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[eagle1002us]

Beautiful bunnycat.

Having lost my mother 20 years ago in August, please let me share this thought with you. Love you all and not being preachy honestly. Guess it's getting to me again but:

Let's remember that aging is a privilege.

You're all beautiful and aging beautifully. Don't be afraid to age, or see it as anything but a blessing. My mother was 64. So unfair but there it is. My hope for all of us is that we age beautifully.

There are so many baby-boomers stumbling around in my area that none of us stick out in the way we have aged. Graying or gray hair is the new normal.

 

[bunnycat]

Thank you all for so kindly including me in the conversation! I really enjoy the thought provocation (and need it some days!)

Both looks are really nice bunnycat. I would love a link to that thread if you have time. It sounds interesting.

Hmmmm... I could think about that exercise. Stepping out of my comfort zone makes me... well... uncomfortable. But I I should try.

I'll try to find it. It has probably shuffled off the front page by now and I can't remember which device I was on when reading it.

Bunnycat, you wear your scarves so beautifully. That one with the Mors ring is gorgeously flattering on you. And the yellow is a beautiful scarf too.

Oh yeah- Super H is right up my alley! And thank you!

Beautiful bunnycat.

Having lost my mother 20 years ago in August, please let me share this thought with you. Love you all and not being preachy honestly. Guess it's getting to me again but:

Let's remember that aging is a privilege.

You're all beautiful and aging beautifully. Don't be afraid to age, or see it as anything but a blessing. My mother was 64. So unfair but there it is. My hope for all of us is that we age beautifully.

Beautifully put Pirula. And maybe subconsciously, this is another reason I try not to think of scarves as an "age" thing but more of a stylisitic choice.

Running wildly counter to the whole "scarves are for old ladies" idea that I am sure is prevalent in the "regular" world, my mom would be exhibit A. She likes scarves, can't stand to have a lot of fabric near her face and so will only wear a twilly or pocket square (moussie pocket squares being the scarf of choice) and she is in her 70s, and honestly, I could see her styling a 90....it's just not her. The pocket squares look great though!

My grandma always had a little scarf collection (no H) but in the traditional Grace Kelley tie it around your head to keep your hair in place fashion. (We sadly lost her at too far young an age of 84. She was a very active gardener all the way up to the day she passed from a stroke. Miss her still.)

I am slowly becoming more accepting of my age. Recently resorted to "shapewear" for a slinky dress I wore. Still get mad I can only dance an hour before my feet hurt too much now, and wait?!?! Is that saggy skin near my ears???? OMG! Stahhpp! I need to go buy some more wrinkle cream...

It's an adjustment to see you with a big (relatively speaking) fluffy scarf in a bright color. It's like a big cowl when you normally wear (figuratively speaking) form-fitting turtlenecks.
(How interesting that you like Austrian artists).

I do! Hmmm...could it be genetic??? My family moved from Austria to US in the early 1900s.

 

[Cordeliere]

Let's remember that aging is a privilege.

What a great message.

 

[bunnycat]

Both looks are really nice bunnycat. I would love a link to that thread if you have time. It sounds interesting.

Hmmmm... I could think about that exercise. Stepping out of my comfort zone makes me... well... uncomfortable. But I I should try.

https://forum.purseblog.com/threads...all-by-themselves.969453/page-5#post-31555147

Here you go PbP- It was still floating around on front page. I have enjoyed the read.

 

[eagle1002us]

Thank you all for so kindly including me in the conversation! I really enjoy the thought provocation (and need it some days!)




I'll try to find it. It has probably shuffled off the front page by now and I can't remember which device I was on when reading it.



Oh yeah- Super H is right up my alley! And thank you!



Beautifully put Pirula. And maybe subconsciously, this is another reason I try not to think of scarves as an "age" thing but more of a stylisitic choice.

Running wildly counter to the whole "scarves are for old ladies" idea that I am sure is prevalent in the "regular" world, my mom would be exhibit A. She likes scarves, can't stand to have a lot of fabric near her face and so will only wear a twilly or pocket square (moussie pocket squares being the scarf of choice) and she is in her 70s, and honestly, I could see her styling a 90....it's just not her. The pocket squares look great though!

My grandma always had a little scarf collection (no H) but in the traditional Grace Kelley tie it around your head to keep your hair in place fashion. (We sadly lost her at too far young an age of 84. She was a very active gardener all the way up to the day she passed from a stroke. Miss her still.)

I am slowly becoming more accepting of my age. Recently resorted to "shapewear" for a slinky dress I wore. Still get mad I can only dance an hour before my feet hurt too much now, and wait?!?! Is that saggy skin near my ears???? OMG! Stahhpp! I need to go buy some more wrinkle cream...



I do! Hmmm...could it be genetic??? My family moved from Austria to US in the early 1900s.

My grandfather, who passed rather early in life, was from a part of Austria that is now Poland. From my reading in WW1 history, I figured out that that area was called Galicia. Here's what Wikipedia says:
"The Kingdom of Galicia and Lodomeria, also known as Galicia or Austrian Poland, became a crownland of the Habsburg Monarchy as a result of the First Partition of Poland in 1772, when it became a Kingdom under Habsburg rule."

 

[Cordeliere]

Thank you all for so kindly including me in the conversation! I really enjoy the thought provocation (and need it some days!)

It is a delight to have your join us.

 

[bunnycat]

My grandfather, who passed rather early in life, was from a part of Austria that is now Poland. From my reading in WW1 history, I figured out that that area was called Galicia. Here's what Wikipedia says:
"The Kingdom of Galicia and Lodomeria, also known as Galicia or Austrian Poland, became a crownland of the Habsburg Monarchy as a result of the First Partition of Poland in 1772, when it became a Kingdom under Habsburg rule."

I wish my family knew the specifics, but I'm not sure that any do. I do know my family came here around WW1.

 

[EmileH]

Thanks for the link bunnycat. I'll have fun reading this.

Cordie I agree, my SA who I thought was so good at choosing scarves has lead me to some that aren't my favorites. I think I do better on my own. I know what I like.

 

[momasaurus]

I can't do the 1/2 tuck, it reminds me of the 80s. And I have no desire to revisit it.



I don't find my 90s to be aging, although if I wear them with a scarf ring they look a bit more polished and formal. I agree with the comments stating that your overall style will definitely influence how the 90 comes across.

We're still packing and moving, I'm going to take this opportunity to count my scarves and will post later with the results. My guess is 15 or so 90s, 4 shawls, 2 pareos, 2 mousseline, 1 giant silk, and few smaller silks. Let's see how close I am.

My other 2 dresses arrived, I am now waiting on a Maison Mayle dress from Barney's. I went a bit cuckoo for dresses. I'll try to post some small pics here, the first dress is Antik Batik, 2nd is Apiece Apart (worn over an off-white J Crew tank), 3rd is Des Demoiselles, the 4th is a swimsuit coverup also by Des D, for the sake of modesty I have shown it worn over the slip that comes with dress #3. The slip is actually cute enough to wear on its own as well. Please excuse the cropping and blurring, it's a mess here at the moment. View attachment 3780802 View attachment 3780803 View attachment 3780805 View attachment 3780806 View attachment 3780807

These look great, and I wouldn't mind bigger pictures actually.

 

[scarf1]

You do not look old scarf1!



I'd agree with this. I don't like to think in terms of aging (Queen of De Nile speaking here...) but when it comes to scarves and clothing choices, I do think in terms of ways of wearing (or clothing choices) that present as "conservative".

There's another thread on here I happened to be reading the other day, about styling a scarf for business and there was a post that stood out nicely. A poster (who is a doctor) styled the same scarf 2 ways (casually and for work). She had it around her neck cowboy style for the casual look (which looks too conservative on me most times I've tried it) and then tucked in a blouse with a very open collar, which I thought looked very elegant and had no age to it at all really, fairly timeless.

One thing from college I remember and still use versions of was from a n art class. When drawing, people have a certain "style" that influences them (for me it has always been Gustav Klimt and Georgia O'Keefe) and so one week we were given the task of spending an entire week working in some other style that we considered very different to our own. I chose Egon Schiele because it was darker to me. I still use this idea from time to time in other things and it even makes a good scarf/clothing exercise!

In this way you might be able to alter something that you might find to conservative (like for me it is cowboy ties on me) and make them work.

Here is my example from this week's SOTD. I was wearing this mousse PM in a sort of cowboy drape, and it looks alright, but a little too conservative for me if I had to put a name to it.

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But, here is a 70 tied with a Mor's ring (Did we name this the Bellagio Knot? And was this the one I said I would add to the How to Tie your Scarf thread???) Love the drape this way!
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Bunny- thanks for saying I don't look old! That made my day.

 

[momasaurus]

Getting caught up on this thread.... 90s are aging? Oh no! Ok if you are already old like me....does it matter?
I have more 90s than any other format, because many designs look best in that format, and there are so many choices in that format. I need to check on my usage spreadsheet this week. I have been tracking for the last 12 months....

Same here. I was really depressed to read all the posts about the 90s aging, and I went to bed without finishing the thread. Happy to wake up and read more defenses of the 90s. Well, as others have said, I AM OLD. Anyway, I'm wearing a 90 at the moment, tied messily twice around my neck. The rest of the outfit is from Gap. I am very comfortable with the look.
Curious about your usage, scarf1. What did you learn? (I have not managed to track my scarf wearing, so I admire you.)

 

[momasaurus]

You do not look old scarf1!



I'd agree with this. I don't like to think in terms of aging (Queen of De Nile speaking here...) but when it comes to scarves and clothing choices, I do think in terms of ways of wearing (or clothing choices) that present as "conservative".

There's another thread on here I happened to be reading the other day, about styling a scarf for business and there was a post that stood out nicely. A poster (who is a doctor) styled the same scarf 2 ways (casually and for work). She had it around her neck cowboy style for the casual look (which looks too conservative on me most times I've tried it) and then tucked in a blouse with a very open collar, which I thought looked very elegant and had no age to it at all really, fairly timeless.

One thing from college I remember and still use versions of was from a n art class. When drawing, people have a certain "style" that influences them (for me it has always been Gustav Klimt and Georgia O'Keefe) and so one week we were given the task of spending an entire week working in some other style that we considered very different to our own. I chose Egon Schiele because it was darker to me. I still use this idea from time to time in other things and it even makes a good scarf/clothing exercise!

In this way you might be able to alter something that you might find to conservative (like for me it is cowboy ties on me) and make them work.

Here is my example from this week's SOTD. I was wearing this mousse PM in a sort of cowboy drape, and it looks alright, but a little too conservative for me if I had to put a name to it.

View attachment 3781504

But, here is a 70 tied with a Mor's ring (Did we name this the Bellagio Knot? And was this the one I said I would add to the How to Tie your Scarf thread???) Love the drape this way!
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Both are awesome looks on you, bunny!

 

[Genie27]

Oh no, moma and scarf1. I'm so sorry!!!

I was one of those inadvertent ageists, and I will try not to put my foot in my mouth any further by trying to explain the very personal intangibles for my specific usage. I have greatly enjoyed all your beautiful scarves and mod shots. They made these silks come alive and it has greatly contributed to the visual joy I feel when I come here.

 

[Cordeliere]

Same here. I was really depressed to read all the posts about the 90s aging, and I went to bed without finishing the thread. Happy to wake up and read more defenses of the 90s. Well, as others have said, I AM OLD. Anyway, I'm wearing a 90 at the moment, tied messily twice around my neck. The rest of the outfit is from Gap. I am very comfortable with the look.
Curious about your usage, scarf1. What did you learn? (I have not managed to track my scarf wearing, so I admire you.)

If anyone exudes insouciance, it is you, with your casually but stylishly worn, endless supply of scarves and trims.

And did I mention your fabulous hair, which you call gray, but I call platinum blond.

 

[eagle1002us]

I wish my family knew the specifics, but I'm not sure that any do. I do know my family came here around WW1.

I think mine did too. I don't know about you, bunnycat, but I'm feeling quite royal today since I read that Galacia was a Hapsburg kingdom. I need an appropriate HS to celebrate this. There's Salzburg but maybe the "Crowns" HS will do. The Crowns HS is rather generic but in some colors it's quite pretty.

BTW, I asked you once about some lampwork beads changing color over time. They are either a medium soft green or a rust color and both are turning into the same color, which I am not sure how to name. Have you seen this before? It's not a disaster, I just would like to understand how beads being almost 20 years old could do that.