags. I think that's taking it a bit too far to get a point across.

I had an unusual experience with one of my friends who actually has a fake Balenciaga from China with better quality leather than my real one. I compared it and I was so shocked.

I wasn't going to ruin my friendship because she got a fake bag, or make her feel bad about buying one as long as she doesn't buy it for me.

There is a joy of saving up for a bag and going to the store to get it, that your friend will never experience. I feel bad for her, but I'm not going to loose sleep over it.
 
#15
It's not easy to convince people to change their thinking and mndset on certain issues that they have already strongly believed in.

Since she criticises you of buying authentic bags, best is to leave this friend.. Why make yourself feel troubled over her.. She does not respect your decision of buying authentic bags, I don't think you need to let her climb on top of you.

Not asking you to abandon this friendship straightforward, but you can think through and see if she is really worth to be your friend. Maybe she felt insecure that you have authentic bags and so she said those words to make herself feel better.

Personally, if my friend carries fake bag, I'm okay with it because each to her own and everyone has their preferences. However, if my friend criticises or made crude remarks like saying "people buy authentic bags are silly, wasting big sum of money on just a bag, so what authentic bags are made of good quality, fake bags today can also made good quality, somemore 1/8 of the price of the real bag" I too will get upset by her remarks. If my friend does not respect me, I don't think i need to do the same to her..
 
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