Cher's daughter Chastity Bono to undergo sex change

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#32
I really don't understand the "I always felt like I should've been (the opposite sex)....", like when men say they wanted breasts and dabbled in lipstick as kids. That doesn't define "female". I just.....don't get it, I guess.
 
#33
Hopefully this will help:

A person that cross dresses adopts the identity of the opposite through dress and behavior. Cross dressing is a form of gender expression. People that cross dress can be either gay or heterosexual.

RuPaul is an example.


A transsexual is a person who identifies as a member of the opposite sex. Transsexuals usually desire physical alteration of their bodies to bring them closer to the sex in which they identify.

Chaz Bono is a transsexual. He was born Chastitiy Sun Bono. He identifies himself as male and is in the process of taking the necessary surgical steps.




A transgender person is one who dresses as, desires to be, has undergone surgery to become or identifies as a person of the opposite sex.

Alexis Arquette is a transgender. She was born Robert Arquette and went through the steps to become Alexis. She identifies herself as female and female pronouns are used.

I got all my information here:

http://gaylife.about.com/od/gaydictionary/g/transsexual.htm


The first one is more on the surface. They can take the wig, the makeup and the dress off. RuPaul has often performed as a man using his given name.



The second two are more permanent. Not only do they want to wear the clothes, they want the body inside the clothes.





I'm not trying to change anyone's mind. If you disagree with what Chaz is doing then while I don't agree with you, I respect your opinion.

I just want people to understand it a little more. These people are not freaks of nature. They're just uncomfortable in their own bodies and want to do something to change it.


http://stuffqueerpeopleneedtoknow.wordpress.com/2009/06/12/chaz-bono-spurs-trans-etiquette-talk/
 
#38
At least Chaz waited 20 years to do this, which means she/he is pretty darn sure of the decision.
As a parent, a sex change for my child would be soooo hard for me to accept, it would hurt me beyond what I can imagine. I could care less what strangers or friends do to their bodies. I have had 2 friends/aquaintances that went from man to woman and I saw nothing but a woman after surgery. Although I have been known to question the psychology of it if its done at a young age.


That said I think its strange that its politically incorrect for us to slam someone for a sex change, but politically acceptable to slam a woman for breast implants. :thinkin:
 
#39
^ I understand as a parent what you're sayin^ I think I'd rather my child be happy who they are; and could accept the change if I knew this would make their life a more normal one for them. KWIM.
 
#40
If Chaz is happy, then that's what matters and I support him. And as others have posted this has been years in the making (he's only a little bit younger than I) so it's not anything spontaneous.
 
#41
caitlin1214 said:
If you agree what Chaz is doing, he prefers to be referred to as a male.

If you don't and still think of her as Chastity, refer to her as female.
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I can't really explain why I feel this way, but it's hard for me to refer to Chastity/Chaz as "him" or "male" until the operation is complete. It has nothing to do with agreeing with it or not (I don't really care either way).
 
#42
michie said:
I really don't understand the "I always felt like I should've been (the opposite sex)....", like when men say they wanted breasts and dabbled in lipstick as kids. That doesn't define "female". I just.....don't get it, I guess.
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That's exactly the point. These people realize that a stuffed bra and lipstick don't define a person, so just dressing up doesn't achieve the end. I know that if I were suddenly catapulted into a man's body I would feel uncomfortable because I identify as female. Many transgendered individuals have been tortured with that feeling (waking up in the wrong body) since early childhood, and they just want to feel like their body matches their mind and their identity. Many transgendered individuals have been suicidal because they saw no way to rectify what they experience as being a colossal error, and I think that if the gender reassignment and surgery can help these people feel complete, then it is to be applauded.
 
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HauteMama said:
That's exactly the point. These people realize that a stuffed bra and lipstick don't define a person, so just dressing up doesn't achieve the end. I know that if I were suddenly catapulted into a man's body I would feel uncomfortable because I identify as female. Many transgendered individuals have been tortured with that feeling (waking up in the wrong body) since early childhood, and they just want to feel like their body matches their mind and their identity. Many transgendered individuals have been suicidal because they saw no way to rectify what they experience as being a colossal error, and I think that if the gender reassignment and surgery can help these people feel complete, then it is to be applauded.
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Thanks for the explanation......it still eludes me, though. I guess I can't understand it because it's not me.
 
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