Your Perfect Wedding Ring OR His??

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#16
oo0ehxtahcee0oo said:
Haha I know what you mean. I guess being all symmetrical and even (equal) to him is a symbol of being equal in all aspects of the marriage.
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Ooooookay, so it's about it being symmetrical, not about the folding thing :p haha, I was so confused!!

Kellybag said:
I can tell you that as you are married and over time, you do see the ring a little differently than when you were waiting to receive yours. I have heard this from countless people.
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That is so true! I've only been wearing mine for a year, and I already see it quite differently. My mother said that now, 33 years later, the original reasons she loved the ring she chose (my dad took her shopping for it, didn't present her with it) are now completely obsolete... but she's found a million other reasons, and very few of them have to do with its shape or design.
 
#17
I would think a guy wouldn't really care. You tell them what you want they go out and get it!!

My friend's husband went all the way to New York to get her diamond and let me tell you, that thing is BLINGING!!! sometimes I cant stop looking at her hand.

However, if the girl really loves her man, she won't care what kind of diamond it is because she is getting the best gift of all!...him


oh forgot to mention that the ring he brought her was about a half a year's pay..

I think whatever my fiance gives me, I will except. However after we are married and years in I want a larger rock for our anniversary! LMAO
 
#19
jahp, a lot of guys DO care.
My DH cares, he always likes to have a say in the decor of this home:push:
He doesn't 'check out' on this kind of stuff. Trust me, there's plenty he checks out on, but he really likes to assert his opinion just like I do:yes:
I'd guess at least half the men out there care very much about the ring and want to enjoy it as much as their DW.
 
#20
I droppped a "few" hints of what I wanted and he did soooo good. I love my ring and the beest part is that he picked it himself but I still got what I really wanted.
 
#21
We actually went to look at rings together a couple times and have decided on a setting :p He knows I'm rather specific when it comes to certain things...besides, trying rings on together is FUN!

I understand that whole 'it's my money so I do what I want with it' and do not like it one bit! However, if he's found someone who doesn't mind his, IMHO, selfish behavior then it's all good, isn't it?

I should mention that I tell my BF that "What his is mine and what's mine is mine" all the time as a joke :D
 
#22
Swanky Mama Of Three said:
jahp, a lot of guys DO care.
My DH cares, he always likes to have a say in the decor of this home:push:
He doesn't 'check out' on this kind of stuff. Trust me, there's plenty he checks out on, but he really likes to assert his opinion just like I do:yes:
I'd guess at least half the men out there care very much about the ring and want to enjoy it as much as their DW.
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My fiance also cares about this kind of stuff. Ultimately the choice was mine, but he really liked a simple, classic design. I wish he didn't care about home decor!!! LOL!! :p We're shopping for furniture and its such a pain to have something I like get vetoed! But at least that goes both ways.
 
#25
oo0ehxtahcee0oo said:
The other day when I went to pick out my new engagement ring setting, I met a man who was looking at engagement rings for his GF. He said she wanted a princess cut, be he didn't like it and because it was HIS money, that he was going to buy her what he liked which was a round. I told him, "But it's her ring! She has to wear it!"
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Swanky Mama Of Three said:
eww! What a jerk! Maybe she'll politely decline:p
It's a union between TWO people, it's about both of us/you.

DH also digs a solitaire, I WANT him to love my ring as much as me and me getting some side pears isn't as big of a deal as him loving it. We compromised, I got a bigger stone! :D

Seriously, there's for sure one ring out there that every couple can agree on, I think it's important that they do.
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My boyfriend used to think the same way as the man in the jewelry store. Luckily a VERY wise friend of his told him it's the same analogy as if I were to buy my BF rims for his car. We have different taste and what I like may not be what he wants to see everyday :p So now, I get to choose my setting which he should thank me for since I am the one doing the research on pricing and whatnot :rolleyes: However, I do think it is important to have his feedback and luckily for me, his tune is now "get whatever you like but I decide the specifics on the center stone." And this is fine by me :love:
 
#26
Swanky Mama Of Three said:
^but you hope he loves it as much as you . . . yes?
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Yes. :smile1: He knows I'm really picky about things and it will make him happy if I'm happy. That way he won't have to hear me complain. lol In trying on rings, the only thing he's mentioned once is not liking lots of "stuff" around the ring. He likes the classic Tiffany solitaire in a knife edge setting and I feel the same way anyway. Usually,he just sits back bored as I try on and compare rings. Though he comes alive when it's bargaining time. :laugh:
 
#27
Hmm..I think that it should be about what the GF wants since she is the one wearing it and will (hopefully) be doing so for the rest of her life. When my DH and I were talking about getting engaged, all I told him was that I wanted a pear, that was it. He also liked the pear shape, so I guess it was not an issue for us...although I did just ask him his thoughts (he is sitting right here), and he said that it should be about what the woman wants...I've trained him well, lol.
 
#29
Although it's my ring, and I'm the one wearing it, don't think I would get one I knew DH didn't like - not for an engagement ring/wedding band. We just did an anniversary upgrade, so this is a moot question for my until, like, my 25th anniversary! but still, we passed a gorgeous jewelers on a stroll the other day, and I idly pointed out a beautiful ring with a halo setting - turns out he doesn't like them. Can't really say why, just doesn't. So although I love them,I would only do that type of setting for a right hand, occasional ring -- just don't think I would want something that is a symbol of our union to be something that bugged him! The reverse holds too, he would also NEVER push a choice on me based on the idea that he was paying for it.
 
#30
macbagger said:
Although it's my ring, and I'm the one wearing it, don't think I would get one I knew DH didn't like - not for an engagement ring/wedding band. We just did an anniversary upgrade, so this is a moot question for my until, like, my 25th anniversary! but still, we passed a gorgeous jewelers on a stroll the other day, and I idly pointed out a beautiful ring with a halo setting - turns out he doesn't like them. Can't really say why, just doesn't. So although I love them,I would only do that type of setting for a right hand, occasional ring -- just don't think I would want something that is a symbol of our union to be something that bugged him! The reverse holds too, he would also NEVER push a choice on me based on the idea that he was paying for it.
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^^ great post!!
 
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