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[Mindi B]

The idea of "taking one's time" conveying elegance is intriguing. To me, the key to the Power of Slow is the confidence it projects. (That's what struck me about Christine Baranski's appearance at that podium--her upright, forward-leaning posture and the way she is openly meeting the eyes of the audience just screamed self-confidence to me.) Slow suggests an assurance that others will wait for you, will hang on your words until you finish. I have done zero research, but I bet if the speed of peoples' speech was assessed, say in meetings, men would speak more slowly than women. Pressured speech and movement indicates anxiety and insecurity ("I'm so unimportant that there's no reason for you to hear me out soletmesaythisrealfast.")
Really interesting subject, prepster.
I. . . will. . . work. . . on. . . slowing. . . down. Sometimes when we act "as if," the quality we're mimicking actually comes our way!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

I suppose y'all saw this: http://www.cbsnews.com/news/380000-for-a-handbag-hermes-purse-shatters-auction-record/?ftag=COS-05-10aaa0g&utm_campaign=trueAnthem: Trending Content&utm_content=592f8769f1291200073b95b4&utm_medium=trueAnthem&utm_source=twitter

Word gets around when you're a collector: Yesterday, someone I just barely know asked me if I was the one who bought this bag.

 

[EmileH]

Word gets around when you're a collector: Yesterday, someone I just barely know asked me if I was the one who bought this bag.

Haha! I hope it was you. [emoji2]

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Haha! I hope it was you. [emoji2]

Unfortunately, it was not me.

 

[chicinthecity777]

Word gets around when you're a collector: Yesterday, someone I just barely know asked me if I was the one who bought this bag.

You should have told them you actually bought half a dozen of those.

 

[prepster]

The idea of "taking one's time" conveying elegance is intriguing. To me, the key to the Power of Slow is the confidence it projects. (That's what struck me about Christine Baranski's appearance at that podium--her upright, forward-leaning posture and the way she is openly meeting the eyes of the audience just screamed self-confidence to me.) Slow suggests an assurance that others will wait for you, will hang on your words until you finish. I have done zero research, but I bet if the speed of peoples' speech was assessed, say in meetings, men would speak more slowly than women. Pressured speech and movement indicates anxiety and insecurity ("I'm so unimportant that there's no reason for you to hear me out soletmesaythisrealfast.")
Really interesting subject, prepster.
I. . . will. . . work. . . on. . . slowing. . . down. Sometimes when we act "as if," the quality we're mimicking actually comes our way!

I think everything you have said makes perfect sense (as usual) and is probably quite accurate. Women are frequently encouraged to be smaller, hurry up, move along--as in...take up less space and time. DH never hurries. Isn't that crazy? I don't think it even enters his thinking that the universe would not wait on him to form a thought, speak, act, arrive somewhere, whatever. And he thinks (I'm guessing) that if he does get there late or circumstances don't provide him enough time, that he'll just deal with it--no biggie. Lol! So when a woman defies expectations by speaking slowly, moving slowly and taking up actual physical space it makes people do a double-take. The funny thing is that he will say to me (when I have some long story or explanation) could you just summarize that for me. Aaaargh. It makes me crazy. I will say "NO. I can't. You can just sit there gosh darn it and pay attention." He just grins. Lololol.

I agree about the acting "as if" principle!

 

[Genie27]

Prepster, I'm 5'0. I wear jewelry all the time. But, I'm slightly top heavy, so very dainty pieces don't work on me. I like mid to chunky for around my fave, and more delicate around my wrists as they are very skinny.

I enjoy wearing jewelry- sometimes the same pieces for years, then for a while I will rotate all kinds of things. But I will adorn both wrists, neckline and ears. No rings from habit.

 

[Genie27]

Women are frequently encouraged to be smaller, hurry up, move along--as in...take up less space and time.

Yes!!! I had to *learn* to take up space - I took an acting class (to learn how), and while I could *see* it from my coach and a couple of class mates, it was very hard work to put into action.

Every now and then, I will notice that I have started to give way again, and I have to re-group.

 

[etoile de mer]

Hi honey! Good to see you too! Your hugs and tummy rubs to Harry have been delivered and happily received the other day! Was thinking about dropping you a line about this.

Hi darling! Many thanks for delivering and so glad to hear they were well received by adorable Harry!

 

[mistikat]

I just finished watching The Young Pope. Weird but interesting. Does anyone have some good binge watching shows they'd recommend?

 

[prepster]

I just finished watching The Young Pope. Weird but interesting. Does anyone have some good binge watching shows they'd recommend?

If you like food and or travel: Chef's Table, and Chef's Table France. Phenomenal Netflix original series...so addictive. Also: Grace and Frankie, Sherlock, The Crown, Medici Masters of Florence (That one is hard to watch just one).

 

[mistikat]

If you like food and or travel: Chef's Table, and Chef's Table France. Phenomenal Netflix original series. Addictive.
Also: Grace and Frankie, Sherlock, The Crown, Medici Masters of Florence (That one is hard to watch just one).

Thanks! I've watched Grace and Frankie (live!) and The Crown but will check out the others. I've heard The Keepers is interesting (at least I think that's the name) but haven't really looked into it.

 

[Newton5817]

Thanks! I've watched Grace and Frankie (live!) and The Crown but will check out the others. I've heard The Keepers is interesting (at least I think that's the name) but haven't really looked into it.

I have HBO on my iPad and recommend (if you like mystery):

The Jinx
Big, Little Lies
The Night Of

 

[lulilu]

The new season of House of Cards is being released.

 

[prepster]

Thanks! I've watched Grace and Frankie (live!) and The Crown but will check out the others. I've heard The Keepers is interesting (at least I think that's the name) but haven't really looked into it.

DH talked me into watching the Medici series one evening. I didn't think I would like it but it was so good, he went up to bed and I was still watching episodes. Lots of interesting art, artists and architecture, family rivalries historically based, and the interaction of the Medicis with the Pope and Florence in general. A lot about Brunelleschi and his dome of the Cathedral and how that got built.

Yes!!! I had to *learn* to take up space - I took an acting class (to learn how), and while I could *see* it from my coach and a couple of class mates, it was very hard work to put into action.

Every now and then, I will notice that I have started to give way again, and I have to re-group.

That is interesting Genie, about the acting classes. I can see how that helps. Just the way she stands at the podium, as Mindi pointed out with her arms spread wide. She takes up a lot of space! Which seems at once confident and surprisingly warm and gracious.