BacardiGirl...I hope my daughter loves and respects me as much as you obviously love and respect your parents! Good luck with your father's surgery!
I agree!
We were taught to take pride and enjoyment in doing well and being smart. We sometimes received gifts for grades, but it was never definite.
For doing well in elementary school we went to dinner at Sizzler and got to go out to the movies.
For doing well in junior high we got a small trinket or a nicer version of something we already needed like jeans or sneakers.
For doing well in high school our gift was not getting grounded.
For doing well in college our gift was not getting cut off from those tuition payments. We had to work if we wanted spending money.
My parents were rough, overprotective, incredibly strict, and I hated them growing up. All my friends got nice things and allowance including in college and after!
Now I realize that they were and are wonderful in their own way because as a 25 year old single woman who works, I dont expect anything from anyone or feel entitled to things for doing my job and meeting my responsibilities.
Ill take the gifts of a good moral compass, love and affection, and a strong sense of self over a handbag anyday.
BacardiGirl, bless you. You are such a wonderful daughter!
I cannot remember if the OP stated her age, but she sounds young. With age, and life experience, I believe thought on these things change. OP, I am very happy you have a loving mother, you are very blessed.
In my youth, my mother could never afford any luxury item for herself, let alone me...but she gave me love, which is better than 10 million bags.
i just got a job at a clothing store. so for everyone that says "oh it's not easy to get a job," you're just being lazy. [\quote]
As a foreign student the government limits the amount of money I'm allowed to make on a regular basis (340€ per month, every job where I could earn more I need not apply) AND (worse) my possible employer needs to ask a state institution whether I can do this job or not (for everything they have to aks) --> this takes up to 2 weeks. (the employers know this, the only time I got hired was when the responsible didn't know about this regulation at all...) The other possibility is 3 months unlimited earnings, but only 3 months per year, and you cannot do this additionally to the first possibility (and as stated, having to ask whether I can do this...). If you still call this easy circumstances to find a job, then do it...
ok, I possibly could easily get jobs Austrians don't want (cleaning toilets...), but I'm simply not willing to do this when I'm not dependant on a job. And I still say: getting a decent job is difficult here
IMHO, parents aren't "wonderful" because they reward you with bags for being responsible in school... Where's the work ethic gone to nowadays??
All bag talk aside....
Just a quick tip to help you improve your grades even more. School, not skool.
I know this is a bag forum but theres so much more I need to teach and instill in my children than designer bags. We are not well off but I still take them to help out the homeless, volunteer their time, and help people. We are blue collar working folks and it teaches them that life is not just about you, its about everyone around you as well.
I am a foster parent and I get children who think its a luxury to take a bath and put on clean clothes, to sleep in a warm bed. I have had children ask me at bathtime if the water would be warm because they had never had a warm bath.
It may sound terrible but I think all children should first be exposed to what they DO have instead of what they dont have and this world would be a much better place.