Help! How to deal if your friend got exactly the same ring as yours?!!!
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Well, I guess I do have to agree with Ame on this, I too find it rude and extremely annoying when someone copies your style and it sounds like it was not "just" the ring but bags, etc., it is like can she not come up with her own ideas? Yes, it is flattering too but I would also find it more annoying than flattering if someone did that and then again I have been there too, I think it is insensitive from a friend and disrespectful unless asking about it in advance, I have had that happen too and it still annoys me. OTOH, just because I wear a tennis bracelet does that mean others are not entitled to? Of course not. So I feel just move on, it is not worth it, there are such people that always have to prove they are at least as good if not better, I do feel it is competition an rivalry from them and I would start thinking whether they are really friends but then again it happens every day, I sometimes meet others wearing the same dress in the street. But because I am bothered by such things, I often prefer unique jewelry, antiques and such, it truly depends, some may not care at all, I do too so I can relate but I also think just enjoy your beautiful ring and do not care, it is her problem not yours after all if she does not have enough imagination and originality.
I would suggest that you forget about it and just enjoy your beautiful ring. Don't let this bother you.
I ran into a major situation when I upgraded my ER. The situation is different than yours. A close friend of mine proposed 2 years before I got my upgrade. He got his now wife a Tiffany replica. Nothing wrong with that. When I finally got my upgrade to my dream ring: the Tiffany setting, his wife was pissed!! She said that I copied her!!! Well, both rings are from different stores and the real Tiffany ring has been a dream ring of mine for many years, , even before she met my friend. It's no big deal but she was pissed with me for years and she has never worn her ring since I got mine. She was wearing it every day before I got my upgrade. Well, the problem is hers and not mine. Life is too short to sweat about little things.
I ran into a major situation when I upgraded my ER. The situation is different than yours. A close friend of mine proposed 2 years before I got my upgrade. He got his now wife a Tiffany replica. Nothing wrong with that. When I finally got my upgrade to my dream ring: the Tiffany setting, his wife was pissed!! She said that I copied her!!! Well, both rings are from different stores and the real Tiffany ring has been a dream ring of mine for many years, , even before she met my friend. It's no big deal but she was pissed with me for years and she has never worn her ring since I got mine. She was wearing it every day before I got my upgrade. Well, the problem is hers and not mine. Life is too short to sweat about little things.
I don't know. Custom work takes time, so it's very possible your co-worker's double halo was in the works for as long or longer than your halo upgrade. As for the bag, we're talking about a mass-marketed bag from a very popular luxury brand. It's possible she didn't realize how great a bag it was until she saw you rocking it and then wanted one. That's a compliment to you.
Most women of my mother's generation have the same exact ring: .3 carat set in a 6-prong gold setting. How did they cope without accusing each other of being jealous copies? The ring is supposed to be a symbol of love and commitment from your husband. That's what makes it unique. No other women out there has a ring from your dh.
Oh, and your ring is gorgeous
Most women of my mother's generation have the same exact ring: .3 carat set in a 6-prong gold setting. How did they cope without accusing each other of being jealous copies? The ring is supposed to be a symbol of love and commitment from your husband. That's what makes it unique. No other women out there has a ring from your dh.
Oh, and your ring is gorgeous
Ok i guess this is merely what my reaction first. Yeah i dont really mind having the same style with others clearly, im not the sun where planets circling around me
My point is should i tell or talk to her that as i am happy about her ring.. (Not to mention the lv and the scarf i just wanted to say whAt im feeling about the whole thing) yes its not just the ring the ironic thing also she'll have the same after a week i had mine!. im glad i have written here and got all others opinion! i can see some points from all of you which i could never see! Our table is next to each other at work so imagine that! And we do have lunch together sometimes with other co workers too. Having read all your opinion really broaden my horizon on this matter
Things like that definitely used to bother me, and I completely understand your feeling annoyed, upset and mad, but it just doesn't matter to me anymore. In the grand scheme of things
you each have the ring of your choosing, regardless of what the other has. If she had her heart set on a double halo ring, why should she then decide *not* to get it just because you have a single halo? I know you spend a lot of time at work together, but you both have lives outside of work too which, I'm guessing don't intersect. I too have a halo ring and it's SO popular these days. Who cares if she has it too? Just enjoy your beautiful ring!
I understand your annoyance but she probably admires your style. Is she younger than you? When I was in my early 20's and moved to Manhattan, I had a friend who was a bit older and more sophisticated. Looking back now, I realize I copied her and it may have been annoying to her but she never said anything.
I certainly wouldn't change my beautiful ring if I were you.
I certainly wouldn't change my beautiful ring if I were you.
It wouldn't bother me - unless this friend ran out and copied everything I did - that would be annoying.
Otherwise think of it as a compliment
Otherwise think of it as a compliment
Oh this makes me giggle! I had a friend in middle school do this to me with purses. Every single purse I got she would go out and buy the exact same one! It drove me crazy. Finally I got one and told her it was a gift from my grandmother and I didn't know where she got it. (Totally lied!) Now I realize that she just admired my taste and maybe she was insecure about style and thought it would be safest to just copy me. I mean we were 12 years old and it was all about safety in numbers.
However, I also had a friend/roommate in college do this to me with clothes. (And keep in mind I am not at all a style guru. I just buy what I like.) And then I found out she was telling other people that I copied HER! Whaaaat?!!!
She was just bad news all around. So sometimes it's really harmless, but sometimes people can just be creepy. You just have to figure out which is which.
Good Luck!
And no, I would not talk to her about it unless you are willing to deal with a lot of awkwardness and hurt feelings. Not a good combination of things to deal with every day at work.
However, I also had a friend/roommate in college do this to me with clothes. (And keep in mind I am not at all a style guru. I just buy what I like.) And then I found out she was telling other people that I copied HER! Whaaaat?!!!
She was just bad news all around. So sometimes it's really harmless, but sometimes people can just be creepy. You just have to figure out which is which.
Good Luck!
And no, I would not talk to her about it unless you are willing to deal with a lot of awkwardness and hurt feelings. Not a good combination of things to deal with every day at work.
Unless a ring is custom its hard to have a set that no one else has. Halo's are uber popular right now and I think 8 out of 10 wedding sets I see right now are a halo. I wouldn't get upset unless she starts copying your hair style and or clothing.
My Ex's wife does that to me - its really strange to change my hair then see shes done the exact same style a few days later.. People thought it was my imagination until I cut all mine off and started wearing it spiked with bangs and so did she - 3 days later.
My Ex's wife does that to me - its really strange to change my hair then see shes done the exact same style a few days later.. People thought it was my imagination until I cut all mine off and started wearing it spiked with bangs and so did she - 3 days later.
If I had something very different that I specifically designed I think it would bother me but as many have said your ring is not that unusual although beautiful. I think she might have asked though by telling you she admired yours so much and would you mind if she did this, although most likely if you are a nice person you would probably have said no that you would not mind. So I guess you should just forget it, take it as a compliment and go on and enjoy your ring.
Did she ever mention anything at all?