I guess they stretched BECAUSE I wear it over my shoulder! The stretched handles are crackling and the leather is stretched badly where the handles are stitched to the bag. I don't mind that it is slouchy and unstructured, but my husband tells me it looks "ratty"

I love how practical it is (indeed, I used it so much!). I could just replace it, or get a custom Victoria instead.
For my mom's bag...it is heavy (I realized now that I wrote K but I meant B, it is a Birkin). I have a problem in the joints of both elbows, therefore I need a bag I can put on the shoulder when my arms hurt. Also, it does not really remind me of my mom because...she never wore it! I cannot remember seeing that bag on her once. Only one picture exists of her carrying the bag, and I think it was the day she got it as gift!
I cherish some of the H scarves she has passed on to me, because they are more "her" (in spite of the fact she is giving me the ones she used the least!). She is has been "editing" her wardrobe since my dad passed away, but she still dresses up and gets out of the house every day. She'll be 85 in a couple of months. She still gets the compliments of random people, commenting about how elegant she looks, in stores, in restaurants. I guess my sister and I didn't get the "royal gene" as we call it. My mom looked like Lauren Bacall when she was younger, and she still has that "don't mess with me" look.