Maybe this all comes down to me not even understanding how something becomes a “holy grail.” Is it based around price? Does HG mean it’s definitive that you’ll buy it? Or does it mean that you’re not certain you’re going to buy it? Or does it mean that the reason you haven’t bought it is because of scarcity as opposed to finances? I just feel confused about how people even know what counts as a holy grail.It’s a term I really didn’t give much thought until I joined this forum, so I feel like my understanding of HGs is limited.
I came back to this thread to update my list (I decided I didn’t need/ couldn’t find the right gold watch — everything was too feminine or made me feel like a middle aged rapper). And, then I reread your post and had to comment on HG. I don’t really like the term HG perhaps bc it implies a life long obsessive quest to find the apex of ones existence. I’d like to think none of us really feel this way about any object, and that when TPF uses the term it’s tongue in cheek. But, I suppose most TPFers use it to describe the apex of the list. Presumably we eventually reach that point and find a new grail to chase.
I also learned that I’m not really a list person either. After looking for the ‘right’ gold watch, and not finding it, I stumbled upon the last RG serpenti tubogas pave bracelet at the boutique (they’re discontinuing this model) and a current model RG serpenti pave head and tail ring. I literally mean ‘stumbled‘ bc the reason DH and I went to the boutique was: we were at Nike buying him sneakers; I had too much iced coffee; and, Nike didn’t have a bathroom. I did not want to drag DH south into Saks. I had initially thought that I would to go to Bulgari (by myself at some point) to try to the current sepenti pave bracelet based on @Cool Breeze ‘S wrist pics, but I had no notion of buying anything big like a bracelet . Perhaps at most look a little ring, perfumes, or bags.
This is a long way of saying, perhaps you dont actually actively search for an HG. If you find something that resonates — that causes you to come to a full stop — then it’s an HG. When I put this on, I realized that i don’t need a Rolex/Cartier or Breguet/Dior gold watch; VCA buton d’or earrings; or any other list item. Which is good bc this is a significant amount of money, and I’ve promised myself Im done (at least for this calendar year). The bracelet and ring are techically rose gold, so I’m mixing it up. (Before 2020, i mainly only wore WG, platinum or steel). The SA, DH and I, all actually love it all worn on one hand (part of the serpenti is hidden under the cuff) — in that case, I don’t wear other jewelry. DH even urged me to get the ring for the pinkie and forego my other rings for now . . . He thinks it’s much more whimsical than my wedding or cocktail rings
So, for me, an HG is when you wear them, other things become irrelevant. Besides, nothing else would fit on my wrist and to reduce cost per wear, I am planning on wearing all this, all the freaking time 
Done!
thank you so much @HauteMama for your kind words below!
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