What to do with engagement ring from first marriage?

[risingsun]

As I always say, "Jewelry endures." Have it reset and enjoy it. There is no bad jewelry karma I have pieces left over from my first marriage, which have been redone. I wouldn't have my emerald ring or my sapphire ring, in their new settings, if I didn't believe this

 

[schadenfreude13]

If your boyfriend doesn't have a problem with you wearing it every so often - I'd reset it into a pendant and still give it to your son when it's time. Because personally I'd hate to let a pretty diamond sit around unused for 10-15 years.

 

[frick&frack]

I had my stone set in a new ring. I'll take a pic for you & post. my diamond is around 2 ct.

 

[HermesFSH]

Thank you all! I think for now I will do nothing and wait. Our son loves us both (and we both make him a priority and have an amicable relationship because of it) and I think he might appreciate having something from our marriage. Or he could sell it if he wants.

Although I LOVE Swanky's suggestion about making a pair of earrings! Of course a quick search on Blue Nile shows I would need to spend about $7000-8000 for another diamond and almost 2 carats in each ear might be a little big, no? Still love that suggestion!

Good idea to wait rather than rush into it. I don't think there's bad jewelery karma - the ring would be perfect for your son as it was a symbol of love between his parents, and a child would always appreciate that irrespective of how the marriage ended.

I wouldn't spend money on another diamond just to use this one. I prefer Brilliant earrings rather than Princess Cut ones anyway.

NYCCady - that's a great story! And very generous of you! Your ex sounds just like mine, at least mine did the same thing (cheating) which is why in a way I don't want a reminder of him. I am in such a better place and happier. And thrilled that I found love again! Living well is the best revenge! Congrats on your marriage!

Exactly! Glad you found happiness and can move forward. Congratulations!

 

[skyqueen]

NEVER waste a good diamond! LOL!
Reset it in an Elsa Perretti type (Tiffany DBTY) single diamond setting. Perfect size diamond for this type of setting. It would look gorgeous and make quite a statement! Then when the time comes you could give it to your son. Win-win situation.
Congrats on finding a wonderful partner...after a serial cheat, you deserve it!

 

[daluu]

definitely keep it for your son and let him choose between the two diamonds when it's his time to do so.

 

[tbbbjb]

Can you use it as an upgrade to the stone your future fiance would buy you? It is just a thought that I did not see mentioned by anyone else ans since it is a sizable stone you should be able to get a really nice engagement ring by using it.

 

[Little Tiger]

I've been married before and am getting re-married next May so I've been where you are now! My first marriage didn't end well and I had two engagement rings. One was my grandmother's which I obviously kept regardless of the outcome of the marriage. The one that my ex gave me was a 1.50 carat emerald cut solitaire, very simple, but pretty. I ended up selling it because while I didn't need the money, I just wanted it gone and no reminders of what a cheater he was. I then donated the money to Dress for Success NYC. It made me feel better knowing that the money from a ring to a failed marriage helped one of my favorite charities!

You have a huge heart, that's really wonderful

To the OP: if you're not really sure at the moment, and don't need the money, I would hang onto it til you feel ready to make a decision. I am still hanging onto a lot of jewellery which I'll never wear, but am not ready to part with quite yet because of the history (albeit family in my case).

You'll know what to do with it in due course, but don't feel pressurised into making a decision...you could sell it now, or make something beautiful out of it for your future daughter in law (new beginnings), or many other options.