What if you no longer like your wedding band?

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#16
I have no sentimental attachment to my wedding band. I've had at least 5 different one's over the past 9 years. When we got married I didn't even have the wedding band he bought me at the time because it was on order and didn't arrive in time, so we used a "stand in" simple WG band. I think what's important is the love you share, not the jewelry you wear. :)
 
#17
I love my WB. I told BH I wanted something unique (like me!) and he found the ring and matching band to go with it. It's white and yellow diamonds, with yellow as the focus (no, not my favorite color but I'll go with it!). I always get compliments on the unique-ness of it and right now have no desire to upgrade or "bigg-ens" the main stone either (even when I've seen my e-ring in larger cuts available). If I get anything in the future it'll be a even-more-unique-like-me right handed ring ;)
 
#19
I would just keep the old one to wear for certain occasions and buy an upgrade that you can wear everyday. I have just a plain platinum band but I'm actually planning on upgrading it to a curved diamond band this year. I'm going to keep the old ring (the original one from our wedding) to wear when I feel like wearing it or when the diamond band may not be appropriate. Once I get the curved band though, I'm anticipating that will be my "everyday" band.

The idea to wear a few rings stacked is a good one too.
 
#20
Wow! I have been really sad about my engagement ring since a few days after I got it. I love the design, but the diamond is sooo small. Lots of people never even noticed I got engaged. It really bothers me. I am embarrassed of it. I have hurt DF's feeling when I bring it up. He totally could have afforded to buy a little bigger diamond. I know it should not matter, but in a way I feel that he didn't think enough of me to buy the best ring he could. I am really sad over it. I feel like I am being materialistic and making a big deal about something stupid, but those are my feelings.
 
#21
I don't wear my original wedding band - have replaced it with several diamond eternity bands that I rotate. I've also replaced my engagement ring twice. I can understand how someone might feel sentimental about the original rings, but I don't.

If you don't feel right about replacing you wedding band, then adding something to wear along side it might be the ticket.
 
#22
Splurgeface said:
To be honest he wouldn't mind me replacing it at all, but it wouldn't feel the same to ME to wear a "wedding ring" that he didn't slip onto my finger at our wedding all those years ago.
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i hate to say it, but eventually you'll get over that stigma.

i lost my original wedding set a year and a half after we were married and thankfully the insurance sent us a replacement check to buy a new set. so yeah, i had no choice in the matter and at first, i was really really sad. but eventually, you do get over it. it also helped that my husband wasn't distressed over it either, even though he loved my original set because we picked it out together. i ended up getting something completely different not because i didn't love my original set, but because nothing could replace that—not even a replica. it was gone, plain and simple.

even now i wear my mother's e-ring (that was not her original e-ring) that she handed down to me over a year ago. i love it and i wear it everyday. my replacement set is gorgeous (an emerald cut stone), but i guess since it wasn't my original set, it didn't have the meaning to me that my original one did. this one (my mom's) has more meaning to me than anything. i was 7 years old when we went into NYC down to the diamond district to buy it and it was back then that she promised me she would one day give it to me. turns out it was an estate ring as well which i love.

like others have said, it's a personal choice and i honestly don't think you should make yourself feel guilty over it. there are many couples who for whatever reason when they first get married cannot afford the rings of their choice, but as long as they're together, that's all that matter. well down the road, things change and so do your tastes.

you have to go with what makes YOU happy and go from there.
 
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#23
skydive nikki said:
Wow! I have been really sad about my engagement ring since a few days after I got it. I love the design, but the diamond is sooo small. Lots of people never even noticed I got engaged. It really bothers me. I am embarrassed of it. I have hurt DF's feeling when I bring it up. He totally could have afforded to buy a little bigger diamond. I know it should not matter, but in a way I feel that he didn't think enough of me to buy the best ring he could. I am really sad over it. I feel like I am being materialistic and making a big deal about something stupid, but those are my feelings.
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Awwww :hugs: Im nowhere near being married but Ive always wondered what Id do if I was presented with a ring too small or I just didnt like. I feel like e-rings are so personal and I give men credit for having to go out there and attempt picking the right one. Id probably not say anything because I wouldnt want to hurt his feelings but Id def be so sad if it happened. I dont think youre being materialistic at all. Id want to love the ring from day one but maybe you can get a really nice band that doesnt allow for the e-ring? :)
 
#24
I think it depends on the person. When I was a baby, my Mum lost her wedding band (didn't ever have an engagement ring) and so replaced the band with one that had a very similar design. I think she wore the replacement for a few years through my childhood but now, 20-odd years on, she doesn't actually even wear it at all, and has told me she just doesn't feel the same about that ring as the one my Dad gave her on their wedding day.

I guess it's something you could get used to. How about you and your DH both get new rings and present them to each other on a significant occasion (like your anniversary perhaps) and make a deal out of giving the new rings and wearing them as a continuation of the promises you made that day rather than it simply being a case of buying a new ring, just taking out of the box and starting to wear it, if that makes sense!

I'm from England too and I must say I have never really heard of anyone I know here upgrading their wedding/engagement ring in the way Americans seem to. Maybe it's just that the concept seems so foreign to you and that's why you can't get your head around it?
 
#25
First, I am not a sentimental person, at all. Sad but true. With that being shared, I do not wear my original wedding band. Well I do but I had it made smaller into a pinky ring that I wear occasionally. It is very narrow and has 6-7 round melee. It's a great ring, 18kt yg, diamonds are of good quality but when I upgraded my wed ring to plat and a design that wont allow a band to sit nicely with, I just put it in a drawer. I also bought my husband a new wed band back awhile for our 10th anniv. It's a much nicer ring then we originally purchased. He didn't even think twice about that nor did he care whether we replaced his original band or not. ALL my idea :)
 
#26
ShopAddikt said:
Awwww :hugs: Im nowhere near being married but Ive always wondered what Id do if I was presented with a ring too small or I just didnt like. I feel like e-rings are so personal and I give men credit for having to go out there and attempt picking the right one. Id probably not say anything because I wouldnt want to hurt his feelings but Id def be so sad if it happened. I dont think youre being materialistic at all. Id want to love the ring from day one but maybe you can get a really nice band that doesnt allow for the e-ring? :)
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Thanks for understanding:hugs: Someone else suggested too that I should just get a fancier band with some bigger diamonds. I think I will have to do that for now. I also thought about taking it to a jeweler and having the diamond changed. I wonder if he would notice? LOL
 
#27
skydive nikki said:
Thanks for understanding:hugs: Someone else suggested too that I should just get a fancier band with some bigger diamonds. I think I will have to do that for now. I also thought about taking it to a jeweler and having the diamond changed. I wonder if he would notice? LOL
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If it was bigger, I hope hed notice! :p

Im obsessed with this band- I saw it in person when i was e-ring shopping with my sis recently. I wouldnt mind a nice band and putting the e-ring away or maybe on a chain?

http://www.ross-simons.com/products/487784.html
 
#29
I really cannot get my head around getting a new ring to wear as a new wedding band - it just doesn't seem the same. My original is the one we bought in the excited whirl of wedding planning and is inscribed with names and the date and is the exact ring my husband slipped onto my finger during our vows. Mentally I don't think a new ring would be a "wedding" band to me, it'd just be a ring. I understand some people feel they are able to do this but for me its just not the same.

I do like the stacking idea though, although it would still mean I'd have to wear yellow gold which I rather detest now. However, my wedding band is very skinny so if it was mixed with lots of silver and a tiny bit of two-tone it might just work. Having said that, I wouldn't want to feel restricted to wearing the same stacked rings every day.

I haven't worn my wedding ring for 4 years because I put on weight in pregnancy and it just didn't fit any more. I dug it out today and it finally fits again!

Anyway, thanks for all the suggestions. I shall now be keeping an eye out for suitable stackers to accompany my wedding ring.
 
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