Do you ever feel like your taste in jewelry puts a too much pressure on your SO?

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#17
We've been alternating. I got a Tiffany ring upgrade this year. Next, he wants an Omega watch. After that, I'll get my ring re-set. Other than the watch, he has pretty simple tastes.

I have some items on my radar screen (a DBTY necklace, etc.), but honestly, I'll probably just purchase those myself at some point.

It amazes me when I see some of the posts on these boards. I secretly wonder what type of income level I'd need to make purchases like the ones I hear described (not just on jewelry, but on purses too)- multiple times a year.

DH and I are comfortable (about $240K combined income) but by no means rich. I honestly can't afford to make multiple purchases a year in the $10-20K range for jewelry, and still travel, have a fabulous home, save for retirement, etc.

I just assume that there are alot of very high earners ($500K/year plus) on this board.
 
#18
whoops said:
Haha I just Editted my post to take that part out so I don't thread jack! You are just too quick! But yes! I think if I can spend under $500 he won't be as upset. My dress is already a lot! And his outfit is no where near as expensive!
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LOL, sorry whoops ;) He has his eye on the Rolex DateJust II with black face and 18kt wg fluted bezel. I convinced him he wanted the Balloon Bleu but I think he is just saying that because I want it! If I had the money, I'd buy him his lambo and Patek Phillipe, but alas, I am just a simple girl :p
 
#19
I am single, but I know my family feels this way. they know I have expensive taste and I hate when they give me gifts because usually its jewellery or nice clothes, it makes me feel guilty that they are spending lots of money on me.

my friends are the same way they always say at christmas or my birthday that I have "expensive taste and they dont know what to get me" the best presents I find from family and friends are framed pictures and nice cards with heartfelt messages those are by far my favorite :D now if I have a SO and i'm spending money on him...then whatever he can spend away on me LOL
 
#20
sjunky13 said:
Yes!!! My DH never wants anything. He is into cars and computers. I feel very guilty that I spend so much and he so little. I think that has cut down on some of my spending.
He works really hard for the money and I hate to be a selfish monster. lol
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Are our DHs related??? LOL I swear all my DH wants or is into/hobbies are very expensive race cars and computer/gadgets!!!

DH tells me that he always is trying his best to make me happy & give me what my heart desires so maybe sometimes he feels a little pressure but he says he is fine with it as long as I'm happy since i'm his queen! What more can a girl ask for :heart::cloud9::love: :D
 
#21
nld in nyc said:
We've been alternating. I got a Tiffany ring upgrade this year. Next, he wants an Omega watch. After that, I'll get my ring re-set. Other than the watch, he has pretty simple tastes.

I have some items on my radar screen (a DBTY necklace, etc.), but honestly, I'll probably just purchase those myself at some point.

It amazes me when I see some of the posts on these boards. I secretly wonder what type of income level I'd need to make purchases like the ones I hear described (not just on jewelry, but on purses too)- multiple times a year.

DH and I are comfortable (about $240K combined income) but by no means rich. I honestly can't afford to make multiple purchases a year in the $10-20K range for jewelry, and still travel, have a fabulous home, save for retirement, etc.

I just assume that there are alot of very high earners ($500K/year plus) on this board.
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I highly doubt there are a lot of those. I bet there are a lot of people who make under $200K household but tend to rotate their goodies. Buy new, and resell old to fund it. That type of thing.
 
#22
sjunky13 said:
Yes!!! My DH never wants anything. He is into cars and computers. I feel very guilty that I spend so much and he so little. I think that has cut down on some of my spending.
He works really hard for the money and I hate to be a selfish monster. lol
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I think our DHs related.

I'm going to cut down on the items on the wishlist - somehow, I usually LOVE LOVE LOVE something, and a month or 2 later, it dies out (like wanting a Rolex). But my 'bad' self when I like something always goes to DH, "Honey, do you think this will look good on me? I love the pink dial..." No more of that!

So my goal is to keep it to myself and not say anything or let DH see me looking at anything UNTIL I am absolutely 1000% sure I really want it and have been drooling over it for close to a year.

That, and save some dough to buy DH that Jaeger watch he's been craving for.
 
#23
missD said:
I highly doubt there are a lot of those. I bet there are a lot of people who make under $200K household but tend to rotate their goodies. Buy new, and resell old to fund it. That type of thing.
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Oooo I never thought of that!!! I was like nld and thought people here were bagillionaires. I'm not a fan of reselling my things - I'm in it for the long haul haha. I have, however, gifted my old items to friends/family members. I hope you save the money for your DH's JLC watch - he deserves it! hehe
 
#25
Haha, I love this thread!

Yes, I definitely feel this way. I'm still in college, but my parents spoil me with jewelry (although they are still considered "entry-level" luxury goods, but expensive nonetheless) and clothes, etc. My BF definitely recognizes that I like "nice things", but the difference in what he can spend and what my parents do is so drastic that it's almost become a non-issue. I feel like it would be worse if he could afford something that's $1000, but not $5000, vs. the current $150 and $5000, KWIM?

I think that the problem is more with me than with him, though, because no one really needs luxury goods and I've been trying to focus more on things that have meaning and will add to my life, instead of more jewelry.
 
#27
simply. . . . no.

It's not like my hand is out all the time asking him to adorn me in jewels.
He does see how excited I get when I get a news piece and sees that I wear it all the time - it's satisfying for both of us.
And it's not like the rest of my jewelry is as pricey as my wedding ring!
 
#28
I don't think it has to be having your hand out at all times, but even gifts at special occasions only can add up significantly if you're a girl with expensive taste and has a bf who caters to it or tries his best to.

It doesn't have to be jewelry, but bags, shoes, anything of that sort.
 
#29
missD said:
Hey ladies,

I was just thinking the other day, about things I casually look at online whether it's jewels, diamonds, or things of expensive nature (handbags, watches, shoes) and sometimes I feel that me looking at all these things is putting way too much pressure on my husband. He sneaks a peek at what I look at and goes "Looking at _______. Again?" And shakes his head in a teasing kind of way.

We all have great taste and are quite knowledgeable in the good stuff, but do you think our SO feel a little bad or pressured to give up a LARGE amount of money - perhaps on an amount they would never spend so much on themselves?
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No, because his list of luxury items that he wants is probably longer than mine! :laugh:
 
#30
Dh had his friend desgin my Ring in their family store so he didnt worry too much about that

But right now I know he is nervous about my anniversary gift he had me wish list some things on the Tiffany site in our price range

He was saying it is hard bc he knows if I don't like it will still feel pressure to wear it
 
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