Well. That's kind of rude...

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lanasyogamama

lanasyogamama

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Oct 30, 2007
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#1
I've been wanting to get this off my chest for days, and haven't been able to think of anyone IRL that would understand, so, y'all get to hear it.

I was in this big work meeting earlier in the week, a face to face with about 20 people. This woman was there that I work with, and she always likes to tease me about where I live and having nice things. But she will also make sure I know that she also has a Cartier watch, etc.

So, she told me that this guy next to her said "So, Lanasyogamama, what's she like?" and she told me she told him "Take a look at the ring and a look at the watch and you tell me."

She followed it up with "Oh, I like to tease him because he lives in <other nice town>" but still???? It's just kind of....annoying? Trust me, I am NOT showy about anything I have. I don't wear logos, I don't talk about it, it's just for ME to enjoy, and the vast vast majority of people wouldn't even recognize any of my stuff.

Thanks for reading / listening!!!
 
#4
To me, is just sounds like she's rather shallow. People with substance wouldn't allow a pretty or expensive watch define someone as a person - they'd compliment it and move on, whereas she's focused herself on it to the point where she's trying to drive other's attention to it and insinuate that a judgement should be made about you.

You can do one of two things: 1. Confide in her that her comments about your jewelry make you uncomfortable and you'd appreciate it if she would refrain from discussing them with other people or 2. Allow yourself to be annoyed for a little bit, but then laugh it off.

Good luck! :smile1:
 
#5
Unfortunately, i have had this happen too. People look at my jewelry or car, or purse, or whatever,and make a snap judgement. I have two choices... Not enjoy the things i worked so hard for/received as a loving gift and put them away, or wear it and watch the silliness of certain people. :)
I am sorry this happened to you. Some people just don't get why, some people have issues that they try to throw on us, who knows...
I say vent to us, we always are here for you! (hugs)
 
#6
RedPoppies said:
You can do one of two things: 1. Confide in her that her comments about your jewelry make you uncomfortable and you'd appreciate it if she would refrain from discussing them with other people or 2. Allow yourself to be annoyed for a little bit, but then laugh it off.

Good luck! :smile1:
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Thanks everyone. RedPoppies, you're exactly right, I just needed my little vent / annoyed time.

I actually think she does like me, she's told me as much several times (almost to the point of being odd), but I only see her like 3 times a year, so I just let it go.
 
#8
this is the risk anyone takes when wearing expensive items (or outlier type of accessories) to their workplace. people judge...I am not saying you shouldnt wear what you want but it always amazes me when people are surprised when things like this happen.
 
#9
The interesting part is that SHE told you the story of the conversation, not the guy or someone who overheard it. It was obviously meant to be hurtful to you. You're wise to just let it go.
 
#10
texasgirliegirl said:
She finds you impressive and she doesn't have very good social skills.
Probably not a lot more to it than that.
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Yeah, I'm over it.

labrillant said:
The interesting part is that SHE told you the story of the conversation, not the guy or someone who overheard it. It was obviously meant to be hurtful to you. You're wise to just let it go.
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Thanks. :)

Hermesaholic said:
this is the risk anyone takes when wearing expensive items (or outlier type of accessories) to their workplace. people judge...I am not saying you shouldnt wear what you want but it always amazes me when people are surprised when things like this happen.
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Yeah, but everyone judges/gets judged every day in all sorts of situations. Telling someone to their face is still rude!
 
#11
I agree with TGG, she's impressed, maybe a little bit in awe of you and your accomplishments/lifestyle, and doesn't get what is appropriate and inappropriate to say. I would be annoyed too!
 
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