Such a thing as too many compliments?

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Junkenpo

Junkenpo

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#1
Weird question, but bear with me...

Okay, I have a pair of earrings that I think are simple, beautiful, and can be dressed up and down quite easily. I wear them to work in a polo shirt and jeans and I can wear them out to a nice restaurant or anywhere else "dressy".

They are big enough to get noticed but not really THAT big. However... people do notice them and they probably get me the most unsolicited compliments of any of my jewelry pieces.

Most of my stuff is smaller and under-the-radar... doesn't really call attention to itself, but makes me feel like my outfit is complete.

Recently, the compliments have made me feel self-conscious and I think it's because the earrings are expensive and the brand is not something most people where i live are familiar with....and if I say where I got it from, it's obvious (if people cared enough to look it up) that they are way more expensive than they'd initially appear to be..... so when people ask "Where'd you get them?" I just hem and haw and say things like "Oh, online" and change the subject. (They're Van Cleef & Arpels earrings from the Frivole line.)

How can I get over this? How do you handle the compliments?

And can I get some suggestions of other things to say and ways to change the subject that are gracious and don't make me look like a snob or humble braggart?

Whoa... that picture came out HUGE. I'm so sorry... now I feel like I do in real life. :shame::sweatdrop::blushing:
 

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#2
They are pretty. I admit, I looked them up and I would not have thought they were they price they are.

I think I would just say "I ordered them online" if people were to ask where I got them or I might say "I ordered them online quite some time ago" and leave it at that hoping they take from that that I don't quite recall where I ordered them from.
 
#3
"Thank you...." and only if questioned where from, "they were a gift"

That they were from 'myself to myself' is really no ones business but your own. But you don't have to elaborate and they probably won't either as most people don't know where gifts came from. I always say that whenever I get pressed for further details whether its for jewellery or a bag or other accessories and don't want to go into it, and have never been asked further.
 
#6
I would take the complIments to your heart and be grateful for them. A lot of times when I compliment people on their jewelry I can tell it makes them feel slightly uncomfortable or awkward but it really is coming from the best place in my heart and I usually absolutely adore the piece. If I do ask where it's from (to go and buy it myself) I never assume how much it cost because I know jewelry prices can vary extremely.

If a person shoots me an 'Oh, thanks!' I don't press the subject further and if you don't want to tell people where they are from just say you purchased them online or received them as a gift.
 
#8
I have the same earrings and get many compliments too. I just think the uniqueness of these earrings is what makes them so noticeable to others. The pictures don't do the earrings justice as they are exquisite irl. I usually say thanks, and if asked where I purchased them, I say when I went on a trip.
 
#9
Those earrings are beautiful and different. I don't see them as showy. If people ask where you got them, they may just like them so much that they want something similar for themselves.

I wouldn't feel self-conscious about them. I would say "thank you" and smile when you get a compliment. I'm not sure what I would say if they asked where I got them. Whatever I say, I would try not to feel weird about it.
 
#10
I don't think too many compliments are bad but when people start asking how much it cost, etc. that's when I get annoyed. It's not really anyone's business.

I say it's vintage, bought online or got it as a gift if I don't want to devulge too much information. I would never tell people how much I spend on jewelry because 1) I don't want to get robbed, 2) They would never understand why I spend what I do on jewelry and 3) I don't want to cause jealousy/controversy
 
#11
Its a really beautiful piece.
I know how you feel. I dont really know how to handle compliments on my jewellery. I just say its a gift etc.
in fact a couple of weeks ago, a lady complimented on my sweet alhambra bracelet and asked me if they were from Swarowski and I just say thank you and smile.
 
#12
No such thing as to many compliments,however if they ask how much,from where ect...
there's no way I'm telling them that info. First it's very rude to ask,and it shows no social
Couth ,as well as no class. You never ask ,how much did someone pay for such and such
It's like asking ,how much the bill was at the restaurant when your not picking it up. And never ask
Where they got it. Go home and look it up.it none of your business.
 
#14
Jewelz32412 said:
No such thing as to many compliments,however if they ask how much,from where ect...
there's no way I'm telling them that info. First it's very rude to ask,and it shows no social
Couth ,as well as no class. You never ask ,how much did someone pay for such and such
It's like asking ,how much the bill was at the restaurant when your not picking it up. And never ask
Where they got it. Go home and look it up.it none of your business.
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I agree about not asking the price, but I don't see the problem with asking where something is from..?
 
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