I wouldn’t do anything and just hope (for her) that she will get to love H and apreciate the difference between a fake and a real..
Friendship and Hermes
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I must share what happened to me years ago:
I was once walking on the street, minding my own business (wearing my beloved B35 Feu), when this lady, rushing through the shop's exit (she must've been distracted) bumped right on to me..
..without apology, she began to alter her voice and in a rude and uptight behaviour, called me out saying that I should watch out where I was walking, because apparently 'I' had hit her 'precious Hermès bag', which at first I had not seen and ironically turned out to be one of those cheap Kelly replicas...
..well, at that precise moment, I didn't know wether to laugh or just jump at her, and cut her head off (yes, I do have a temper for rude people, I guess we all do) - I kept telling myself: stay quiet, don't say a word, just stay quiet... well, as she kept going along I lost it and told her that she should actually be the one watching out where she goes, especially if she's in a rush and that I wouldn't worry too much about her bag, because she could get another fake one from the same online-store where she bought the one she was carrying in the crock of her arm, I wished her a good day and walked away head high with my obviously authentic Birkin.
This only happened once, I would normally never call out anyone for carrying fake bags, and I do see a lot on the streets. At the of the day its none of my business, everyone has the right to do whatever they fancy to do. I for sure DO NOT support the counterfeit industry and would much more prefer them to save up for the real thing but not everyone thinks it alike... so I guess, to each their own!
I was once walking on the street, minding my own business (wearing my beloved B35 Feu), when this lady, rushing through the shop's exit (she must've been distracted) bumped right on to me..
..without apology, she began to alter her voice and in a rude and uptight behaviour, called me out saying that I should watch out where I was walking, because apparently 'I' had hit her 'precious Hermès bag', which at first I had not seen and ironically turned out to be one of those cheap Kelly replicas...
..well, at that precise moment, I didn't know wether to laugh or just jump at her, and cut her head off (yes, I do have a temper for rude people, I guess we all do) - I kept telling myself: stay quiet, don't say a word, just stay quiet... well, as she kept going along I lost it and told her that she should actually be the one watching out where she goes, especially if she's in a rush and that I wouldn't worry too much about her bag, because she could get another fake one from the same online-store where she bought the one she was carrying in the crock of her arm, I wished her a good day and walked away head high with my obviously authentic Birkin.
This only happened once, I would normally never call out anyone for carrying fake bags, and I do see a lot on the streets. At the of the day its none of my business, everyone has the right to do whatever they fancy to do. I for sure DO NOT support the counterfeit industry and would much more prefer them to save up for the real thing but not everyone thinks it alike... so I guess, to each their own!
As others have stated, when someone is deeply entrenched in the practice of buying and proudly wearing fake bags, the odds are strong that you are not the first to notice. If someone is aware of the price tag of a croc B, they will also probably see that the shoe doesn't fit the foot, so to speak.
Every time I see a fake, I just assume everyone else notices too. The kind of individual who is impressed by any bag is not someone with whom I can identify strongly. Respecting a beautiful bag is one thing, but if she uses those bags to peacock, then that speaks way more about her and the people she has aligned in her wake.
As it has been articulately stated for almost three pages now -- leave it be. Calling her out would create drama and would be unlikely to change her behavior or attitude. I know it feels so wrong and icky to watch this fraud, but you've got a community of folks here to tell you it's just something to deal with from time to time. Come here to vent -- we're here to empathize.
Every time I see a fake, I just assume everyone else notices too. The kind of individual who is impressed by any bag is not someone with whom I can identify strongly. Respecting a beautiful bag is one thing, but if she uses those bags to peacock, then that speaks way more about her and the people she has aligned in her wake.
As it has been articulately stated for almost three pages now -- leave it be. Calling her out would create drama and would be unlikely to change her behavior or attitude. I know it feels so wrong and icky to watch this fraud, but you've got a community of folks here to tell you it's just something to deal with from time to time. Come here to vent -- we're here to empathize.
My oh my....! 
Thank you all so much for sharing your perspectives and interesting personal stories. Every reply was so wise!
I am reading everyone’s responses and it has put a smile on my face and comforted me.
As a community of H lovers, I think you have outdone yourselves (as usual!!!)
Just an update: I’ve decided to keep this to myself and never bring it up (unless she does). I saw her at work today and flashed a smile, but had a sigh to myself afterwards... oopsie
We still have to work together in the coming years, so I need to keep the relationship professional/beneficial.
Some stones are better left unturned and some things are better left unsaid.
Thank you all so much for sharing your perspectives and interesting personal stories. Every reply was so wise!
I am reading everyone’s responses and it has put a smile on my face and comforted me.
As a community of H lovers, I think you have outdone yourselves (as usual!!!)
Just an update: I’ve decided to keep this to myself and never bring it up (unless she does). I saw her at work today and flashed a smile, but had a sigh to myself afterwards... oopsie
We still have to work together in the coming years, so I need to keep the relationship professional/beneficial.Some stones are better left unturned and some things are better left unsaid.
My oh my....!
Thank you all so much for sharing your perspectives and interesting personal stories. Every reply was so wise!
I am reading everyone’s responses and it has put a smile on my face and comforted me.
As a community of H lovers, I think you have outdone yourselves (as usual!!!)
Just an update: I’ve decided to keep this to myself and never bring it up (unless she does). I saw her at work today and flashed a smile, but had a sigh to myself afterwards... oopsie
Some stones are better left unturned and some things are better left unsaid.
Smart of you to recognize this is what you should be doing....that's what the high road is all about....
Honestly I would not say anything to her at all. I feel she may or may not know it’s a fake bag and if she does deep inside she knows the feeling of not having a authentic and trying to show off something on her page. Whether fake photos or items a person know what’s real deep inside themselves and if they feel the need to be fake just let it be.
This isn't a friend, clearly, it is a "work friend". No reason to care what she does socially, and the only outcome of any action would be an issue at your job. There's no reason to create an issue nor stress yourself over it.
Most of the H bags I see on social are fakes. It makes me sad because the fake bag business has some hurtful fallout, especially in manufacturing, but then again so do fast fashion and plastic bottles and so many other things.... and personally, if I want to address any of those issues and try to make a difference, I would address them on a macro level, not go against individual people.
Most of the H bags I see on social are fakes. It makes me sad because the fake bag business has some hurtful fallout, especially in manufacturing, but then again so do fast fashion and plastic bottles and so many other things.... and personally, if I want to address any of those issues and try to make a difference, I would address them on a macro level, not go against individual people.
I wouldn't say anything to her. No need to make her feel bad. What people do with their money isn't any of your business. If it bothers you so much you could 1 ignore it and distance yourself or 2 buy her one. My mom always says "don't comment on a person problem if you can't change it for them or if they can't change it in 3 seconds" No one likes fakes here but it isn't really necessary to call her out. What would you gain from it? Also if you work with her this would cause problems at work.
Why would you get upset and offended? I can’t think of any reason to take it personally. I wouldn’t feel any need to call her out. If she wants to carry fakes, that’s her business. If you have to work with her, you can still be friendly, but drop her as a friend.
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sorry i dont understand this...would you drop someone as a friend because they carry fakes? doesn't this come down to personal preference on how people spend their money?
I think you’re misunderstanding me. I’m saying that if it bothers Joylucklove that much, she doesn‘t have to remain friends with her. If it’s personal preference on how people spend their money, why even bring up the question as to how to respond?
How do you know with 100% certainty they are fake? Did you have them authenticated?