I wouldn't change a thing. My DH did all the research himself, and got me the biggest, best ring he could. I received it 10 years ago, and it still brings me so much joy.
Selecting your E-RING. If you can go back in time what would you do differently?
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The TWO reasons for my upgrade is I wasn't happy that my original stone had a "natural" in it, or surface blemish (which you could feel with your nail) & I wanted a larger stone.
I could have gotten 3 cts, but honestly, it doesn't make me happier than the 1.25 cts I currently own & adore. It's an ideal cut and sparkles like MAD! Lots of fire and brilliance.....suits my personality!
I find that I love what I love & try not to get too wrapped up in other people's rings here (and other forums) as it can be quite overwhelming and disappointing with the constant comparisons....for some more than others.
Thing is, the ring serves as a symbol of the eternal love my DH & I share. I really don't care what others think (although I do LOVE compliments that I receive...hey, I'm only human!)
And not to open up a whole new can of worms here, I tend to keep things in perspective. There are "fakes" and those who like to "show off", so that's something to keep in mind. Make the BEST decision for YOU & follow your heart. If that 10 ctw rock screams your name and you can afford it....GO FOR IT! But there's nothing wrong with a top-notch 0.15 ctw either
I could have gotten 3 cts, but honestly, it doesn't make me happier than the 1.25 cts I currently own & adore. It's an ideal cut and sparkles like MAD! Lots of fire and brilliance.....suits my personality!
I find that I love what I love & try not to get too wrapped up in other people's rings here (and other forums) as it can be quite overwhelming and disappointing with the constant comparisons....for some more than others.
Thing is, the ring serves as a symbol of the eternal love my DH & I share. I really don't care what others think (although I do LOVE compliments that I receive...hey, I'm only human!)
And not to open up a whole new can of worms here, I tend to keep things in perspective. There are "fakes" and those who like to "show off", so that's something to keep in mind. Make the BEST decision for YOU & follow your heart. If that 10 ctw rock screams your name and you can afford it....GO FOR IT! But there's nothing wrong with a top-notch 0.15 ctw either
Hmm yeah I definitely had second thoughts after we got my e-ring. I thought I knew exactly what I wanted and went straight for it without trying on a variety of styles and stone shapes. I am still happy with my ering because ultimately I was the one who chose it, but I would've liked to try on more before I made my decision so I knew it was the right one! I would also like to go bigger on my center stone but that is something we will do a little later on.........and will likely reset my stone then!
I didn't know much when we picked mine out late last year, but now I would definitely make sure I got a better cut and would probably try for a better color if we could afford it. Because mine is an asscher, I notice it's color in daylight now, though it's possible I could just need it cleaned too.
There are many things I would change about my ring if I could, but the compromises we made were because we couldn't afford more, so in the end I'm still in love with my ring.
There are many things I would change about my ring if I could, but the compromises we made were because we couldn't afford more, so in the end I'm still in love with my ring.
Jdavid, I don't believe in upgrades, I believe in getting another ring with a larger stone if my husband is into the idea. I have one e-ring stone only and so that's my deal - I love it nonetheless.
However, with setting changes, I'm all for that as long as I get to keep my stone, I would never do a trade in etc.
My hubby is low-key, he's not tied up in the idea of I gave this to you and you must forever keep it this way.
However, with setting changes, I'm all for that as long as I get to keep my stone, I would never do a trade in etc.
My hubby is low-key, he's not tied up in the idea of I gave this to you and you must forever keep it this way.
I really don't care what others think (although I do LOVE compliments that I receive...hey, I'm only human!)
And not to open up a whole new can of worms here, I tend to keep things in perspective. There are "fakes" and those who like to "show off", so that's something to keep in mind. Make the BEST decision for YOU & follow your heart. If that 10 ctw rock screams your name and you can afford it....GO FOR IT! But there's nothing wrong with a top-notch 0.15 ctw either
I agree with Contessa here 100%.
You really don't know what others have. More than than that, you don't know their bank balance. Some can really afford a ring that you just CAN'T.
Some can't really afford it but mind debt less than you do.
I always figure, if I don't want their husband, Idon't want their ring. My ring is from MY husband and it actually says a lot about who he is (including the fact that he let me pick, though he was there) and I like that.
And it's no joke about the beautiful 0.15ctw rings. They definitely exist. Especially in a)antiques and b) designers such a Dior. I often think in fact that when the stone is small (which can be fiery and beautiful) more care is taken to have a beautiful design and integrate it into the design. Plus these rings are often what looks best on those with delicate hands and fingers.
My particular husband would be hurt and offended if I wanted (no offense, but this is never a 'need') to wear something other than what he gave me next to my wedding ring and luckily we are in agreement about that. I don't know how YOUR husband is though--men are not the same in this regard. I would think most men though would not like you to upgrade with your money and kind of show them up this way (and anyway, Idon't quite understand how it's 'your' money instead of both of yours, unless you're not married yet). ButI would never say that this is true in all cases and the best thing is probably to sound your man out.
Yeah definitely don't upgrade with your own money, that MAY make your husband feel iffy - even if he doesn't say it and just wants to make you happy.
Another interesting thing I came across, I have a friend who never wears her 3ct e-ring and wears her promise ring on a daily basis (1ct solitaire). Both are from her husband and she doesn't feel the need to always wear the larger stone. She only wears her larger stone on VERY VERY special occasions.
My hubby always said we'll upgrade saying that we can trade in my stone for a larger stone, however I was like, NO WAY I want to keep my e-ring, that larger stone can be for my ring hand ring finger or whatever I feel like wearing a bigger stone for formal events. I'm never getting rid of this baby! It can be my "other" special occasion jewelry - but not an e-ring replacement.
Another interesting thing I came across, I have a friend who never wears her 3ct e-ring and wears her promise ring on a daily basis (1ct solitaire). Both are from her husband and she doesn't feel the need to always wear the larger stone. She only wears her larger stone on VERY VERY special occasions.
My hubby always said we'll upgrade saying that we can trade in my stone for a larger stone, however I was like, NO WAY I want to keep my e-ring, that larger stone can be for my ring hand ring finger or whatever I feel like wearing a bigger stone for formal events. I'm never getting rid of this baby! It can be my "other" special occasion jewelry - but not an e-ring replacement.
Re: upgrades, my fiancé and I have the same attitude that we believe in additions and not replacements. My mother has kept her small diamond and only changed the setting after it was damaged by a jeweler. His mother did upgrade to a giant diamond, but she is now happy with her ring and won't go bigger despite FIL offering. Instead, he gives her significant additions for special occasions. FI and I think it's a good system, you have your wedding set for every day and you can have more formal pieces like a giant RHR, drop diamond earrings, bracelets and a diamond necklace to really bling it out when it is appropriate.
I will probably inherit a diamond bigger than the current center stone of my e-ring (my grandmother is 95ish she's been married 4 times and very well each time) but I will just use the diamond for a RHR or something else. I know my grandfather (a defense attorney in the 1950s) used to have gangsters pay him under the table, tax-free. He was very generous in putting some of that money into diamonds for her as an asset. Most of the pieces are very mid-century retro but her taste has always been pretty gaudy and over the top... Definitely only cocktail party appropriate, haha!
I will probably inherit a diamond bigger than the current center stone of my e-ring (my grandmother is 95ish she's been married 4 times and very well each time) but I will just use the diamond for a RHR or something else. I know my grandfather (a defense attorney in the 1950s) used to have gangsters pay him under the table, tax-free. He was very generous in putting some of that money into diamonds for her as an asset. Most of the pieces are very mid-century retro but her taste has always been pretty gaudy and over the top... Definitely only cocktail party appropriate, haha!
Same here! My DH bought me a larger stone for our anniversary but I still have my original E-Ring.
I do consider resetting it so I will get to wear both stones sometimes...But no way will I trade it in or change the stone (although after much time spent on forums I have learned now that I could have picked a way prettier diamond for the same amount of money), I will always love my E-Ring!
WOW. It must be fun to go through her jewelry collection!!!!
It totally is, though I've only seen the stuff she keeps in her safe deposit at the bank maybe once or twice. She's the reason why I just love everything fashion, but especially shoes and handbags. She gifted me a clutch she had made for her in Paris (and stuck grandfather with the bill for, she must have been maaaaaad) that's completely hand embroidered and hand beaded over the pattern with gold wire. It's like a piece of jewelry this thing is.... incredible.
She's a hoot: she wore furs and diamonds during the Great Depression, she fraternized with gangsters, she was a gossip columnist on Long Island... but you know, she's a "good Catholic" because she's never been divorced. Only widowed, FOUR TIMES. At 95, she still prances around in cheetah print, gaudy (real) bling, and red nails and lipstick.
ditto!!! i love love love my e-ring.. and the idea of altering it in any shape of form.. or "upgrading" to a larger stone would be impossible because i couldn't bear the idea of being apart from it for even a day!! i feel strangely naked without it hehe.
my husband is very "against" the idea of "upgrading" e-rings.. he saved for almost 2 years for my e-ring and a lot of sweat, tears and blood went into it. however he has no issues with gifting other pieces of jewelry to mark celebrations.. ie. anniversaries or push presents. i'm very keen on the idea of eternity bands for anniversaries.. and i rather love the idea of having the options of being able to wear my e-ring on my LH and an eternity band as a RHR for that extra bling.. or going low key by wearing the eternity band on my wedding finger instead of my e-ring... as my center stone is set pretty high... hopefully *fingers crossed* for a major anniversary.. i have my heart set on a yellow diamond ring because i think it'll set it apart from my e-ring
my husband is very "against" the idea of "upgrading" e-rings.. he saved for almost 2 years for my e-ring and a lot of sweat, tears and blood went into it. however he has no issues with gifting other pieces of jewelry to mark celebrations.. ie. anniversaries or push presents. i'm very keen on the idea of eternity bands for anniversaries.. and i rather love the idea of having the options of being able to wear my e-ring on my LH and an eternity band as a RHR for that extra bling.. or going low key by wearing the eternity band on my wedding finger instead of my e-ring... as my center stone is set pretty high... hopefully *fingers crossed* for a major anniversary.. i have my heart set on a yellow diamond ring because i think it'll set it apart from my e-ring