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#18
I absolutely agree with everything that has been said so far, but am I the only one who it has occurred to to just simply LIE? In other words, I spent a certain amount on my ring, but with different specs or a designer-looking setting, I easily could have paid double what I actually did. That means that potentially a ring could look identical to a layperson without a loupe, and they would have no clue whether you paid $15K or $30K. For example, a 1.5 ct round stone on Blue Nile starts at just under $7K for an SI2 with J colour. But the price goes up to just under $50K with IF D colour stats. My point is that unless you tell people the exact specs, you could claim you spent almost anything on a stone, KWIM?
 
#19
Show your boyfriend all the responses in this thread! Hopefully he will feel better even though we're all strangers. $15,000 is a very large sum and you would get a beautiful ring for that amount. I would not share any more costs of anything with your mom.
 
#21
Thank you all for the replies! I feel much better knowing that I'm not the only one who thought that statement was out of line. Good news is that ring shopping was still a success and BF and I are in much better spirits. We stuck to our budget and got a beautiful round 1.22 excellent cut, F color, VVS1 stone set in .3 round halo platinum setting. I absolutely love it and now the hard part comes--waiting!

I was too excited and forgot to take a photo but I will update later on! Thanks again for all your input!
 
#23
The ring sounds beautiful - yay for having found something that you both liked! I'm a little late to this thread but my DH and I both agree with everyone who has responded. This is not anyone's business but yours and your soon-to-be fiancé (same goes for the wedding!).
 
#25
dster1 said:
Thank you all for the replies! I feel much better knowing that I'm not the only one who thought that statement was out of line. Good news is that ring shopping was still a success and BF and I are in much better spirits. We stuck to our budget and got a beautiful round 1.22 excellent cut, F color, VVS1 stone set in .3 round halo platinum setting. I absolutely love it and now the hard part comes--waiting!

I was too excited and forgot to take a photo but I will update later on! Thanks again for all your input!
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Sounds perfect...love to see a pic!
 
#26
I think 15K is a big budget for a ring, and 30K is over the top unless you happen to be rolling in money. Your mother is definitely projecting. Ignore her, and convince your fiance to do the same. It's likely she'll do this with everything you buy as a couple, so learning to tune her out, and realizing now it's just her own unfulfilled wishes being pushed onto you, will be essential to your sanity.
 
#27
I would say that your mother's comments are more about something within her that she is trying to reconcile through your and your fiancé. Perhaps she was unhappy with her ring or something and is using this situation to sort out her old feelings. It doesn't seem that it is related to you and your fiancé. It seems more like she is working something out internally to her self with her comments.

Maybe she wants you to have a high value ring in case something goes wrong and you will always have the ring as financial back-up? Hard to know.

15k is a great budget for a ring, and I'm sure you got a wonderful ring.

Congratulations!
 
#28
I think your choice sounds wonderful!

Hopefully your man will get over your mum's silly comments. A ring is a beautiful symbol, but the real thing of value is your relationship.

(Happily married with a cut price J stone that's actually an I2 clarity, lol! But he gave it to me, that's what mattered)
 
#29
anne1218 said:
Also let her know you are saving the money on a house and it shouldn't be all spent on a ring
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I agree! Tell your mom you want to invest in your house down payment!
15 k is a good ring but you want to have a place for an upgrade some time later ;) Tell her that its very much possible. And don't tell her anymore about your financial, just a little bit in general, no actual digits. :D

She's your mom, you're her precious baby! Im sure she says it out of love because she believes that there's no man on this planet good enough for you! :love:
 
#30
Staci_W said:
$15K isn't enough? What world is this woman living in?
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I thought the same thing! Is it possible the mom was joking? Lol!
In all seriousness, this sounds like something my mom would do. Just to rain on my parade. Some people are just like that. Nothing is ever good enough. But you HAVE to live your lives by your own standards and no one else's because at the end of the day you're the only ones who have to cope with the consequences.

And my ring was exponentially less than 15K and I'm fine with that. We chose to spend on our house/cars/necessities. And we both feel very secure in our choice though I'm sure my mom would disagree.
Luckily, I haven't asked her what she thinks.
 
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