Do you ever feel like your taste in jewelry puts a too much pressure on your SO?

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#31
nld in nyc said:
It amazes me when I see some of the posts on these boards. I secretly wonder what type of income level I'd need to make purchases like the ones I hear described (not just on jewelry, but on purses too)- multiple times a year.

DH and I are comfortable (about $240K combined income) but by no means rich. I honestly can't afford to make multiple purchases a year in the $10-20K range for jewelry, and still travel, have a fabulous home, save for retirement, etc.

I just assume that there are alot of very high earners ($500K/year plus) on this board.
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We are probably high earners in the scheme of the US income brackets but we are absolutely not any of the above. I would say half of the lower combination. We are comfortable for sure, but I am more of a gawker with jewelry. I just want great pieces of what I want--nice studs (done!) and my wedding set done (done FINALLY). The rest I can do CZ or not at all :)
 
#32
My husband doesn't feel pressured for my taste in jewellery and bags! In fact, I buy most of them. I'm one odd woman I think, I always feel guilty whenever he buys things for me. So our understanding is he'll take care of the big purchases and I can buy my small purchases on my own. By the way, I bought him all his 3 watches, 2 Omegas and 1 Tudor because he'll never spend the money on himself but doesn't blink an eye when buying me my most expensive watch, way more than his 3 watches.

When I wouldn't spend so much on a Chanel bag, he'll get it for me. We have an unusual understanding! Ha!
 
#34
My DH knows I am responsible and take care of our finances well. We believe it's important to set our priority straight and that's how we have lived for the past 13 years so we started with cars, a house, then came the diamonds and bags, a bigger house, nicer cars mostly because he is into cars and then some more diamonds and bags so my spending habits is very much within limits while my DH gets his toys as well.
 
#35
DH is a househusband and I'm the sole breadwinner, so it's really up to me to decide what we can afford, and then I buy it myself. DH will buy me less expensive stuff as a lilttle surprise, but the high ticket items have all been bought by me, and I like it that way TBH.

I'm careful to strike a balance between saving and spending, because if anything were to happen to my earning potential we'd need a substantial nest egg to live off of.
 
#36
I don't think that I pressure him, but I think that we put the pressure on ourselves. We like nice things, but just aren't in a financial position right now to buy whatever we wish!
However, I am more of the type of person that only wants one iconic jewelry piece, one iconic bag... I don't have a long list.
I also have no problem whatsoever buying what I want used off of Ebay.
 
#37
I did go out with a guy who said he couldn't afford me :smile1:

My current SO understands my affinity for all things luxury because he likes high end things as well. Neither of us can afford half the things we want currently but at least we dream together.
 
#38
LovethatLuxe said:
I did go out with a guy who said he couldn't afford me :smile1:

My current SO understands my affinity for all things luxury because he likes high end things as well. Neither of us can afford half the things we want currently but at least we dream together.
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I used to get that A LOT with previous relationships...:p Even if I never expected a gift from them, and I was willing to pay my share on expences, idk, I was always making more money than my ex boyfriends and I was splurging treating them and me, they couldn't reciprocate and that bummed them out.

When it comes to reciprocating gifts for DH it is fairly simple, he likes practical things. His favorite of all the gifts I got him was a card holder made out of metal with super strong zipper, it holds all his cards, it is indestructible and he holds it for more than 8 years. Whene ver he takes it out to pay for something he says "this is the best gift I ever received".:D
Latest gift was for his birthday, I build him a personal website and he loved it, it took some work, but it was an affordable gift that he wanted for a long time.
His hobby is very expensive and I don't know much about, so I'm not even going there. Only the software he uses costs more than our apartment.:faint:
When it comes to jewelry, watches etc... I got him platinum cuff links, but he doesn't use them often. The watch he likes is waaaay over my budget, and he knows it. Plus he gets more pleasure buying me jewelery than he would get if I bought something for him in this price range.
 
#39
My DH is the one that surprises me with purchases of jewelry or clothes or bags. He says he loves to see the look on my face when I see the gift. He also enjoys the finer things in life and says he doesn't mind at all. I am just very lucky to have such a wonderful DH!

He never wants things for himself. I had to talk him into purchasing a watch for himself that he really liked. It took almost 2 hours to convince him to finally go back and get it!!! For me, he doesn't even bat an eyelash!

One day I hope to be able to buy him the Vacheron watch I know he loves!
 
#40
My husband definitely feels bad for not being able to purchase things on my wishlist. He works very hard to try and give us the lifestyle we want but right now there's no way he can buy me what i lust after day in day out. Out of all my friends he does spoil me a lot more then any of them. He buys me the cheaper things I want (under $1000) when ever he can and the only thing he's given me over that was my $10, 000 engagement ring which he put on mostly on credit which just prooves how much we can't afford it :(
 
#41
I love my boyfriend very much, he is very caring and we have a great life.... but he doesnt earn as much as me and has said he feels guilty that he cant buy me what I like (and I lust after a LOT of things haha).. but jewellery/material goods isnt everything and I am lucky that I can buy what I want for myself.

Like another poster on here, I do think there must be quite a lot of high earners on this forum - but to be honest, that doesnt bother me in the slightest or make me feel inadequate. I love coming on here to ogle other people's gorgeous jewellery and to share their excitement in their latest gifts/ or items they have saved hard to buy for - its the best thing on purse forum :-)
 
#42
My fiance does feel a little pressured with my wishlist. I told him that he was the most important thing on my wishlist, so he should not feel pressured. When we do add to my collection, we usually buy used pieces, because they tend to be cheaper. Plus, my obsession is really only jewelry. I rarely buy clothes, handbags, or shoes.
 
#43
I'm older then most of you gals so I've been collecting longer. I have a few expensive jewelry items, a few mid-range jewelry items and some items just for fun. My ex-DH was always into my jewelry obsession (jewelry wasn't the problem, LOL!) and bought me a lot of lovely, unique pieces. One day I woke up and decided handbags would be my new obsession. While I still love jewelry I have been less motivated to buy high-end items. Plus the jewelry insurance is a killer!!! I can come to tPF and live vicariously thru you gals and all your lovely jewelry purchases.
Having said all this I still want a Cartier Roadster..............:graucho:
 
#44
LovethatLuxe said:
I did go out with a guy who said he couldn't afford me :smile1:
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lol DH thought that when we first started dating. But I worked to buy my items, and I still work to buy my items! lol

everything posh said:
My DH is the one that surprises me with purchases of jewelry or clothes or bags. He says he loves to see the look on my face when I see the gift. He also enjoys the finer things in life and says he doesn't mind at all. I am just very lucky to have such a wonderful DH!
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DH does not dare surprise me with gifts like that. lol he knows I am too picky and perfectionist to allow that. ;) As long as he knows what I want, he could surprise me with it!
 
#45
My DH doesn't surprise me either. Most of the things I lust for are pricey and to surprise me spontaneously with a big non-occasion purchase is probably out of the question!
 
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