Do you ever feel like your taste in jewelry puts a too much pressure on your SO?

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missD

missD

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#1
Hey ladies,

I was just thinking the other day, about things I casually look at online whether it's jewels, diamonds, or things of expensive nature (handbags, watches, shoes) and sometimes I feel that me looking at all these things is putting way too much pressure on my husband. He sneaks a peek at what I look at and goes "Looking at _______. Again?" And shakes his head in a teasing kind of way.

We all have great taste and are quite knowledgeable in the good stuff, but do you think our SO feel a little bad or pressured to give up a LARGE amount of money - perhaps on an amount they would never spend so much on themselves?
 
#4
He knew what he was getting into :greengrin:
Really now, no I don't feel I put any extra pressure on him. He never complains, and lots of times he is the one to convince me on a purchase when I feel hesitation . He is a very generous, loving man.:heart:
 
#5
I try to make sure that an appropriate amount of time lapses between purchases. I don't want him to feel that I don't appreciate what I have received, but he knows my wishlist is extensive!

Usually with large purchases, we alternate. Something for me, then we work on something for him. He usually wants insane camera lenses. LOL...
 
#6
I wish my SO would want something that's affordable - he doesn't want much but when he does....! The only item on his wishlist is a $6000 watch! Gotta get the piggy bank out.
 
#7
I asked my DF about this, and he said he does feel pressure to make me happy and he worries that he might not be able to afford what I want, but he also trusts that I know what is a "reasonable amount to spend."

Kitsunegrl - I like the way you and your DH do things!!! Since my DF worked so hard to get my dream e-ring, I'm trying to save up for a "big" wedding present for him! I think it's selfish of me to always want and for him to be the one to always give. He doesn't want much, but I try to tease what I can out of him!

missD - The watch my DF wants is almost 8k, but I'm going to save what I can to see if I can get it for him as a wedding gift, since I think he's totally worth it! And if I can't, it'll be for our 1 year wedding anniversary :D
 
#8
Yes!!! My DH never wants anything. He is into cars and computers. I feel very guilty that I spend so much and he so little. I think that has cut down on some of my spending.
He works really hard for the money and I hate to be a selfish monster. lol
 
#10
Yea DH is kind of over it. I wouldn't say it puts pressure on him, but it does bug him that I am so into "material goods". Not all materials, but the ones I love I am WAY into.
 
#11
after our first Xmas we made a pact to not get anymore physical gifts for each other. Instead, we both deposit into our joint savings and when an ocassion comes we will go and take a mini trip or weekend getaway. It's still what we do now. Every so often there will be little surprise gifts like cologne if I see he is out or a cute new kitchen toy for me it whatever little things we come across.

Lily - haha he definitely knew what he was getting into with me! He understands and loves me for it. I think the pressure was more so from my family than me because they expect more for me? For jewelry they can be pretty big on it so there was pressure to get quality.

Kohl - I've already thought about wedding presents too but I don't want one from him! He would never spend the ammount of my engagement ring on himself for a toy or accessory so I want to get it for him but he might get mad! He doesn't like me buying him things. Which watch is it?
 
#12
^Ame, I have to admit I am as well.

It seems that everything I ever "hinted" in wanting falls into the realm of a designer product (something I'm wayyyy into)!
 
#14
whoops said:
My fiancé knows that I enjoy nice things and that whatever I want I will work and buy on my own so it's not really pressure for him to buy me anything. In fact, after our first Xmas we made a pact to not get anymore physical gifts for each other. Instead, we both deposit into our joint savings and when an ocassion comes we will go and take a mini trip or weekend getaway. It's still what we do now. Every so often there will be little surprise gifts like cologne if I see he is out or a cute new kitchen toy for me it whatever little things we come across.

Lily - haha he definitely knew what he was getting into! I think the pressure was more so from my family than me because they expect more for me? For jewelry they can be pretty big on it so there was pressure to get quality.

Kohl - I've already thought about wedding presents too but I don't want one from him! After he bought my ring no way! I'd like to get him a rolex or cartier but he might kill me because it will almost half of what we are spending on the wedding in total. We both decided to not get help from parents on the wedding and do it ourselves so maybe no presents? I'm not sure! I keep going back and forth! At minimum I might get him a nice wallet and then heat stamp initials or something...
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Yeah I know, I don't want anything from him either!!! I just want to give him the watch and get a matching one later down the road as an anni present. A nice wallet for your DF would be really thoughtful. It's something he would use everyday and it holds all his essentials! I love that idea!
 
#15
kohl_mascara said:
Yeah I know, I don't want anything from him either!!! I just want to give him the watch and get a matching one later down the road as an anni present. A nice wallet for your DF would be really thoughtful. It's something he would use everyday and it holds all his essentials! I love that idea!
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Haha I just Editted my post to take that part out so I don't thread jack! You are just too quick! But yes! I think if I can spend under $500 he won't be as upset. My dress is already a lot! And his outfit is no where near as expensive!
 
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