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Dec 8, 2008
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#1
Either...
Another baby
A dog
or

A Cartier love bracelet!

Seeing as I've been telling peole forever I'm done having kids and I'm a cat person, you'd think it'd be an easy choice.

But suddenly it's not. I hate how smart my husband is. My children really want another dog. So does my husband. And by "another" I mean because our had to be put down earlier this year. And I do feel safer with one around.

And while I say I'm done having kids..how do you REEEALLY make that decision? I don't want to regret not having one later, but the two girls I have now are SO MUCH FUN and I'm not a baby person and I worry I'd be stuck in a 3 year downward spiral if I had another (althoughI'm sure it would be quite worth it after that).

Then there is the love. I thought I wanted a rose gold bracelet so bad (I'm not partial to the love itself, but thought it'd be a smarter "investment") but now put into perspective...maybe I don't. I think he may have actually cured me of my desire. I'd hate to look at it in 5 years and think this could have been another child..lol.

Damn him.
 
#4
How about have another baby (only if you really want one) then insist on getting a Cartier love bracelet as a push present? Then have the children ask for a pet so technically it didn't come from you.
 
#5
hmmm....get the puppy! and a kitten at the same time so they grow up together and get along :D

the love bracelet will always be there, and it sounds like your family would love another pet...

I'm a cat person as well and fully understand. when I lived at home with my family they had a newfoundlander and my older cat grew up with her. they were best friends they cuddled together played together, and would hang out in the back yard just chillin!
unfortunately she (newfoundlander) passed away 2 years ago and my cat lost his best friend.

if you can have a puppy and a kitten at the same time they can grow up together :D and they're not too expensive either if you rescue both from a shelter!

what kind of dog were you considering?
 
#6
Well, for me at this point in my life, that would be an EASY choice...I'd take the bracelet! We have one dog whom we love but I'm not a huge animal person but when he passes on he will likely be our dog, unless the kids are dying for one and beat me down. As for another baby...I'm 37 with 2 kids...ds (7) and dd (4) and I feel really complete with our family and at this stage it would be hard for me to be excited about going through another pregnancy...the baby/toddler phase is so sweet but not easy...I sleep through the night now...BUT...if you're thinking you would like another baby and are up for it, I'd definitely take a child over a piece of jewelry!
For me, dh always gets me with "a piece of jewelry or take a trip". I do love jewelry but I have passed up expensive jewelry purchases to take the family to Disney...
Good luck with your decision...you can't go wrong whatever you choose!
 
#7
Those choices are a bit strange. A baby and a dog really have nothing to do with a Love Bracelet. My DH would never dare say something like that to me. :nono:I would reply, how about WE decide if dog and /or baby are best for the family, and I get the Love bracelet because it is best for me.
 
#8
thimp said:
Those choices are a bit strange. A baby and a dog really have nothing to do with a Love Bracelet. My DH would never dare say something like that to me. :nono:I would reply, how about WE decide if dog and /or baby are best for the family, and I get the Love bracelet because it is best for me.
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that's true! two choices are family decisions and the love bracelet is a personal gift:thinkin:
 
#9
You can get a dog or a Cartier bracelet any time. My youngest will be 10 soon and I'm wishing I'd had more - but now it's too late (I'm 49). Ah well....

But that's just me.

Mimster has a good point! :smile1:
 
#10
thimp said:
Those choices are a bit strange. A baby and a dog really have nothing to do with a Love Bracelet. My DH would never dare say something like that to me. :nono:I would reply, how about WE decide if dog and /or baby are best for the family, and I get the Love bracelet because it is best for me.
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I'm inclined to think her DH was kidding her a bit..
 
#11
thimp said:
Those choices are a bit strange. A baby and a dog really have nothing to do with a Love Bracelet. My DH would never dare say something like that to me. :nono:I would reply, how about WE decide if dog and /or baby are best for the family, and I get the Love bracelet because it is best for me.
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Maybe OP's dh meant in a lighthearted way? I do know what you mean though if it is a serious ultimatum My dh wouldn't dare give me those choices. He would get an earful.
 
#12
Candice0985 said:
hmmm....get the puppy! and a kitten at the same time so they grow up together and get along :D

the love bracelet will always be there, and it sounds like your family would love another pet...

I'm a cat person as well and fully understand. when I lived at home with my family they had a newfoundlander and my older cat grew up with her. they were best friends they cuddled together played together, and would hang out in the back yard just chillin!
unfortunately she (newfoundlander) passed away 2 years ago and my cat lost his best friend.

if you can have a puppy and a kitten at the same time they can grow up together :D and they're not too expensive either if you rescue both from a shelter!

what kind of dog were you considering?
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German Shepard. We are just a shepard family through and through. Our last dog was 1/2 g shepard 1/2 timber wolf. She was amazing. Best dog ever.

HeidiD said:
Well, for me at this point in my life, that would be an EASY choice...I'd take the bracelet! We have one dog whom we love but I'm not a huge animal person but when he passes on he will likely be our dog, unless the kids are dying for one and beat me down. As for another baby...I'm 37 with 2 kids...ds (7) and dd (4) and I feel really complete with our family and at this stage it would be hard for me to be excited about going through another pregnancy...the baby/toddler phase is so sweet but not easy...I sleep through the night now...BUT...if you're thinking you would like another baby and are up for it, I'd definitely take a child over a piece of jewelry!
For me, dh always gets me with "a piece of jewelry or take a trip". I do love jewelry but I have passed up expensive jewelry purchases to take the family to Disney...
Good luck with your decision...you can't go wrong whatever you choose!
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I'm in the same boat. 35 with a 5 and 7 year old. I feel complete but I worry if I'll feel that way down the road. And if Hubby had added Disney trip to the list, I already know that would be my choice...lol.

thimp said:
Those choices are a bit strange. A baby and a dog really have nothing to do with a Love Bracelet. My DH would never dare say something like that to me. :nono:I would reply, how about WE decide if dog and /or baby are best for the family, and I get the Love bracelet because it is best for me.
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Well there was more to the story. He is buying another old truck. Kind of as a toy, but also as an investment. Buying it right selling it for much more. I got sick of his investment pitch so brought up the Love as an investment and how it's doubled in price in not all that much time..lol. Also the kids have been begging for a dog and I've been supporting them. He is the one hesitating because we have too much crap going on in our lives right now for a puppy. It's true. He knows the responsibility would fall on me and I'm not a dog person. And the whole baby thing is an ongoing debate we've been having for 3 years. He wants one..I'm always on the fence off the fence about it. He isn't around very much and I have no help with raising kids. He's a fantastic loving dad, but 90% of everything child related falls on me. Which is fine by me because I do a freakin fantastic job, but I don't know if adding a third would be fair to my other two. I am an awesome mom to the two I have but I think I would only be a good mom to three. I have limits. Maybe if I was 5 years younger or had more help :-)

I don't think this was some screwy ultimatum..I think it was a very smart tactic to help me see what really matters to me. He's very giving and would give me all three if he knew that was what was really important to me, but he knows me better than I do sometimes and knows I get lost in my obsessions.
 
#13
sin vergüenza;19805824 said:
You can get a dog or a Cartier bracelet any time. My youngest will be 10 soon and I'm wishing I'd had more - but now it's too late (I'm 49). Ah well....

But that's just me.

Mimster has a good point! :smile1:
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See..I don't want to be in that spot in 10 years. My heart breaks for you!

sin vergüenza;19805829 said:
I'm inclined to think her DH was kidding her a bit..
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he was...sorta...see last paragraph above. He was trying to help me.

Mimster said:
Maybe OP's dh meant in a lighthearted way? I do know what you mean though if it is a serious ultimatum My dh wouldn't dare give me those choices. He would get an earful.
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Agreed.
 
#15
skphotoimages -You sound like a lovely lady who have so much on her plate as it is. Perhaps you need a little treat for yourself, and a Love bracelet would do nicely. :yes:
 
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