Do/would you wear solitaire or engagement style rings on other fingers?

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#17
Pop Art Suzy said:
I actually work with this woman who wears a traditional engagement/wedding ring combination on her left ring finger, but she isn't married. Never has been. Apparently her mother bought it for her. I find it odd, to be honest, and I wouldn't do it, but that's me. What she does is her own business. With that being said, I wouldn't wear a traditional engagement ring on my right hand/ring finger either. I don't know, I guess for me, there are so many other styles of rings to wear, why choose an e-ring? I just wouldn't do it, but that's my personal preference. What other people choose to do is their own business.
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Wearing your wedding set on the right is European right? I feel like I saw that while in Spain and the UK. In the US, we wear our wedding set on the left ring finger.
 
#18
Although any ring can be an engagement ring, I think we’re all familiar with which rings are generally associated and marketed for being an engagement ring. I do not wear any ering style on my right hand because I don’t think it looks right as it would clash or compete with my wedding set on my left hand. I usually wear a more traditional right hand ring on my right hand. However, there are no rules so it’s each their own!
 
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NLVOEWITHLV said:
Wearing your wedding set on the right is European right? I feel like I saw that while in Spain and the UK. In the US, we wear our wedding set on the left ring finger.
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I think in Germany most of people wear their ER on their right, but this is to confirm.
I leave in Switzerland and we wear them on our left hand, almost everybody wearing round diamonds in WG set. Very classic style mostly.
 
#22
I think it is safe to say that the diamond solitaire (at least in the US) is commonly understood to be an engagement ring that is then accompanied by a wedding band during the wedding ceremony and worn together thereafter. That tradition is so long-standing that wearing a diamond solitaire ring on a different finger will of course make people wonder why the tradition is being broken. Does she know that's on the wrong finger? Is it a family heirloom? Is it from a broken engagement and she wants to wear it anyway? And so on.... That's not to say that everyone will judge harshly or negatively, but it is unrealistic to think that people won't wonder.

What we wear does send a message. It can't be helped. It's just the way humans are. How people read that message will depend on them and the culture/traditions they came from and how much of what they learned is something they embrace or reject.

As someone who has not always worn what is considered traditional, I can assure you that when you violate/ flout/ disregard traditions, there are many who will be uncomfortable and even downright hostile. They see it as a rejection of their traditions and way of life. Not all of course, but many. If your appearance and viewpoints have always conformed with societies norms, you may not have experienced this, but people can be ridiculous. Specifically regarding an engagement ring on a non-traditional finger, I think the worst judgement you would get is someone thinking you were ignorant about "appropriate" jewelry and how to wear it. Those people are either well-intentioned and just want to educate you on something they think you aren't aware of, or they are snobs and not worth bothering with in my opinion.

By all means, flout convention whenever you please. Just understand that you can't control the fact that people will think what they think.
 
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#23
Harpertoo said:
I just had a more delicate solitaire type ring reset for a more casual comfortable feel. I’m really happy with it. It’s definitely more suited to daily wear.
I’m sure it could be worn as an engagement ring. But to me it makes no difference.

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The way you've had this set is gorgeous, and I agree, makes it perfect for more casual wear, and yet it's still a stunning showcase for that stone, not TOO casual. I also agree that while people could indeed wear it as an engagement ring, the setting does not make it read as an engagement ring when worn on any other finger. Really beautifully done! :heart:
 
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lill_canele said:
Depending on the country, the wedding band and/or e-ring can be worn on the ring finger of the right or left hand.

Honestly I don't think really it really matters that much in this day and age.

I do agree with @A1aGypsy that wearing what may look like a wedding band or e-ring on either ring finger may turn away potential partners. I purposely wore one in my mid-20s because I was not in the mood to date and preferred to work on my career. I'm not sure if it did that good of a job tbh :P (maybe a little) , there are always those who will still try any I guess lol.

Also agree with @papertiger on culture. In many Asian cultures, most people do not wear their e-ring. They prefer to keep it in a safe. However, times are changing and I do see the younger generations (including mine) being more open to wearing their e-rings on a daily basis. (which makes me happy haha, I'd feel sad for the ring locked up in a safe.)
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To buy an e-ring and only to lock it up in a safe :amazed:? I haven't worn my e-ring in years, but that's because it no longer fits me. I am too lazy to get it resized and waiting for an e-ring upgrade. I think in many Asian cultures, people don't really differentiate e-ring vs. wedding band. It's only a wedding ring?
 
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PineappleMinnie said:
To buy an e-ring and only to lock it up in a safe :amazed:? I haven't worn my e-ring in years, but that's because it no longer fits me. I am too lazy to get it resized and waiting for an e-ring upgrade. I think in many Asian cultures, people don't really differentiate e-ring vs. wedding band. It's only a wedding ring?
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(I am Chinese-born American so I can only speak to my culture.)
Both engagement rings and wedding bands are not from traditional Chinese culture. It's mainly a Western tradition.

Wedding bands became a little more common after the cultural revolution, but still are not as popular as many may think.

Our parents generation may or may not wear wedding bands (my parent's ,who are immigrants, and my in-laws, who are from China, do not). In American or other western countries it is more common, but if you went to Taiwan and China, very few people of our parents generation wear wedding bands and engagement rings are almost non-existent. I always get a lot of compliments when I shop in Taiwan because I am one of the few who wears my wedding band set.

Of course, times are changing, I believe with our generation and future generations, wedding bands are definitely a thing, and engagement rings are becoming more common (and expected :graucho:)
(But I noticed that many of my friends or our parents generation, stop wearing their engagement rings after childbirth, probably more for practicality but finger size can and does change after popping out a baby and then it's more of a why be bothered sort of thing.)
 
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lill_canele said:
(I am Chinese-born American so I can only speak to my culture.)
Both engagement rings and wedding bands are not from traditional Chinese culture. It's mainly a Western tradition.

Wedding bands became a little more common after the cultural revolution, but still are not as popular as many may think.

Our parents generation may or may not wear wedding bands (my parent's ,who are immigrants, and my in-laws, who are from China, do not). In American or other western countries it is more common, but if you went to Taiwan and China, very few people of our parents generation wear wedding bands and engagement rings are almost non-existent. I always get a lot of compliments when I shop in Taiwan because I am one of the few who wears my wedding band set.

Of course, times are changing, I believe with our generation and future generations, wedding bands are definitely a thing, and engagement rings are becoming more common (and expected :graucho:)
(But I noticed that many of my friends or our parents generation, stop wearing their engagement rings after childbirth, probably more for practicality but finger size can and does change after popping out a baby and then it's more of a why be bothered sort of thing.)
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I know many of my friends who are parents stop wearing their e-rings after childbirth (e.g. diaper change, bathing a newborn etc. are not convenient with a ring on).

Every generation is different. Also, from my understanding, many people from Asian cultures see 1ct diamond ring as quite significant in size. However, I believe 1ct size diamond ring is the average in the US? I could be wrong. I know there are 4Cs, but just to focus on carat size per se.
 
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