Friendship and Hermes

[maxroxxherhandbags]

Off the topic, I have few friends of mine and their husbands sometimes gifting them fake bags. And every-time I saw my friends posting pictures of fake bags on social media so proudly, I just somehow feel so angry about it but still haven't had a nerve to them tell

Ugh! How can a husband knowingly do that??!!!
Being gifted a fake bag is grounds for divorce in my book...(would make me wonder what other things he'd lied to me about!)
Mind blowing!!!!

 

[Henelalee]

Ugh! How can a husband knowingly do that??!!!
Being gifted a fake bag is grounds for divorce in my book...(would make me wonder what other things he'd lied to me about!)
Mind blowing!!!!

One is known to use fake purses to me, she doesn't feel any problem with that, but her husband has good career. And the other one doesn't know much about luxury goods, or maybe she's fine with having lookalike luxury goods as long as it has brand name. But yeah, I totally feel angry inside and couldn't call them out but still needed to vent somewhere )

 

[CMilly]

I would not say anything. It’s not your business. There’s no point in getting into a fight over it especially if she is a work colleague.

 

[880]

I would not say anything. It’s not your business. There’s no point in getting into a fight over it especially if she is a work colleague.

+1

 

[maxroxxherhandbags]

Hi ladies... I need some advice.
I’ve had a friend for 2 years. She is an extremely brand and status conscious person. But I still hung out with her (at work) as she is a team mate.
I was recently looking at her IG and realised that she carries a fake croc Birkin and fake Kelly, and passed it off as real (probably for the sake of flaunting on Instagram).
I actually got quite upset and affected by it.
What should I do? Have you been in a similar situation before? As a very loyal H lover myself, I feel that it is so awkward yet I should not feel shy about calling it out. I can’t see her in a good light anymore. :/

Firstly reading between the lines to me she sounds like a colleague you get on 'ok' with-I wouldn't classify her as your 'Friend' because you state in brackets that you hang out with her at work, no mention of anything beyond that.
I suspect that she probably looks up to you maybe envies you a little or wants to be like you because presumably she knows you own real Hermes bags.
I would never call her out because I think you'll probably really hurt her feelings and come across as either *****y or a bit superior.
None of us here condone the fake trade-its abhorrent not only because of the cheap labour and links to other illegal activities but also because so many unsuspecting people waste their hard earned cash and savings on fake goods passed as real.
If she brought these bags on ebay thinking they were real dont burst her bubble-let her find out when she takes the bags to H to be spa'd.
And if she brought them knowing they were replicas then it kind of shows that she's a pretty shallow and insecure person.
If you feel you 'must' say something perhaps ask if she's on Instagram and suggest you follow each other -then you could bring up the subject of the bags- "I saw you posted a Birkin and Kelly-where did you buy them? " in a friendly way she may just say "oh! they're replicas-I've always wanted one.." etc and perhaps you could then enlighten her into why she shouldn't do that and introduce her to the reputable pre-loved marketplace?

 

[bagshopr]

Leave it alone and don't bring it up.

 

[Classy Collector]

Off the topic, I have few friends of mine and their husbands sometimes gifting them fake bags. And every-time I saw my friends posting pictures of fake bags on social media so proudly, I just somehow feel so angry about it but still haven't had a nerve to them tell

If it were my husband gifting me fake bags, I’d feel a lot more disappointed lol

 

[cravin]

Personal story.

We took a family vacation to Rome a couple years ago for Christmas. While shopping around, we walk into a clothing store near the Spanish steps and the wife spots a hoodie with a Supreme Box logo on it. I had heard of the brand but knew nothing really about it. My 12 year old at the time freaks out and “has to have it”, so we buy it for him.

Fast forward a week and everybody is wearing new hoodies and whatnot that they received as gifts from the holidays. My son walks into school proudly wearing his Supreme hoodie and come lunchtime, is texting us that he’s being ridiculed at school for wearing fake Supreme. I research and see that the real Supreme and a manufacturer in Italy have been in the courts for years for trademark infringement. So I, being mortified, kicked into full dad mode to make sure I got him some real Supreme. The first few items he questioned and wouldn’t wear because the kids just kept telling him those were fake as well. I showed him the packages as they came in from Brooklyn and he got the confidence to stand up to the comments and said “my Dad and I shopped together for this, so I know it’s real and I don’t care what you think”. He’s now looked at as one of the “hype-beast” kids at school and doesn’t worry about it anymore.

That was a lot of text to say that if you don’t say something, someone else probably will. It’s all in the nuance of how you message it.

 

[Roz2019]

I would not say anything. It’s not your business. There’s no point in getting into a fight over it especially if she is a work colleague.

+2

 

[Iris Gris]

I wouldn’t say anything, but I wouldn’t play along with any illusions, either. If she says something like, “My boyfriend is so amazing, he bought me a $40,000 bag!” then I would reply with something like, “I always feel like big purchases should be authenticated/insured.” Or if she admits they’re fakes, state your opinion and tell her you’ll have to agree to disagree.

Chances are, sooner or later someone else will notice her fakes on IG and might call her on it anyway.

 

[Love Of My Life]

Hi ladies... I need some advice.
I’ve had a friend for 2 years. She is an extremely brand and status conscious person. But I still hung out with her (at work) as she is a team mate.
I was recently looking at her IG and realised that she carries a fake croc Birkin and fake Kelly, and passed it off as real (probably for the sake of flaunting on Instagram).
I actually got quite upset and affected by it.
What should I do? Have you been in a similar situation before? As a very loyal H lover myself, I feel that it is so awkward yet I should not feel shy about calling it out. I can’t see her in a good light anymore. :/

As I said earlier, I think you should take the "high road" here. It really is not your business in spite of what
your loyalty to H & the brand is.
If you can't see her in a good light anymore, distance yourself as your emotions will likely start to rage since she has "fake bags"
& this goes against your better judgment.
You mention that you have had this relationship for 2 years & I'm guessing she is not in your inner circle any longer
In spite of her being a colleague at one time, what she spends & how she acquires her bags is really her business in spite
of the fact that you are upset & affected by it.
She may or may not know that her Birkin & Kelly are "fake" & in many ways you could be playing with fire
You don't know how these bags were acquired.. I would not even pry
Let it rest.. No need to open Pandora's box where it may come back to haunt you...

 

[TeeCee77]

I would stay quiet.

Kindly, if one thinks about it, there is nothing to gain personally by calling her out (ie. putting her down) other than to feed one’s own ego.

Try to overcome these feelings and rise above it all.

This.

 

[Henelalee]

If it were my husband gifting me fake bags, I’d feel a lot more disappointed lol

I know, that's right =))) just leave me alone with your credit card, I don't need any gift from you

 

[Henelalee]

Personal story.

We took a family vacation to Rome a couple years ago for Christmas. While shopping around, we walk into a clothing store near the Spanish steps and the wife spots a hoodie with a Supreme Box logo on it. I had heard of the brand but knew nothing really about it. My 12 year old at the time freaks out and “has to have it”, so we buy it for him.

Fast forward a week and everybody is wearing new hoodies and whatnot that they received as gifts from the holidays. My son walks into school proudly wearing his Supreme hoodie and come lunchtime, is texting us that he’s being ridiculed at school for wearing fake Supreme. I research and see that the real Supreme and a manufacturer in Italy have been in the courts for years for trademark infringement. So I, being mortified, kicked into full dad mode to make sure I got him some real Supreme. The first few items he questioned and wouldn’t wear because the kids just kept telling him those were fake as well. I showed him the packages as they came in from Brooklyn and he got the confidence to stand up to the comments and said “my Dad and I shopped together for this, so I know it’s real and I don’t care what you think”. He’s now looked at as one of the “hype-beast” kids at school and doesn’t worry about it anymore.

That was a lot of text to say that if you don’t say something, someone else probably will. It’s all in the nuance of how you message it.

I liked your story and 100 % with you

 

[ba0wey]

Hi ladies... I need some advice.
I’ve had a friend for 2 years. She is an extremely brand and status conscious person. But I still hung out with her (at work) as she is a team mate.
I was recently looking at her IG and realised that she carries a fake croc Birkin and fake Kelly, and passed it off as real (probably for the sake of flaunting on Instagram).
I actually got quite upset and affected by it.
What should I do? Have you been in a similar situation before? As a very loyal H lover myself, I feel that it is so awkward yet I should not feel shy about calling it out. I can’t see her in a good light anymore. :/

I guess the real question here is how much of a friend is she to you and vice versa? If you truly care about her, then keep her secret just because I feel like this is more of a reflection on her and her insecurities. If she feels the need to fake whatever status she's trying to convey then she obviously has her own set of problems. Perhaps, she secretly feels inferior to you and everyone around her? Either way, this is where the friendship part and empathy should come into play. However, if you two aren't as close of "friends" and if it still bothers you that she does this, then simply distance yourself from her.

I wouldn't call her out. You gain nothing from this but satisfaction in the moment. You are right, it is awkward to bring up no matter the intention. It does nothing to benefit the both of you as she can simply fool the next person when you're not around. Now, if she's selling and benefiting from knockoffs as real, then that's a different story. Just let it go.. Image can only get her so far in life.