That's how Portrait of a Lady and, in fact, many Frederic Malles are. It's not a house that is easy to love on the first try. I know I certainly didn't get them at first. But something kept making me come back to them, and now it's one of my top three houses. Still, Portrait of a Lady's drydown is a disappointment to me.
Today is Christian Dior Bois d'Argent because it's amazing, and I haven't worn it since the very beginning of the month.
Firstly, thank you for sharing the memories about your brother. It is very comforting to find a scent which reminds you of someone you love.
I might give POAL another go. It reminds me a little of Serge Lutens Féminité du Bois, which I love.