Too scared to wear my rings

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#16
I agree that your husband's behavior is causing your anxiety about your rings. Life is too short not to wear the beautiful things that you have and that should make you happy. You are not doing them justice by leaving them in a drawer. Best wishes. I have a lot of anxiety about my jewelry but I have them insured and the prongs checked every 6 months.
 
#17
graefin07 said:
The second thing I would like to know is: do diamond rings easily get damaged, e.g. if you slighty knock on a mirror or door frame? I apologize for asking those pretty stupid questions, but as I said I don't know much about jewelry. Never really had nice pieces until my husband got me my rings, necklace and studs.
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there's no clear yes/no answer...

yes the metal part of your jewelry will get little dents and scratches as you wear them, but they can be easily polished out by your jeweler, but unless if it really bothers you, you won't need to repolish very often

and no, as long as the jewelry is well made, and periodically checked, slight knock or bump or scrape against 'softer' things shouldn't do any structural or permanent damage to the metal

and a definite no when it comes to diamond in particular, since it is pretty much the hardest material ever known to man, so diamonds are very hardy... but don't store diamonds together, since they will scratch each other.

hope this helps :smile1:
 
#18
I would wear them as much as possible. Just insure them and have them checked. I understand how your husband feels to be honest. He bought you such beautiful rings. Wear them and enjoy them! Life is too short to put beautiful jewelry in a drawer.
 
#19
Be careful if the snuggies are slivers of metal. A jeweler once warned me that if you were wearing one and you fell on your hands or caught your ring on something the snuggie could cut into your finger very badly.
 
#22
I get scared when wearing my expensive rings. My first ER got lost I handed it to my husband in a park as I was rubbing sun tan cream on my daughter he was on the phone and has no idea what he did with it till this day. Only bonus was I got a new one an it was much bigger. I think you need to be able to enjoy wearing them otherwise it is a waste of time having them.
 
#23
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HauteMama said:
I think the issue is not so much with the jewelry, but with the way your dh treats you regarding it. It would never occur to my dh to blame ME if a diamond fell out of a band, especially if the ring had just been resized, nor would he be upset that the ring did not fit properly after losing weight. He should have been happy that you were gettting healthier, not upset about the RING. People change as they get older and can gain or lose weight or get arthritic so their knuckles get larger so jewelry doesn't fit the same.

Anyway, I definitely agree that you need to have the rings insured, take lots of photographs and wear them! Have a jeweler explain to your dh that things can happen that are beyond your control that can cause stones to become loose, and those things are not your fault unless you have abused your ring (which you definitely don't).

It sounds more like you are afraid of your dh's reaction to what might happen if you wear the rings, not actually wearing them. I just don't think a relationship ought to work that way. His first concern ought to be for his WIFE, not the ring.
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#24
I would stay away from the ring "snuggies." I agree with ggirl, have a jeweler had beads of gold to the inside of the ring.

diamonds are durable. they are a 10 (out of 10) on the hardness scale. the only thing that can scratch them is another diamond. however, the gold settings are not as durable.

as others have said, you should have the prongs check every 6 months or so if you're concerned.

I also completely agree with HauteMama that the real issue is the way that your husband is reacting & treating you.
 
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