I think $4600 is a lot to spend if you are questioning your choices. I think the DBTY necklace is very overpriced for the amount of carats...however, it is gorgeous and simple and classic. As for the Hermes shawl....I am not an Hermes girl so for me, the price would be too high for just a shawl. My opinion is get what you love, but make sure he is ok with the expense and that you are not just buying for the sake of buying. If jewlery is what you want, I would go to a local jewler where you can choose something or have something made and get way more bang for your buck!!! Whatever your choice, ENJOY!