Divorced or soon will be divorced ....

[meluvs2shop]

What did you or will you do with your engagement ring? I know there are sites like Worthy where you can sell it if you want, but what if I don’t want to. I’m not a bitter woman at all. Although the ring doesn’t hold the same meaning I actually still love it and miss wearing it! I don’t miss wearing it on my left hand tho. I would like to wear it again but perhaps change the setting so it looks less like an ering. Or do you think that’s weird? Odd? I actually would also like to give the ring to my child someday. In my opinion the ring was purchased with love and so much hope for the future that I don’t view it as tainted. What are your thoughts if you saw someone wearing their ering when they are no longer married? Are you like, who cares? Or feel she may be holding on to the past? The thought of selling it never crossed my mind bc it’s a really unique stone.

 

[magdalinka]

Sorry it didn’t work out..
I would wear it. There was love and good times. Why not focus on that rather than the fact that it ended. Maybe switching to right hand or changing the setting is a good idea.
Most people wouldn’t think twice or judge either way.

 

[meluvs2shop]

Thank you. Very kind but honestly we are all in a good place.

It’s fun looking at all the possibilities for a new setting. I just get nervous changing it bc I hate the idea of handing over something of value.

 

[L etoile]

What about making it into a necklace, but keep the old setting in case your child wants it in that one day? I love a sparkly solitaire necklace!

 

[meluvs2shop]

What about making it into a necklace, but keep the old setting in case your child wants it in that one day? I love a sparkly solitaire necklace!

I thought of that too. Sounds beautiful.

 

[bagshopr]

Why don't you wear it on your right hand?

 

[meluvs2shop]

Why don't you wear it on your right hand?

I thought of that but it clearly looks like an ering so not sure about that.

 

[meazar]

I had mine made into a necklace. But after I remarried, my DH commented every time I started to wear it that "I guess I don't buy you enough jewelry... you're wearing that"! So last week, after 13 years, off to auction it went! Successfully! And now I will buy myself something that doesn't have ties to my first marriage. Just my experience...

 

[Pinkie*]

What about making it into a necklace, but keep the old setting in case your child wants it in that one day? I love a sparkly solitaire necklace!

Agree

 

[NWGal]

I took mine to the jeweler where it was purchased and upgraded the setting to a new not so e-ring looking setting and just had the diamond placed in that.

 

[lshcat]

What did you or will you do with your engagement ring? I know there are sites like Worthy where you can sell it if you want, but what if I don’t want to. I’m not a bitter woman at all. Although the ring doesn’t hold the same meaning I actually still love it and miss wearing it! I don’t miss wearing it on my left hand tho. I would like to wear it again but perhaps change the setting so it looks less like an ering. Or do you think that’s weird? Odd? I actually would also like to give the ring to my child someday. In my opinion the ring was purchased with love and so much hope for the future that I don’t view it as tainted. What are your thoughts if you saw someone wearing their ering when they are no longer married? Are you like, who cares? Or feel she may be holding on to the past? The thought of selling it never crossed my mind bc it’s a really unique stone.

Yes I'd do that, change the setting. It's definitely (imo) not okay to keep wearing it as is, I'd have the stones reset into a right hand band or turn the stone into a diamond pendant etc.. (I totally agree with L etoile.) Your child someday may even indeed see the ring with sadness, or a little tainted. Even if you're not bitter, a divorce is very different for a child. Wearing an obvious engagement ring after a divorce (even if on a different hand) is a sure way to keep your love life from moving forward too. Save the setting if you wish, re-purpose the stone(s). No harm in that, and it would be reversible someday if you really regretted it. Good luck (and have fun) deciding!

 

[daisychainz]

Put it in a nice little box in the bottom of your dresser and take it out when you have an older daughter or son to give it to. Adios ring, hello new life.

 

[AlyceG]

It's great you are in such a good place with your ex! Even though you might not have bad feelings i personally wouldn't keep wearing the ring. I'd view it as something from the past and something you are still holding on to. Many cultures also wear their wedding rings on their right hand so it's going to look like an engagement ring either way. I'd either sell it and buy something just for you, or I'd have it reset into another piece of jewellery.

It's nice to keep it for your daughter, but she might want to find her own ring when she meets someone. If you have another item of jewellery made from it at least you can give it to her at any point.

 

[Notorious Pink]

My parents were divorced a million years ago. I had my mothers ering made into a solitaire necklace. Loved it. And I really appreciated having it at a time when I was just starting out professionally and didn't have much nice jewelry.

 

[NLVOEWITHLV]

I’m sorry it didn’t work out, but cheers to your new found freedom and future. Honestly, sometimes I envy the freedom, my DH is usually great, but marriage is hard. I hope the future brings you much happiness.

Now for the ring, I would do one of three things: 1. (Easiest) remove the diamond and make it a solitaire but save the original setting, 2. Buy another matching stone and make earrings, and 3. (My favorite) purchase 2 more stones (1 the same size and 1 bigger) and turn it into a 3 stone ring, the original diamond represents your past, the one of equal size will represent your present, and the largest can represent your future. This to me seems the most appropriate.