Divorced or soon will be divorced ....

[meluvs2shop]

Thanks all for your replies. As of now, I’m not selling it. Our past makes us who we become today. I view it as a beautiful piece of jewelry. Presently, I’m not wearing it bc it looks like an ering. So it’s in a safe place. Pendant sounds beautiful. Earrings do too, but it’s not a small stone so $$$. I have no doubt that I may give the ring to my child someday. Bc with that ring we created a life and our child. I know lots of ppl upgrade/sell rings. I see no problem with that either. But that’s not what I want to do.

 

[Violet Bleu]

Thanks all for your replies. As of now, I’m not selling it. Our past makes us who we become today. I view it as a beautiful piece of jewelry. Presently, I’m not wearing it bc it looks like an ering. So it’s in a safe place. Pendant sounds beautiful. Earrings do too, but it’s not a small stone so $$$. I have no doubt that I may give the ring to my child someday. Bc with that ring we created a life and our child. I know lots of ppl upgrade/sell rings. I see no problem with that either. But that’s not what I want to do.

It sounds like your heart knows what it wants. Putting it away seems for the best. You may feel differently in the future and can make the best decision for you then. I often find my worst decisions are the ones that I rushed.

 

[Joule]

You've got enough to deal with already. You'll be learning to co-parent and live as an individual instead of half a couple. Wait to worry about the ring until after the dust settles!
By the way, congratulations on what seems to be a very healthy start. Wishing you a fantastic future.

 

[ive_flipped]

I had mine reset into a beautiful cocktail ring.....lol and never wear it. Was going to save it and give it to my daughter but decided not to. I’m going to sell it and buy something I’ll wear almost everyday

 

[Spellman]

I can't speak as someone who has divorced but I was given a ring by my mother after my parents' divorce that my father gave her for their 25th wedding anniversary. She couldn't bear to wear it even though she loved it, there was too much pain there, so I have it now. It is in its original setting and I appreciate it for what it is: a beautiful ring and nothing more. I wish you luck with whatever you choose and for the future.

 

[DD101]

I had a nice solitaire (in a ring) and I let it sit unworn for quite a while. I decided to make it into a pendant, a simple prong set - and I love it and wear it almost every day. If you decide to put it into a different setting, remember you can always change it again at a later date if you want to. Wear it and enjoy it!

 

[aynrand]

I bought my engagement ring from a collector who introduced me to the world of old cuts 25 years ago, along with a group of other collectors who are now my dearest friends. I kept it post divorce for that reason. If it had lots of value, I'd probably sell it.

Great thread. I wish you all the best.

 

[purses&perfumes]

Have it made into a pendant. That’s what I did.
Go to a jeweler that has a computer program that allows you to see what the new creation will look like in 3-D.
You will be amazed at all the possibilities.
Tastes change, and it may not be what you child would wear or give to someone else.
I say reset and continue to enjoy the stone.

 

[ame]

If you have kids, I'd hold on to it for one of them. While your marriage might be a bad end for you, the feelings related to the ring might not be for them.

 

[trishaluvslv]

When i divorced, i tucked it away, but as we never had children i considered all options and wasn't in need of funds. But I didn't feel selling it was right. When I remarried I decided it needed to go, But I realized that my parents had really been there through my divorce, So I had it made into a beautiful bezel set pendant, And gave it to my mother. It's a reminder of my past when I look at it but it also reminds me that with my family's support I was able to move forward to a beautiful new life. I made my mother promise that when she passes away she would leave it To my sister. Perhaps strange But without my past I wouldn't have the life I have now.

 

[meluvs2shop]

When i divorced, i tucked it away, but as we never had children i considered all options and wasn't in need of funds. But I didn't feel selling it was right. When I remarried I decided it needed to go, But I realized that my parents had really been there through my divorce, So I had it made into a beautiful bezel set pendant, And gave it to my mother. It's a reminder of my past when I look at it but it also reminds me that with my family's support I was able to move forward to a beautiful new life. I made my mother promise that when she passes away she would leave it To my sister. Perhaps strange But without my past I wouldn't have the life I have now.

Beautiful story! I also see the ring as a symbol of my past. I grew and I learned from it.

 

[ColorObsessed]

I have the same dilemma now with my ering. My husband and I are getting divorced after less than one year of marriage. My husband was a grad student with little money at the time that he bought the ering, so the ring wouldn't return me much money if I tried to sell it. It probably wouldn't be worth the hassle.

The center stone is a lab made alexandrite for my birthday month. I figure it can be worn just as a right hand ring. But each time I take it out of the box and look at it, it just makes me feel very sad. We didn't have any children, so I don't have anyone to leave it to. Neither my sister nor girlfriends would accept it from me if I tried to give it to them.

I hate the idea of throwing it away in the trash...
I guess it'll just sit at the bottom of my jewelry box forever.

 

[trishaluvslv]

Beautiful story! I also see the ring as a symbol of my past. I grew and I learned from it.

I'm so happy to hear that.

 

[trishaluvslv]

I have the same dilemma now with my ering. My husband and I are getting divorced after less than one year of marriage. My husband was a grad student with little money at the time that he bought the ering, so the ring wouldn't return me much money if I tried to sell it. It probably wouldn't be worth the hassle.

The center stone is a lab made alexandrite for my birthday month. I figure it can be worn just as a right hand ring. But each time I take it out of the box and look at it, it just makes me feel very sad. We didn't have any children, so I don't have anyone to leave it to. Neither my sister nor girlfriends would accept it from me if I tried to give it to them.

I hate the idea of throwing it away in the trash...
I guess it'll just sit at the bottom of my jewelry box forever.

Some day you will pull it out again and realize the lessons that it was meant to teach you dear. I'm so sorry

 

[Mcandy]

my husband bought me a second hand ring from kijiji. I was happy to save some money disregarding the fact that I bought it from a newly divorced couple. ive had it for 3 years now and still happy with the purchase. its just a ring for me. I didn't even bother to rhodium plate it even if it looks almost yellow. I don't believe it brings bad karma or whatever because I think the ring is just a symbol and nothing else. we make our own destiny. even if I had an ex and he gave me a ring I would still keep it. maybe I can consider resetting it or something. my ring may be a symbol of something else to somebody but for me I see it as a ring given by my husband. besides, I love antique and vintage ring so what is the difference?