Hey J - you're right, these are called smoke. And actually, now that i look at them more closely, they're brown -- not grey! Wow my eyes are bad!
I was hoping they would be soft like yours but when I opened the package I was surprised to see it in a different type of leather. Do you have a link to the kinds you own? Would love to see what those stock photos look like.
Carmens come in many different leathers! Mine are the tumbled full grain which is the softest. These come in two colours - dark brown and grey (which looks like taupe lol).
Your Smoke one is either same leather as my Burnt Red or Black. They are quite a bit stiffer, but I find it's possible to scrunch them if you put something heavy on them. I did that.

Okay I checked... yours is the Grey Vintage Veg Tanned, which is same as my Black ones!
Have a look here:
http://www.zappos.com/frye-carmen-harness-short-dark-brown-leather
The Dark Brown Leather and Grey Leather are the soft leathers. The rest are tougher. You can see how some of them have a smoother surface, while those two have a "matte" surface.