Oh yes, I hear you! I bought some black boots with brassy hardware, and I went and bought a black oil Sharpie that is made to color metal and painted it all black. I'm afraid I could not get away with that on a handbag, but the boot metal was not prominent.I feel the same way mkpurselover
I only wear white gold or silver jewelry and I do not personally like mixing metals. Because I very much like to match, this means that I only buy bags with silver hardware.
I cannot even wear a dress if a not hidden zipper is gold.