Do wet want some new challenges in August?
How about wearing one non-black neutral per week (whatever is a neutral for you)
How about wearing one non-black neutral per week (whatever is a neutral for you)
2025 Resolution: Shopping my own Bag and SLG Collection
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It's the worst feeling in the world. I think it happens because so much is out of our control when our loved ones are unwell and we can only watch and hope for the best. Be kind to yourself. You're doing amazingly well.
Oh, I'm like this as well. It's easier to text and send messages when I'm unwell than it is to call and hold a conversation, no matter how brief. Talking takes more effort somehow.
I hope he's feeling better overall. Pneumonia is so difficult.
This is incredible news! Congratulations!
Thank you!
I don’t either. We talk on tPF about handbags, jewelry, shoes and fashion. There are a ton of fashion content creators. And the fashion brands are making billions. Yet, I live in a top 10 US metro area and everyone always looks like they woke up and threw on clothes more suited for yard work or a nap than being outside the house.
So who / what / where is fashion?
I’m not one for holding to overly strict social fashion norms (wear white in winter - it can be cute!) but people really look quite disheveled, haggard and tired now. I guess people look like many of us feel sometimes now with so much unrest.
Thanks for doing the translation. Being in the US, I did think @papertiger was wearing a collared knit shirt.
@papertiger - You have sooooo much going on. And yet you’re still achieving so much! Give yourself room to breathe. You don’t need to be at the forefront of the new and the transformational in this moment.
Celebrate the good and give space for coping with the not so good. The time to be a change agent will come later.
Sending you hugs!
Thank you
Both are stunning!Sparkletastic’s Grey Bags
• Chanel Medium Classic Flap in pearly grey lambskin and shw.
This is one of my faaaaaavorite and most used bags!
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• Chanel Jumbo Single Classic Flap in dove grey lambskin and shw featuring the lovely ‘06 bijoux chain.
I love how unique this bag is. I don’t wear her often but I can’t ever give her up.
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Thank you so much @cecchetti! That has made me feel a lot better!
Hoping for a positive update from you. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
I only have one grey bag . Mulberry Antony!
They are both gorgeous! They glow!Sparkletastic’s Grey Bags
• Chanel Medium Classic Flap in pearly grey lambskin and shw.
This is one of my faaaaaavorite and most used bags!
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• Chanel Jumbo Single Classic Flap in dove grey lambskin and shw featuring the lovely ‘06 bijoux chain.
I love how unique this bag is. I don’t wear her often but I can’t ever give her up.
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Unfortunately, there will always be hardship and chaos in our world. To stay sane, we have to focus on what we can change and then allow ourselves necessary self love.I've been having a hard time so decided to go out late yesterday (which is unlike me; I'm an early morning person). I went to the outlets and browsed some really beautiful bags, thinking it would reduce my stress levels. Biggest mistake of my life!
I fell in deep, unconditional love with bags from Ferragamo and Loewe. They were lush. The leather was divine.
For the first time ever, I really longed for something totally unaffordable and felt depressed that I couldn't have one of them. Don't get me wrong, I've wanted bags I'm priced out of before, but usually, I can just enjoy them from afar and not need to own them.
This time was different. Maybe because they were in the outlet so they were just out of reach (by a few hundred, rather than a few thousand) and that made it a bit harder because...so close but not really, lol. It actually hurt to walk away from them.
I got swept up in a morality spiral which is so pointless but my brain wouldn't shut up.
If I had the money, would I really spend this much on myself? Have I earned the right to something this beautiful? Could I allow myself to use it knowing I don't live up to the beauty of the bag? Am I a good enough person that I can justify this self-indulgence?
Then I started saying, okay, if I had the £600, would it not be better to spend 200 on myself and give the other 400 to someone who needs it more? What's the cut-off for me vs. other people?
It's such a useless guilt trip to go on. Morality shouldn't be tied into material items. Yet, here I was, more depressed than when I ventured out because the two were interlinked in my mind.
Anyway, what I learned from torturing myself is that I think my style is evolving. These bags are not my usual aesthetic. They're more refined. I felt like that could be the start of a new chapter for me. Maybe that's all I'm after, in the end. I'd like this miserable chapter to end and a quieter, more beautiful one to start. I think many of us feel that way right now.
If I had the means, I would completely rebuild my bag collection at this point. I feel ready for a drastic change. I'd limit myself to 5 or 6 stunning bags that made me as happy as those bags I tried yesterday did.
While I wait for my lifestyle to match my daydreams, I'm going to enjoy the bags I do own while they're with me. I've only been using 2 crossbodies so far this year and that's somehow made me fall out of love with everything. I'm going to pull some bags out and immediately start carrying them, so I can remind myself of what I already have.
Edit: @Sparkletastic Beautiful grey bags above!
Are you committing to a charitable endeavor? If not, then utilize this watershed moment to select one (or two) that you can commit to supporting. If you are already doing so, wonderful!
In either case, once you have actively fed your moral imperative, it’s perfectly healthy and good to care for yourself.
If you truly feel your mom needs more aggressive care, please speak strongly with your father as her advocate and push for her getting what she needs. She deserves your active care.
I continue to send you positive energy and hugs during this tough time.
So nice! I feel like I’m missing a great Mulberry bag in my collection.
Thanks for your thoughts, Sparks. You are, of course, absolutely right.
I know what I was thinking was ludicrous. I would never pass this kind of judgment on another person, so I'm not sure why I did this to myself.
It's been a recurring theme in recent years- I get fed up of hospitals and fall into a depression and anxiety spiral, get the urge to totally revamp my bag collection, and then inexplicably question whether I'm even worth daydreaming about new bags.
Let's be totally honest, it's totally irrational and unreasonable thinking.
But 2 positives that came out of this are that I immediately recognized the trigger was my anxiety from the previous weeks dealing with health complications, and that I am in a rut and need to pull some bags from my closet to shake things up. So, I took out both a green and a grey bag (prompted by the recent colour weeks) to carry this week.
Just handling them again has made me feel better and reminded me of how much I love my collection. As for the core issue of anxiety, I am trying some CBT exercises and hoping to break that cycle.I appreciate you listening to me ramble and giving me the prompts to help work this out.
Thank you everyone for your support, and apologies if I don’t reply individually.
This morning I went out with my girlfriend , who was very supportive.
I came back to an email from my sister, thanking me for her birthday presents.
My Mum is now receiving palliative care.
She is not on a drip.Shes just eating soup, yogurt, custard etc.My Dad wants her at home and is paying an army of carers to keep her comfortable.
It’s just a matter of time.
I’m drinking Milk of Magnesia after each meal for my stressed, somersaulting stomach.I do not know how to get through the next few weeks/months…days.
The day out I had booked with my girlfriend in April to break my clothes shopping ban(which she is blissfully unaware of) is being brought forward, although may yet be cancelled if my Mum doesn’t survive that long-I just need a day out, away from stress, hospitals and everything to give the resources to face the nightmares I have to face.
I don’t yet have a date for the hysteroscopy but that will arrive this week on top of everything..
This morning I went out with my girlfriend , who was very supportive.
I came back to an email from my sister, thanking me for her birthday presents.
My Mum is now receiving palliative care.
She is not on a drip.Shes just eating soup, yogurt, custard etc.My Dad wants her at home and is paying an army of carers to keep her comfortable.
It’s just a matter of time.
I’m drinking Milk of Magnesia after each meal for my stressed, somersaulting stomach.I do not know how to get through the next few weeks/months…days.
The day out I had booked with my girlfriend in April to break my clothes shopping ban(which she is blissfully unaware of) is being brought forward, although may yet be cancelled if my Mum doesn’t survive that long-I just need a day out, away from stress, hospitals and everything to give the resources to face the nightmares I have to face.
I don’t yet have a date for the hysteroscopy but that will arrive this week on top of everything..
You have a lot on your plate; be kind to yourself. Yes, this has been said often but it bears repeating.
BS. - sorry! This kind of charts always reminds me of silly magazines for pre- teens.I saw this in a Facebook post and thought it was super silly.Thought I’d share it for giggles. What are your thoughts…
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Please don't beat yourself up for dreaming and wanting something nice. You are such a thoughtful and responsible person. You always give, you always care for others. I don't see any reason to feel guilty or unworthy ( where do these doubts re self worth even come from? What taught so many of us to question our self- worth?). In contrary! I feel you deserve everything that makes you happy, recharges your batteries. Maybe, If we all manifest it, one of the bags you loved so much will find it's way to you via the preloved market. That would be so nice.I've been having a hard time so decided to go out late yesterday (which is unlike me; I'm an early morning person). I went to the outlets and browsed some really beautiful bags, thinking it would reduce my stress levels. Biggest mistake of my life!
I fell in deep, unconditional love with bags from Ferragamo and Loewe. They were lush. The leather was divine.
For the first time ever, I really longed for something totally unaffordable and felt depressed that I couldn't have one of them. Don't get me wrong, I've wanted bags I'm priced out of before, but usually, I can just enjoy them from afar and not need to own them.
This time was different. Maybe because they were in the outlet so they were just out of reach (by a few hundred, rather than a few thousand) and that made it a bit harder because...so close but not really, lol. It actually hurt to walk away from them.
I got swept up in a morality spiral which is so pointless but my brain wouldn't shut up.
If I had the money, would I really spend this much on myself? Have I earned the right to something this beautiful? Could I allow myself to use it knowing I don't live up to the beauty of the bag? Am I a good enough person that I can justify this self-indulgence?
Then I started saying, okay, if I had the £600, would it not be better to spend 200 on myself and give the other 400 to someone who needs it more? What's the cut-off for me vs. other people?
It's such a useless guilt trip to go on. Morality shouldn't be tied into material items. Yet, here I was, more depressed than when I ventured out because the two were interlinked in my mind.
Anyway, what I learned from torturing myself is that I think my style is evolving. These bags are not my usual aesthetic. They're more refined. I felt like that could be the start of a new chapter for me. Maybe that's all I'm after, in the end. I'd like this miserable chapter to end and a quieter, more beautiful one to start. I think many of us feel that way right now.
If I had the means, I would completely rebuild my bag collection at this point. I feel ready for a drastic change. I'd limit myself to 5 or 6 stunning bags that made me as happy as those bags I tried yesterday did.
While I wait for my lifestyle to match my daydreams, I'm going to enjoy the bags I do own while they're with me. I've only been using 2 crossbodies so far this year and that's somehow made me fall out of love with everything. I'm going to pull some bags out and immediately start carrying them, so I can remind myself of what I already have.
Edit: @Sparkletastic Beautiful grey bags above!
Grey bag week
My only grey bag is the Miss Dior.
My only grey bag is the Miss Dior.