I feel that she needs to explain to you about the situation. If she's upfront, then, it's good. Close one eye and forget about the matter. Request politely of a new/similar order and to inform you earlier if anything happen.
In regards to emailing/explaining to the SM, he/she still needs to know about what exactly is going on. To prevent such mistakes from occuring again. It's part of their job scope and to remind their SAs about the appropriate actions when such situation arises. Only then, client relationship can be improved. Don't worry, nobody will be fired or their pay cut.
I do sound like a difficult customer or customer from hell, lol.