@jblended, when I read your response about bags that are too old, or too young and the clamour of your inner child (fashion wise ), something about your post made me think about about a thread possibly started by
@papertiger about whether we feel ignored. . . (as in things are not advertised or meant for our demographic; or they just don’t ‘speak’ to us. . .
My response was, are we overthinking or being too sensitive? I actually responded that I feel that gen x ( I’m 53) is kind of the odd one out. We’re not as unapologetically stylistically defined as boomers are. And, we’re not hip and relaxed millenial or Y or whatever the category is that loves life experiences more than things. we’re in between and Constangly striving. . .
Re your ‘too young‘ round bag, you could wear it with jeans (to ‘mundane activities’ like the bakery or pharmacy as per
@doni) (as an aside, I am now picturing
@doni wearing cream helmet Lang leather pants to buy toothpaste at the pharmacy); you could warehouse it until you re much older, and then it will become part of your self described ‘frivolous‘ style; or you could let it go. . . (IMO part of that decision for me would be bag hardware). You could also pair it with doc martens whcih can look great on older petite people and instantly gives some irony to an outfit.
@More bags,
1. I still have a roving eye re beauty, but some beauty isn’t me, so I don’t have to own it. If you still have a roving eye, are you subconsciously still looking to upgrade or replace? or perhaps, you just love eye candy
I feel that way about a lot of VCA: Alhambra with a few exceptions looks wrong on me (like I’ve borrowed from an acquaintances waspy friends mom’s closet) (the imposter syndrome).
@whateve, I’m at the point where i want to face up to the fact, the beautiful bag won’t make me look like the gorgeous model peddling it In the ad campaign, and sometimes that’s enough to stop me.
2. re platonic ideals, the hobo, Usually larger bc of its hobo ness and usually worn with jeans casually. Depending on mood and my weight, I’m either a 35 trim II or a BV Veneta large Bc of silhouette. within the Trim, I vacillate between the 35 Trim II Togo (though I have not yet gotten rid of 35 Trim II barenia — it doesn’t slouch as attractively— or the too east west 31 barenia crinoline Trim II — bc I love crinoline). When I feel heavy ( and or my wrist acts up and I cannot deal with bag weight or I want something to stay on the shoulder), I turn to the BV Veneta large. I think
@muchstuff once spoke of certain BV models being too sticky outy until worn in, and I agree with that, but some models kind of wrap around the torso and conceal the muffin top, so those appeal to me. . . note: I am of an age that remembers the yearning to be a skinny girl in slim leggings with lots of hair and a big unstructured bag. . IRL, I’m short but medium build, and something like the mini BV Jodi Looks ridiculous on me Like a toy.
3. as for the crossbody, there are sub categories: 1. the practical mom bag (evelyne III in either 29 or 33); the cute mini (I like a practical men’s ghurka p bc it’s larger and cheaper than the H tpm but still small); th efrivolous like a chanel so black mini.
there are bags that defy broad categories. For example, a birkin is a tote and so is a Goyard St. louis, but they are in different universes altogether. . .
4. bags that are too mature make me think of pre 2008. I was basically a chanel person until that year bc I bought a lot of RTW. (
@dcooney4, its ready to wear, referring to designer off the rack clothing, as opposed to MtM (made to measure, something that is a standard format, tailored to fit your frame) or custom. ( measured to fit); and, a mature bag can look really cute on a young thin individual. But the price point made me think I should switch to H,a new I did Except for a few reissues, none of which I wear except the mini. I think I keep them in case mymom needs to borrow them or in case, like
@sherrylynn, I need to look like an adult.
@sherrylynn, forgot to say, I love your well edited bag collection, and there are some good deals on bolides on eBay and japanese reseller sites and elsewhere (of course, authenticate and do due diligence bf purchase).
@paper tiger, I would have passed on the vibrato barenia oil stain too. But it would have been a struggle. I am also not a lucite or raffia person, but I keep hoping if I ever can drop the perennial 10 or 20 pounds and ever start blow drying my hair on a regular basis (neither of which is likely to happen). . . No it will never be my style.
@Hazzelnut, I also don’t have a problem with a majority of my closet not being touched in years so long as I can imagine it actually happening (like in the realm of possibility and not just fantasy). I didn’t invest in teh BV pouch, for this reason, but I liked the style enough to buy two pouch type bags on Etsy.
@momasaurus, I also had given up my first H bag, BBK ghw, bc it was ghw. After years of deciding i was not a kelly person, I just boughta BBK, phw, retourne (a big departure for this sellier lover) in part bc it was a great deal. I love it. for bags, HW is a deal breaker for me.
apologies, I did not mean to write a novel!
p.s.
@Purses & Perfumes, what brand of cloth dish towels Do you recommend?
Time to make fitness and healthy eating a priority again (just maybe not at the same level of intensity it was a few years ago)
Sometimes, I think it also helps to just accept that one will have gaps in the wardrobe, and that is okay. I mean, our wardrobes are an evolving process and will never really be complete -- once a gap is filled, there will always be some other gap to take its place..... 
