Upgrade ring DH says no...but I WANT IT /emo whine
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Good idea!! That's a good compromise!! 
Same here. Where I come from, I've never heard of ring upgrades. Husbands buy new rings for wives when the occasion demands it, and most people I know hold on to their original engagement rings for sentimental reasons.
Your current ring sounds lovely.
As a compromise could you keep your current setting and ask a jeweller to swap the stone over for a larger stone? You could also keep the original stone and make it into a bracelet or necklace for DD and yourself. Just a thought...
As a compromise could you keep your current setting and ask a jeweller to swap the stone over for a larger stone? You could also keep the original stone and make it into a bracelet or necklace for DD and yourself. Just a thought...
Like Kashmira I had never heard of 'upgrading' before I joined tpf.
I know some does it - but I never would. Gifts are sacred - and especially a gift like that, picked out by the love of your life, at a time where your financial situation might have been different than now..
I do believe that the ring symbolizes love - and it is not supposed to be a prestige thing - but a symbol of you accepting him to be your husband..
Let him give you another ring - at another time in your life, when he feels the need to it -(by then he will know what you like at that stage in your life) or let him suggest an upgrade at that point..
- If you really want a new ring at this point, buy it yourself - to put on your right hand
I know some does it - but I never would. Gifts are sacred - and especially a gift like that, picked out by the love of your life, at a time where your financial situation might have been different than now..
I do believe that the ring symbolizes love - and it is not supposed to be a prestige thing - but a symbol of you accepting him to be your husband..
Let him give you another ring - at another time in your life, when he feels the need to it -(by then he will know what you like at that stage in your life) or let him suggest an upgrade at that point..
- If you really want a new ring at this point, buy it yourself - to put on your right hand
Like Kashmira I had never heard of 'upgrading' before I joined tpf.
I know some does it - but I never would. Gifts are sacred - and especially a gift like that, picked out by the love of your life, at a time where your financial situation might have been different than now..
I do believe that the ring symbolizes love - and it is not supposed to be a prestige thing - but a symbol of you accepting him to be your husband..
Let him give you another ring - at another time in your life, when he feels the need to it -(by then he will know what you like at that stage in your life) or let him suggest an upgrade at that point..
- If you really want a new ring at this point, buy it yourself - to put on your right hand
I totally agree with MissM.
I'm with the others...I don't really understand why it's so important to upgrade...what does an upgrade symbolize exactly?
I don't think it's important to upgrade, and I'm not sure that it symbolizes anything. I never really had any emotional attachment to my original engagement ring, it's just a ring. As I get older, I wear larger jewelry in general. And since our finances have grown since we first got married, we can afford a larger diamond. So I've upgraded twice. I feel no more or less emotionally involved with my current ring than I did with my original ring.
Please dont shoot me down but im in the minority here but i think its a little bit offensive to upgrade if its against your husband's wishes. And i can totally understand why he would rather you didnt.
Please note that this is JUST my opinion
and im just one of those sentimental saps 
that cant bring myself to let go of the stone that my boyfriend bought for ME ... he chose it, he proposed with it ... its the symbolism. And maybe your hubby feels the same?
Why dont you instead get a pretty eternity ring or something like that?
Im DEF not against getting more jewelry but i doubt (never say never) that id upgrade and i know the idea upsets my boy and as such id rather some more pretty gems 
Oh, BTW - hugs to you ...
Please note that this is JUST my opinion
and im just one of those sentimental saps that cant bring myself to let go of the stone that my boyfriend bought for ME ... he chose it, he proposed with it ... its the symbolism. And maybe your hubby feels the same?Why dont you instead get a pretty eternity ring or something like that?
Im DEF not against getting more jewelry but i doubt (never say never) that id upgrade and i know the idea upsets my boy and as such id rather some more pretty gems Oh, BTW - hugs to you ...
Why don't you save up and buy the ring for yourself? I can no longer wear my original wedding or engagement ring as fingers larger than when we got engaged / married so I bought my own engagement ring [half a carat square cut in white gold]. DH bought the white gold band to match as getting the original ring(s) stretched would have ruined them.
Perhaps one day we'll get the stones reset in a new band but until that day, I'm happy with my bought ring.
Perhaps one day we'll get the stones reset in a new band but until that day, I'm happy with my bought ring.
It wouldn't be appropriate to lie about my engagement ring to my DH, I was mainly tongue in cheek when I suggested that part of me wanted to swap it every morning!
He either has to agree that this new ring is a good idea or I don't buy it... so I'll be strapping on my kneepads this evening
He either has to agree that this new ring is a good idea or I don't buy it... so I'll be strapping on my kneepads this evening
He either has to agree that this new ring is a good idea or I don't buy it... so I'll be strapping on my kneepads this evening
LOL - let us know how it goes pheebs!