Sometimes ignorance is bliss?

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Fioratura

Fioratura

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Jan 8, 2013
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#1
Ok, here's something I've been needing to get off my chest. I don't think any of my friends would understand and it would come off as spoiled and unappreciative, since they are always drooling over my ring...somehow I know people here will totally get it though. I've had my e-ring for 4 years now. About 2 years after buying my ring (which my DH and I bought together from a well reviewed family jeweler after literally months of searching and looking at diamonds), I starting reading a lot of posts on Pricescope and TPF and realized that my diamond cut was not as perfect as I thought it was when I chose it.
Here are the stats:
1.26ct
H
SI1
GIA Ex-Ex-Ex
Table 59%
Depth 61.1%
Crown 34.5 deg
Pav 41 deg

But here's the thing- I love my diamond and before I knew that it wasn't "ideal", I thought it was perfect. It has different temperaments and moods, tons of scintillation and contrast, and looks very very white. I get broad flashes of color in some lighting, and in others, lots of tiny disco-ball flashes. I actually remember when I chose it, I was trying to choose between 2 stones, one with a smaller table. I couldn't see any noticeable difference in fire between the two of them and I said to my (then)FI, "I like how this one (with the bigger table) looks more open". How funny that what drew me to the stone was one of the things that was "wrong" with it. Still though, sometimes when I read posts or see other stones, I feel sad about my decision. I wonder why my jeweler didn't push the smaller tabled one on me instead and tell me how a smaller table was more desirable (it was more expensive after all). I love my diamond, but I wonder how much better it could have been. Sometimes I have the irrational fear that if I buy an ideal cut pendant it will outshine my ring and I will definitely notice it's inferiority. My stone has lots of fire, but would it be a million times better if it had even more fire? My stone looks amazing in filtered sunlight (all over my house and in the car) but sometimes looks a bit washed out in certain very bright sunlight from certain directions. Would it a crazy fire ball all the time if it had a smaller table? We looked at SO many different stones (all ExExEx) during our search. Our jeweler let us look at them inside and outside (and his store didn't have those fancy jeweler lights...it was very normal lighting) and I didn't notice that any of the other stones had more fire (or else I'm sure I would have chosen those stones). I know my diamond is not a bad diamond, but sometimes I read these posts about how many ExExEx stones, especially those with 59% tables are "dogs" and I feel so sad. (Although, I don't know why being a dog is a bad thing...I adore dogs.) While I may upgrade one day, I don't want to get rid of my diamond. It has so much sentimental value and I do think it's very beautiful. Has anyone else been in this situation?
 
#5
I feel like I had the same dilemma...then I tried to re sell mine after my divorce and realized due to the specs...it was not worth HALF of what I thought...so maybe sometimes ignorance is bliss...and just love it for the happiness it brings you!.
 
#6
I haven't been lucky enough to be in your situation, but I think that your ring is beautiful. This diamond looks lovely and you enjoyed it very much before you knew that it wasn't as "perfect" as you'd originally thought. If it has sentimental value to you, then it's worth more than a "perfect" diamond, anyway.

Ask yourself... Does it really matter to you? If you enjoy it and it's beautiful... who cares if it's not perfect? People aren't perfect, but we love them all the same. If this ring brought you so much joy then, has anything changed now? Only perspective! It's still the same ring that made you so very happy before, and no one knows that it's a bit wide in the table (as you said, others drool over it). I say... enjoy it!

If you choose to upgrade at a later time, find your perfect diamond... but perhaps allow the upgrade to coincide with a special occasion (like purchasing a home, the birth of a child, etc.) so that the new ring with also hold sentimental value? Otherwise, even if you have a ring with a flawless and perfectly proportioned stone, you may find that you prefer this one more due to the sentimental value it holds.
 
#7
I think sometimes we can get caught up in the "numbers". If you enjoy your ring and the diamond is beautiful then don't worry about the numbers. You have a beautiful ring that many ladies would be lucky to have. I completely understand how you feel and where you are coming from. I had the same dilemma with my oval. I liked it because it was less traditional and got tired of it when I realized that I wanted something more traditional and with better clarity. But to look at the diamond, it is beautiful. I had to keep reminding myself that DH gave me a beautiful ring from his heart and that is all that really matters. Plus, there will always be a more beautiful diamond. That is what makes them so unique and special. There will always be a "D" or IF that will outshine mine and I am okay with that.
 
#8
Ok, take a deep breath. You're getting caught up in a losing numbers game and you're just gonna make yourself crazy! Whether or not your diamond is "perfect" "on paper" or not, you picked it out based on what your eyes liked about it, "ignorant" or not. Your EYES chose IT, they didn't choose a piece of paper with numbers on it. The other stone could have it's own "issues", meaning that maybe it has a smaller table, but was deeper and therefore smaller for the carat weight than it should be? Or maybe your eyes don't prefer what is "ideal" "on paper"? There will always be some other stone out there that catches our attention, that we think is somehow better than our own for some reason or another, always, but you have what appears to be a very nice stone and you WERE happy with it until you started poking around on here and PS, which has a tendency to really mess with someone's head sometimes.
 
#9
I agree with Ame. When you love what you have, you need to STOP LOOKING, and that means stop comparing your stone to others, and stop checking it against different measures to see if it is "perfect". The numbers game will drive. you. insane. Seriously, when deciding on my stone, I was obsessing over less than a tenth of a mm in measurements, wondering about what was visible and what wasn't. And because new stones come onto the market all the time, if you keep looking you can always find what might look like a "better" or bigger stone. But trust your eyes and your heart. Regardless of what experts say is "ideal", sometimes our eyes tell us something different, and you have to trust what your eyes told you.
 
#10
Awe this is so sad. All that matters is you love your diamond. It is very pretty! The gem industry changes all the time. People's preferences change all the time. I personally love a large table and I love stones with tons of scintillation. I go back and forth. Sometimes I prefer lots of fire and sometimes I prefer lots of scintillation. Lately I've been craving more scintillation and white light than what I have. But, I am the stereotypical dog lover. I in no way think your diamond is a dog. But I will always pick the one diamond that does not look good at all on paper and fall in love with it and think it's the most beautiful thing. I like it that way.
 
#11
I don't even HAVE the specs on the diamond I wear, but I love it dearly. It was passed from my great aunt to my mother and then to me. I know what it appraised for and the color and clarity, but that's about it. When I look at it, I see a diamond that has wonderful fire and sparkle and, even if it weren't an heirloom, would still be beautiful. So, I'm going to leave it alone; I have no interest in knowing any more about the stone than I do now. It's lovely and it makes me happy, so why worry about it?
 
#12
Thanks so much everyone! You have all really reaffirmed what I knew all along- beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder and if I think it's a beautiful diamond, numbers on a paper shouldn't change that! It feels good to hear it from fellow jewelry lovers though. It's such a struggle to stop looking at diamonds, just because I love them so much and they are so fun to look at! But then again, men are fun to look at too, and as soon as I found the one I loved, I never entertained the thought that there could be another guy out there who could be more "perfect" for me. Sorry, that got a little too mushy ;)
 
#13
ame said:
Ok, take a deep breath. You're getting caught up in a losing numbers game and you're just gonna make yourself crazy! Whether or not your diamond is "perfect" "on paper" or not, you picked it out based on what your eyes liked about it, "ignorant" or not. Your EYES chose IT, they didn't choose a piece of paper with numbers on it. The other stone could have it's own "issues", meaning that maybe it has a smaller table, but was deeper and therefore smaller for the carat weight than it should be? Or maybe your eyes don't prefer what is "ideal" "on paper"? There will always be some other stone out there that catches our attention, that we think is somehow better than our own for some reason or another, always, but you have what appears to be a very nice stone and you WERE happy with it until you started poking around on here and PS, which has a tendency to really mess with someone's head sometimes.
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Trust your eye! Your ring is beautiful...period!
 
#15
Oh my goodness! Not only is your diamond and ring gorgeous, your numbers are FINE!!!! The angles are within ideal proportions, and really, although I try to stick within 54-58% for the table, let's face it, 58 and 59 are going to be hard to tell apart!!! So, I am sorry that you have worried about this, but I think it is super that you chose such an excellent diamond before you really knew much about the numbers! Trust me, my first diamond wasn't nearly that well cut!
 
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