I bought Romy even though it wasn't a shoulder bag; then I found I can fit the short strap on my shoulder so that is the way I carry it now. I've removed the long strap. I can't carry big or heavy bags crossbody. I'd still be afraid to get a Haley. I don't carry my Sophias as much as I would if they had a better shoulder option.Yup, same here. I used to wonder exactly same thing. But not anymore. Now I am kicking myself for returning blush Haley I got on clearance and never getting a Romy. Especially since prices on bags here are astronomical.