Hiya!
Great list! Here is my take on it...
Black MC speedy $1800 - Definitely keep this there since it is your dream bag!
Damier Duomo $1270 -Gorgeous bag---keep it on the list.
Black Eye Miss You --take this off the list since your DH doesn't know Ebay very well.
Silver or khaki graffiti speedy (around $1300ish) --take this off for the same reason as above.
Manhattan PM $1390 - I don't think it's too much like the Duomo. It's a cute bag.
Black MC Trouville $1330 - Very cute bag! Leave this on the list.
Damier Alma $880 - I'm not too keen on this bag myself, so I would take it off, but if you like it, I would keep it on.
Monogram Trouville $870 -Since you prefer the MC one, just take this off the list.
brown/pink Cherry Blossom Cles $around 300 - take this off.
brown/Pink cherry blossom papillon (around $1000)...take this off since DH doesn't know Ebay.
Epi speedy 25 in new red $885 - This is a gorgeous bag! Definitely keep this on the list.
Batignolles regular $705 - I'd take this off the list.
Popincourt Haut $825 - I'd take this off, too.
Saleya PM $855 - I'd take this off.
Monogram papillon 30 $845 - This is gorgeous, but if you aren't sold on it, take it off.
Basically, if you really really want to get what you totally *want the most* for your Birthday, keep your list shorter and limit it to just those items. You may not be as surprised, but then again, you'll get your dream bag.
I would make a short list of:
Black MC Speedy
Black MC Trouville
Damier Duomo