Well. That's kind of rude...

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#16
Ugh - i hate digs like that. Just enough snark to get you steamed, but not so much that they can't claim 'just kidding ha-ha' You could reply with something like - I do like nice things, but I hope people will judge me on who I am - not what I wear. (Or since it was a work situation - 'judge me by my accomplishments...)
 
#17
etk123 said:
I agree with TGG, she's impressed, maybe a little bit in awe of you and your accomplishments/lifestyle, and doesn't get what is appropriate and inappropriate to say. I would be annoyed too!
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Agreed, and the fact they only see each other a few times a year doesn't make it easier. If they had to interact frequently, the weird behavior would probably diminish as the other girl got to know LYM and realizes she doesn't bite!
 
#18
lanasyogamama said:
I've been wanting to get this off my chest for days, and haven't been able to think of anyone IRL that would understand, so, y'all get to hear it.

I was in this big work meeting earlier in the week, a face to face with about 20 people. This woman was there that I work with, and she always likes to tease me about where I live and having nice things. But she will also make sure I know that she also has a Cartier watch, etc.

So, she told me that this guy next to her said "So, Lanasyogamama, what's she like?" and she told me she told him "Take a look at the ring and a look at the watch and you tell me."

She followed it up with "Oh, I like to tease him because he lives in <other nice town>" but still???? It's just kind of....annoying? Trust me, I am NOT showy about anything I have. I don't wear logos, I don't talk about it, it's just for ME to enjoy, and the vast vast majority of people wouldn't even recognize any of my stuff.

Thanks for reading / listening!!!
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I agree that you should just "take the high road". You don't want to stoop to her level by responding. Don't let it get to you. She's only making herself look petty and small. Don't apologize or explain. Just smile and know that you are acting appropriately. Although no one might have said anything, they probably see her for the petty, jealous, insecure person she obviously is.
 
#20
florasun said:
ugh - i hate digs like that. Just enough snark to get you steamed, but not so much that they can't claim 'just kidding ha-ha' you could reply with something like - i do like nice things, but i hope people will judge me on who i am - not what i wear. (or since it was a work situation - 'judge me by my accomplishments...)
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+1
 
#21
I am still trying to formulate a response to that..."kind of rude" is like a wicked understatement! I saw this pop up when I got back in town and was like "she has so much more tact than me to not rip this person a new one."
 
#24
Harper I was just thinking that. I thought to my self, "jealous much". I hate people like that, or people that have comments about what you wear or how much something cost. I tend to have a very smart mouth so I'm liable to give her a smart comment back. But I agree with other posters that say take the high road (smile).
 
#25
skyqueen said:
This gal needs a class on social graces 101. She has an odd sense of "humor". Be thankful you only deal with her 3 times a year!
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Thanks Sky

NikkisABagGirl said:
+1
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:smile1:

ame said:
I am still trying to formulate a response to that..."kind of rude" is like a wicked understatement! I saw this pop up when I got back in town and was like "she has so much more tact than me to not rip this person a new one."
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I was wondering what you would think Ame!

Harper Quinn said:
:shrugs:Maybe I got the wrong end of the stick but she sounds jealous to me.
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I guess it's possible, but we are so different, lifestyle, looks, all that...

NikkisABagGirl said:
That and passive aggressive. Which at work can be difficult, because you would want to react in just the correct way.
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Exactly!

dst10spr97 said:
Harper I was just thinking that. I thought to my self, "jealous much". I hate people like that, or people that have comments about what you wear or how much something cost. I tend to have a very smart mouth so I'm liable to give her a smart comment back. But I agree with other posters that say take the high road (smile).
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Thanks!

Thanks so much everyone, she totally doesn't even deserve this much consideration, it's just good to know you're not alone when this type of thing does happen.
 
#26
diane278 said:
I agree that you should just "take the high road". You don't want to stoop to her level by responding. Don't let it get to you. She's only making herself look petty and small. Don't apologize or explain. Just smile and know that you are acting appropriately. Although no one might have said anything, they probably see her for the petty, jealous, insecure person she obviously is.
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Yeah, I talked to the guy who she said this to at the end of the day, and he was very nice, so I am pretty sure he didn't buy into it.

schadenfreude said:
Agreed, and the fact they only see each other a few times a year doesn't make it easier. If they had to interact frequently, the weird behavior would probably diminish as the other girl got to know LYM and realizes she doesn't bite!
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I really don't! LOL!

Florasun said:
Ugh - i hate digs like that. Just enough snark to get you steamed, but not so much that they can't claim 'just kidding ha-ha' You could reply with something like - I do like nice things, but I hope people will judge me on who I am - not what I wear. (Or since it was a work situation - 'judge me by my accomplishments...)
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She knows my rep, I think she lives to push buttons...
 
#27
Uuuhhhgggg super annoying !!! I hate when people judge or define other by their things ( ie she has expensive stuff therefore she is : showy, shallow etc) I've been getting a bit of that these days so I sympathize !!
 
#29
Yes , this is a common thing I think ... And I totally understand why you got upset...
I'm like this you know - all friendly and sweet then after a few gatherings , you hear things like these and you tell yourself it's lack of social skills , and you ignore it .. Then tendency is it gets repeated again and again believe me by the same group of people.....
So I now tend to practice what one TPF member posted here years ago ... " a girl suddenly asked me why I like high end signature stuff .... And I knew we couldn't be friends "
It's very true as it will always be an issue to them no matter how sweet , nice , funny , friendly you are ...
So my advice ignore and stay away!!!
 
#30
I have the same situation, and not just once. So annoying... Once a lady at work sitting next to me on a board meeting compliment my ring, then asked how much I paid for it &#128547;&#128547; I said I could not remember it because it was like 10years ago, and she replied, oh no I didn't know it was synthetic diamond. How rude... Commonly if I don't tell how much the stuff I wear, people comment like they're fake because if they are authentic why I keep wearing them discreetly... I just ignoring them all like I used to do since I was 20, I bought and wear what makes me happy and comfortable, that's the most important thing. You have to deal with such not nice people like less than 1 hour a day max, so dont't let them take away the joy you have when dressing up with your loved stuffs
 
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