I come from a back ground where those kinds of questions are not
Socially acceptable.
Such a thing as too many compliments?
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I come from a back ground where those kinds of questions are not
Socially acceptable.
I love the earrings on you. I get questions on my Tiffany diamond jewelry too and when people ask, I normally just say "I don't know, my husband got it for me."
I always smile and say thank you. I've had many questions about diamond size, price, etc., and I suppose it depends on who is asking on how much I will indulge them. I'm not offended when someone asks about the designer. I don't think that's an inappropriate question at all, and the collector side of me loves to talk about beautiful things which is why I'm on tPF in the first place. :-P
They are absolutely stunning earrings, ah, VCA 
I happen to be very into my jewellery, whereas not many of my friends/peer group are, or certainly not to the same extent. They probably would be a little bit shocked at the prices of some of the pieces I have.
I'm probably fortunate that none of my friends would ever ask about the price of pieces that I own. So I haven't ever had to deal with something that awkward
I do sometimes get a little uncomfortable with too many compliments - I think it's just my nature - and I simply have to take it in the light that it's given: say thank you and if they are wondering when I got it etc, I just say it was a gift or a celebration for a particular milestone and move the conversation on.
I like to think that most people compliment in genuinely good spirit
I happen to be very into my jewellery, whereas not many of my friends/peer group are, or certainly not to the same extent. They probably would be a little bit shocked at the prices of some of the pieces I have.
I'm probably fortunate that none of my friends would ever ask about the price of pieces that I own. So I haven't ever had to deal with something that awkward
I do sometimes get a little uncomfortable with too many compliments - I think it's just my nature - and I simply have to take it in the light that it's given: say thank you and if they are wondering when I got it etc, I just say it was a gift or a celebration for a particular milestone and move the conversation on. I like to think that most people compliment in genuinely good spirit
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Thank you everyone who commented! It really helps to be able to deflect these questions gently.
Normally I don't have such trouble.... my other pieces are relatively inexpensive, the nicer ones are Tiffany, but small and few. I wear them everyday. People here recognize the Tiffany name as expensive, but quality special pieces for suitable for anniversary, xmas, etc.
There are no VCA boutiques where I live, so there is no recognition of brand, so when people compliment and then ask where I got it, I get all embarrassed because if they follow up on the brand, it will be obvious how expensive they are... and that level of pricing and luxe is just not the norm here. I would never have heard about/purchased VCA if it wasn't for tPF!
You ladies are awesome, thank you!
Normally I don't have such trouble.... my other pieces are relatively inexpensive, the nicer ones are Tiffany, but small and few. I wear them everyday. People here recognize the Tiffany name as expensive, but quality special pieces for suitable for anniversary, xmas, etc.
There are no VCA boutiques where I live, so there is no recognition of brand, so when people compliment and then ask where I got it, I get all embarrassed because if they follow up on the brand, it will be obvious how expensive they are... and that level of pricing and luxe is just not the norm here. I would never have heard about/purchased VCA if it wasn't for tPF!
You ladies are awesome, thank you!
Those earrings are beautiful! I can understand why you're getting so many compliments on them. I agree with the others that simply saying they were a gift should be enough explanation. Another way to deflect would be to say they were a gift, THEN compliment the person about something they're wearing...everyone loves a compliment, and it will take the pressure off of you at the same time.
But why? Because you don't want people to copy your style? Or is it more because the price is usually implied if you reveal the designer/store?
I could see the last thing being a bit awkward but then again since you don't have to explicitly state the price it's not as weird.
Lovely earrings, they look great on you...wear in good health!
I have larger studs and a TB. Over the years people have always commented. While I have been asked the carat weight, cost, etc. most people just pay me the compliment. I always say "thank you...I love them". That seems to do the trick.
I never feel uncomforable...I've paid my dues! Now I just enjoy my jewelry.
I've often wondered, though, if people think their fake. LOL!
I have larger studs and a TB. Over the years people have always commented. While I have been asked the carat weight, cost, etc. most people just pay me the compliment. I always say "thank you...I love them". That seems to do the trick.
I never feel uncomforable...I've paid my dues! Now I just enjoy my jewelry.
I've often wondered, though, if people think their fake. LOL!
They are beautiful. It really depends on your comfort level I think. I know some folks who readily share the where, whens and how they acquire their pieces and it can be good conversation especially if it was a family piece. But if you prefer not to, I think its perfectly fine to accept the compliments gracefully and then steer the topic to safer grounds.
I've been curious myself too sometimes when I see beautiful jewellery that I don't recognise, though I daren't ask more than if they are a custom piece!
I've been curious myself too sometimes when I see beautiful jewellery that I don't recognise, though I daren't ask more than if they are a custom piece!
I love those!
And I'm glad to know where you got them from without having to ask! Lol.
While asking acquaintances about cost is tacky in my world, asking someone where they got something just demonstrates the sincerity behind the compliment ... at least, I'd take it as such.
These really are fab, yanno.
And I'm glad to know where you got them from without having to ask! Lol.
While asking acquaintances about cost is tacky in my world, asking someone where they got something just demonstrates the sincerity behind the compliment ... at least, I'd take it as such.
These really are fab, yanno.
Your earrings are lovely on you. I don't think it's a bad thing to be on the receiving end of so many compliments. All it means is that you have excellent taste. 
I agree with the other posters who recommended saying that they were a gift. If you're pressed for more information, simply feign ignorance if you're uncomfortable discussing it.
I come from a background where people discuss everything (and I do mean everything) in great detail so I'm pretty comfortable answering personal questions. However, I do draw the line at questions about price. After many instances of declining to answering such questions, most will usually stop asking.
I agree with the other posters who recommended saying that they were a gift. If you're pressed for more information, simply feign ignorance if you're uncomfortable discussing it. I come from a background where people discuss everything (and I do mean everything) in great detail so I'm pretty comfortable answering personal questions. However, I do draw the line at questions about price. After many instances of declining to answering such questions, most will usually stop asking.