Should I keep the diamonds?

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abs914

abs914

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Sep 3, 2008
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#1
So my brother and his gf broke up (:yahoo:) and she's giving him back the .750 diamond studs that he got for her. He wants me to take them.

Right now I have .375 studs which I know are on the smaller side but I'm comfortable with the size. Of course I'd prefer the larger size but I don't think I would feel right taking these earrings. This girl and I didn't have the best relationship and I feel like I'd always associate my studs with her. I'm nervous I'll never be able to consider them MY earrings. They'll always be the crazy ex's that I now get to wear.

Just curious to get some opinions. Am I thinking too much into this and I should just take the studs and run? Or should I tell my brother to save them for our 15 month old niece?
 
#3
take them, says thanks and forget she was ever in your life.
Wear them in good health.
I would have a problem wearing earrings my hubby or SO bought for another woman--but with a brother, all is well.
Reset them if you want to in another color gold or a slightly different different--bezel them or something.
Diamonds in general hang around for years and years and are recut, reset, what does it matter who had them before, so long as your hubby isn't regifting you with the engagement ring he bought for his ex. SO's should value you enough, in my opinion, to buy new things for you, not just have generic gifts hanging around that they give to all the women in their life turn by turn, but that JMO. I do have a friend who is walking around wearing a lot of the stones from a previous marriage to a very bad person in her current engagement ring. Her second husband gave her a diamond that wasn't big enough to make her happy by itself, so she took the old engagement ring apart and made an enhancer that she soldered to it, with the old diamonds and now she likes the ring. Strange, but true.
 
#4
Take them. Once you catch your reflection a few times and appreciate the earrings, you will see them as yours. Or make a conscious choice to associate them with the kindness and generosity of your brother and not her. HE, after all, is not only the one who bought them, but the one who gave them to you.
 
#5
They are a gift from your brother, take them. It's not like they are from your current husband's ex or something. (just an example!)
 
#6
Ok, I'm definitely glad I decided to post about this. I like the idea about re-setting them in a different bezel. I know this whole thing is a little silly and how diamonds can circulate amongst a lot of people...but this girl basically tried to break up my family so this situation definitely had me torn. I'll accept them and get my butt to a jeweler :smile1:
 
#7
Think about this from your poor brother's perspective. He bought them for her, his relationship is broken and gone, and he's probably very upset. It seems like it would make him feel better to have someone he loves use them, considering I'm sure it was hard-earned money he spent on them, rather than having them languishing in a box at his place.

Take and wear them for his sake, if for nothing else. You can give them positive meaning instead of having them sit around with him, reminding him all the time about what happened.
 
#11
give them a good cleaning... and purify them with rubbing alchohol.

and enjoy them. your brother wants you to have them. associate them with the love you have for your brother. :)
 
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