Oh Cremel, that's hearbreaking! It is a phase, but it still must hurt seeing your baby in such distress. Hopefully soon he'll find friends to play and enjoy his time there.
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Oh Cremel, that's hearbreaking! It is a phase, but it still must hurt seeing your baby in such distress. Hopefully soon he'll find friends to play and enjoy his time there.
Hugs!
Oh dear that must be so difficult. I'm sure all children go through this? I'm not a mom so I don't know but from what I have heard it's common. I'm sure within a few weeks he will be happy to go. The teachers must know how to deal with this. But a great big hug to you and him. That sounds heart breaking. What a sweet little boy.
Travelling alone is awesome and usually I prefer that. Not having to deal with other people is just very very relaxing for me. I used to travel with friends a few years back but some really bad experience made me realise that it is better for me to travel on my own. It also allows you to see the city better I think, you get more time to do sightseeing and ask around, and find things you won't find when you're travelling in pack.
Also, it is very easy and safe to travel alone in Japan in my opinion! I've done something like Kyokei did before but the other way around, I was living in Tokyo and took the earliest shinkansen to Osaka and back on the latest one. I have to say though, it's amazing you can go to class without any sleep! or maybe that's because some of my classes were pretty awful at that moment.
Travelling alone in Japan is amazing, however, I do find travelling alone in Korea to be somewhat difficult. A lot of the restaurants there will reject you if you go in alone, it seems like that people there don't do that at all. There's even one time when I was taking pictures at a sightseeing spot and people walked pass me would say "Is she travelling alone??" in Korean, thinking that I couldn't speak the language.
HoneyLocks: Your bag is gigantic!! I used to travel like that, with a smaller bag though, and got shoulder pain
and I totally get "the look"!! last time I went to Ginza H store with my friend and she was in her pajamas and SA looked at her like she's crazy when she asked if there's any b in stock.
Also, it is very easy and safe to travel alone in Japan in my opinion! I've done something like Kyokei did before but the other way around, I was living in Tokyo and took the earliest shinkansen to Osaka and back on the latest one. I have to say though, it's amazing you can go to class without any sleep! or maybe that's because some of my classes were pretty awful at that moment.
Travelling alone in Japan is amazing, however, I do find travelling alone in Korea to be somewhat difficult. A lot of the restaurants there will reject you if you go in alone, it seems like that people there don't do that at all. There's even one time when I was taking pictures at a sightseeing spot and people walked pass me would say "Is she travelling alone??" in Korean, thinking that I couldn't speak the language.
HoneyLocks: Your bag is gigantic!! I used to travel like that, with a smaller bag though, and got shoulder pain
and I totally get "the look"!! last time I went to Ginza H store with my friend and she was in her pajamas and SA looked at her like she's crazy when she asked if there's any b in stock.
How sweet you ladies are! Nicole Ppup MMC![emoji173]️[emoji173]️I hope this all gets better for Rémi in three weeks or so. We all say growing in pains don't we?
I lost sleep over this SO bag. [emoji23] it's 4:25am. I am going through the colors in my head over and over again. And different kinds of color and leather combo too. We will see how the SO kit looks like for this year(each year it's different), and whether I am able to create the exact one I wanted tomorrow. One of my tires exploded last night so DH gets to drive me to H store in the morning. [emoji1]why not? I don't want to drive in cities.
Nicole what you described about introvert people is exactly what my husband explained to me. He even thinks sometimes introverts and extroverts cannot understand each other. He likes people just as you stated but he often is afraid of making the first move. He feels extremely drained if he is in a party for six hours and had to be in conversations. Usually he recovers after a little time alone for recharge. This also makes him a very concise person when it comes to writing.
I lost sleep over this SO bag. [emoji23] it's 4:25am. I am going through the colors in my head over and over again. And different kinds of color and leather combo too. We will see how the SO kit looks like for this year(each year it's different), and whether I am able to create the exact one I wanted tomorrow. One of my tires exploded last night so DH gets to drive me to H store in the morning. [emoji1]why not? I don't want to drive in cities.
Nicole what you described about introvert people is exactly what my husband explained to me. He even thinks sometimes introverts and extroverts cannot understand each other. He likes people just as you stated but he often is afraid of making the first move. He feels extremely drained if he is in a party for six hours and had to be in conversations. Usually he recovers after a little time alone for recharge. This also makes him a very concise person when it comes to writing.
I love, love, love all of this discussion about traveling and travel styles. I've been going back reading all of your posts from the past few days. You are all such interesting and accomplished women!
My travel style has evolved quite a lot, from adventurer to beauty seeker. As I am getting older I think I'm giving myself permission to be myself, and do only the things that I really enjoy, in the way that I most enjoy doing them, and not feeling as if I am frivolous for my preferences.
DH travels a lot on business and understandably tends toward a "just get it over with" mentality. I'm not sure he gets any great pleasure from traveling. I insist on flying at least Business class, because for me, travel is the entire experience--from planning, packing, going through the airport, to being at the destination and coming home. I want to enjoy the entire process.
I can also relate to those who enjoy traveling alone. There can be a meditative aspect of traveling alone that is hard to find when others are present and wanting to do different things. The discussions about introvert/extrovert are very interesting as well. So many of you seem to have found a good balance and acceptance of your nature. I have been in an extrovert career, but am an introvert that is just beginning to understand how that has effected things.
My travel style has evolved quite a lot, from adventurer to beauty seeker. As I am getting older I think I'm giving myself permission to be myself, and do only the things that I really enjoy, in the way that I most enjoy doing them, and not feeling as if I am frivolous for my preferences.
DH travels a lot on business and understandably tends toward a "just get it over with" mentality. I'm not sure he gets any great pleasure from traveling. I insist on flying at least Business class, because for me, travel is the entire experience--from planning, packing, going through the airport, to being at the destination and coming home. I want to enjoy the entire process.
I can also relate to those who enjoy traveling alone. There can be a meditative aspect of traveling alone that is hard to find when others are present and wanting to do different things. The discussions about introvert/extrovert are very interesting as well. So many of you seem to have found a good balance and acceptance of your nature. I have been in an extrovert career, but am an introvert that is just beginning to understand how that has effected things.
It's the same way with my husband & myself. We spend the majority of our free time together doing similar things as you. We are quiet by nature.
prepster, thanks for sharing the toiletries bag find. I am just like you, always on the hunt for that "perfect" travel bag. I suspect it doesn't exist, but the hunt continues!
nicole, you have perfectly described me (Introvert) and my husband (Extrovert), and your assessment of the two types is spot on. After I've been in NYC, even if it was strictly for pleasure and involved few interactions, I am exhausted. So many PEOPLE! My DH is the sort who wants to sit in the busy part of the restaurant--that's where the action is! But I think, as you do, that these two types can complement each other well.
nicole, you have perfectly described me (Introvert) and my husband (Extrovert), and your assessment of the two types is spot on. After I've been in NYC, even if it was strictly for pleasure and involved few interactions, I am exhausted. So many PEOPLE! My DH is the sort who wants to sit in the busy part of the restaurant--that's where the action is! But I think, as you do, that these two types can complement each other well.
cremel, I laughed out loud at your calling your husband your "live gps." Mine is just the same--a whiz at knowing where we are and how to get where we're going. The problem for me is that I come to rely on him and then, when on my own, tend to get lost. I have no natural sense of direction, and it is actually best for me to walk in the direction opposite to that which feels "right," because I am usually wrong. So if I oppose my instincts, I do better. Sigh. 
Well, we are also here to help you! LOL
Very true, if two people can accept and appreciate the other for their particular gifts and qualities without trying to change the other. That takes a great deal of maturity and patience. Also having boundaries and respecting those of the other person. This is such a well-adjusted group!
Re travel style- I think there is an art to traveling well. I have not achieved it yet, I'm sure, but it is a goal. So many people I know really hate traveling. I find it soothing in some weird way to be a stranger in a strange land (so to speak)--seeing things with fresh eyes and curiosity. I also like the time spent on the plane, and that delicious feeling of being neither here nor there--like time is suspended.
cremel, I laughed out loud at your calling your husband your "live gps." Mine is just the same--a whiz at knowing where we are and how to get where we're going. The problem for me is that I come to rely on him and then, when on my own, tend to get lost. I have no natural sense of direction, and it is actually best for me to walk in the direction opposite to that which feels "right," because I am usually wrong. So if I oppose my instincts, I do better. Sigh.
LOL, I'm the live GPS of the couple. I actually joke that my husband would not have married me if pervasive GPS technology existed back then!
We moved to a new area and I want him to be able to walk around without getting lost, so we take walks, and now and then I ask him "do you know where you are?" "how would you get home from here?" "where is the X store/restaurant/building?". He is getting it, slowly.
Traveling has changed a lot in the last years. It was designed to be a pleasure, from the arrival to the airport to the landing. Now even business class often feels like "cattle transport". There are a few airlines that still try to focus on services, but they're mostly not-US carriers.
I don't mind traveling and I don't mind packing. I'm good at it, I've it down to a semi-science, but lately I'm not looking forward to traveling as much as I did in the past.
Maybe I'm simply getting old!
My DH and I travel apart quite a bit. I go back to NY to visit family and friends several times a year, typically for just a few days. Since I'm always trying to cram as much as possible into those few days, and it usually involves a lot of running around and things to do for my mom, DH doesn't come with me. I'm fine with that since I don't want to worry about him being bored and having nothing to do, or having to do things he doesn't really enjoy (like socializing - he's the introvert lol). But, he has a LOT of vacation time stored up (comes from working at the same non-profit for over 20 years), to the point where he loses time every other pay period if he doesn't use it. I don't have nearly as much vacation, and I use some of it to go visit family, so it just necessarily ends up that he'll take a trip here and there by himself each year. They're usually short trips, 3-4 days each, and I don't mind it because I kind of like having the alone time at the house. 
Though sometimes I do get a little jealous if it's a destination I'd like to visit too, but I just don't have enough PTO. And so far he hasn't gone anywhere I haven't already visited myself at some point. And we always make sure to take at least one week long vacation together.
Though sometimes I do get a little jealous if it's a destination I'd like to visit too, but I just don't have enough PTO. And so far he hasn't gone anywhere I haven't already visited myself at some point. And we always make sure to take at least one week long vacation together.cremel, I laughed out loud at your calling your husband your "live gps." Mine is just the same--a whiz at knowing where we are and how to get where we're going. The problem for me is that I come to rely on him and then, when on my own, tend to get lost. I have no natural sense of direction, and it is actually best for me to walk in the direction opposite to that which feels "right," because I am usually wrong. So if I oppose my instincts, I do better. Sigh.
Ha ha ha [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]my DH says as long as he Chooses the opposite that I am going he would always be headed to the right direction!!
LOL, I'm the live GPS of the couple. I actually joke that my husband would not have married me if pervasive GPS technology existed back then!
We moved to a new area and I want him to be able to walk around without getting lost, so we take walks, and now and then I ask him "do you know where you are?" "how would you get home from here?" "where is the X store/restaurant/building?". He is getting it, slowly.
Excellent !! Finally someone here is the gps of the family. [emoji1]