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Please help me (a dad) choose a Cartier piece for my daughter
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I didn't want to be hurtful and saw it might be, but you got my drift and I get yours. I wish you and family sunny days ahead.
Hello OP,
You have been given some very wonderful suggestions. I know how you feel - we have had a similar experiences (I think). At birth my daughter (now 22) had many many immediate medical needs and stayed in the NICU for a little more than 8 weeks. When they let her come home there was even more care needed from home and much training for my husband and I on how to handle some of the issues.
A piece of jewelry was the farthest thing from our minds, we simply wanted her better as I am completely sure is true for you and your wife. Having said that I can totally understand you need to feel that you have some control over something - anything - that would make you feel like you can do something for her besides the love and security I am sure she will feel from you both.
I would like to make a suggestion. Is there any piece of jewelry that your family has passed down from one generation to another? Or is there a tradition of the women in your family - on either side that gravitates to the same style, design, or piece. I mention this idea because in our family each girl from my mother, sister, to me, and the girls we have had all have the same necklace. Next will be my son's now has a fiance and at the next major event - that is important, we will be gifting her the same piece of jewelry - she will be "officially" in our family, and it is our way of letting her know.
That piece of jewelry? It is a diamond by the yard (dbty) necklace from Tiffany's. We gave both my niece and my daughter a dbty at age 13. If you want to start the tradition maybe you give the necklace to your wife first and she can pass it down when your daughter is 10, or 13, or whenever appropriate.
I wish you all the best with her upcoming surgery. She is very lucky to have a dad that is so thoughtful and wanting to give her something that later in life will mean so much more than you can even realize.
ETA: grammer....arrrgggghhh...duh
You have been given some very wonderful suggestions. I know how you feel - we have had a similar experiences (I think). At birth my daughter (now 22) had many many immediate medical needs and stayed in the NICU for a little more than 8 weeks. When they let her come home there was even more care needed from home and much training for my husband and I on how to handle some of the issues.
A piece of jewelry was the farthest thing from our minds, we simply wanted her better as I am completely sure is true for you and your wife. Having said that I can totally understand you need to feel that you have some control over something - anything - that would make you feel like you can do something for her besides the love and security I am sure she will feel from you both.
I would like to make a suggestion. Is there any piece of jewelry that your family has passed down from one generation to another? Or is there a tradition of the women in your family - on either side that gravitates to the same style, design, or piece. I mention this idea because in our family each girl from my mother, sister, to me, and the girls we have had all have the same necklace. Next will be my son's now has a fiance and at the next major event - that is important, we will be gifting her the same piece of jewelry - she will be "officially" in our family, and it is our way of letting her know.
That piece of jewelry? It is a diamond by the yard (dbty) necklace from Tiffany's. We gave both my niece and my daughter a dbty at age 13. If you want to start the tradition maybe you give the necklace to your wife first and she can pass it down when your daughter is 10, or 13, or whenever appropriate.
I wish you all the best with her upcoming surgery. She is very lucky to have a dad that is so thoughtful and wanting to give her something that later in life will mean so much more than you can even realize.
ETA: grammer....arrrgggghhh...duh
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As usual I find myself seconding TGG's response - she always offers very thoughtful and eloquent advice! - and wishing you, your wife, and baby daughter the best of health and happiness in the years to come.
Would you consider stud earrings ? She can wear them from a younger age, safer and not too ostentatious on a toddler, and her mother can wear them also... You could get her birthstone or any gemstone that speaks to you (or that mom doesn't have yet 
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If you're set on Cartier, these could be an option :
http://www.cartier.com/collections/...s/b8043400-saphirs-legers-de-cartier-earrings
Wishing you all the best for her surgery
). If you're set on Cartier, these could be an option :
http://www.cartier.com/collections/...s/b8043400-saphirs-legers-de-cartier-earrings
Wishing you all the best for her surgery
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Hi OP. I am a parent myself and I could not imagine how you and your wife are feeling right now. As for the jewellery or with anything, there's never a good time but now. Live for the moment because we don't know what's going to happen tomorrow. I'm only saying this because I don't see the point of buying something for your daughter for later on. Her taste might be different when she's 16, what then? Sorry if I'm dragging on.
I agree with cvalier26, the cartier pink sapphire earrings is so beautiful on. It's very discreet and something she can wear everyday. Or the small tiffany dbty earrings. The bracelet or necklace can be tangled or fall off and you'll always be worried that she'll lose it. If you do end up buying the earrings, just make sure you put a silicone backing as well as the backing so that it wouldn't dig on the back of the ear.
Your little girl will be alright. I can feel it in my bones!
I agree with cvalier26, the cartier pink sapphire earrings is so beautiful on. It's very discreet and something she can wear everyday. Or the small tiffany dbty earrings. The bracelet or necklace can be tangled or fall off and you'll always be worried that she'll lose it. If you do end up buying the earrings, just make sure you put a silicone backing as well as the backing so that it wouldn't dig on the back of the ear.
Your little girl will be alright. I can feel it in my bones!
Thank you all for your suggestions and kind words.
I think I am definitely going to get a matching/complementary pair (wife+daughter), and am thinking I will gift it on a Mother's Day.
I still have to decide on the actual pieces (and am still reviewing all of the great suggestions, thanks again!)
Thank you for saying this. Totally agreed!
I think I am definitely going to get a matching/complementary pair (wife+daughter), and am thinking I will gift it on a Mother's Day.
I still have to decide on the actual pieces (and am still reviewing all of the great suggestions, thanks again!)
Thank you for saying this. Totally agreed!
I agree with the other suggestions (most notably TGG's) recommendation of something from the VCA sweet line. To go even further I would suggest one of the carnelian (red) and pink gold pieces. Just yesterday I was in the boutique and the SA was telling me about another customer who was going through a difficult time; she was told that, for good luck, she should buy the VCA quatrefoil (health, wealth, love and luck) in carnelian.
I love this TGG. And might I add that the Trinity, being 3 pieces in one (and I can give a more religious response here but choose not to) can symbolically represent the link between you, your wife and daughter - sort of like a cord that CANNOT be broken.
I am sorry to hear this and I hope the surgery goes well and that your daughter has many happy years to come.
I also think it is a lovely gesture, and isn´t this was jewelry is all about: marking important events in life and reminding us of what we love and being a keepsake.
Reading your first sentences I also thought immediately of the love necklace.
A necklace is something a young girl can wear pretty early.
I have two nieces and we gifted them both Trollbeads necklaces and now they get a bead or two every birthday and Christmas and sometimes in between. They are now almost 12 and 9 years old, and we started when they were around 5 years.
Concerning your questions:
A. What Cartier options should I look at (which are in my price range)?
As mentioned, I would get the love necklace.
B. Are any of these Cartier bracelets / pendants / necklaces somehow adjustable such that they could be worn by a pre-teen but also later on as an adult?
Not sure here, but the necklace has a nice length so I guess no problem if she starts wearing it even at a young age.
C. Gut answer -- should I purchase something just for daughter? Or should I do matching pieces for mom/wife + daughter?
I love the thought of getting something for your wife as well.
Also the idea of gifting it to your wife now and she will hand it over to your daughter at a certain age.
D. Last question, I am leaning towards Cartier, but are there other recommended options/brands (at a similar price & quality level)?
Maybe something from Tiffany? But - only my personal feeling- I think Cartier hold its value better over time.
I am wishing you and your wife much strength for the coming time and sending you lots of positive thoughts!
I also think it is a lovely gesture, and isn´t this was jewelry is all about: marking important events in life and reminding us of what we love and being a keepsake.
Reading your first sentences I also thought immediately of the love necklace.
A necklace is something a young girl can wear pretty early.
I have two nieces and we gifted them both Trollbeads necklaces and now they get a bead or two every birthday and Christmas and sometimes in between. They are now almost 12 and 9 years old, and we started when they were around 5 years.
Concerning your questions:
A. What Cartier options should I look at (which are in my price range)?
As mentioned, I would get the love necklace.
B. Are any of these Cartier bracelets / pendants / necklaces somehow adjustable such that they could be worn by a pre-teen but also later on as an adult?
Not sure here, but the necklace has a nice length so I guess no problem if she starts wearing it even at a young age.
C. Gut answer -- should I purchase something just for daughter? Or should I do matching pieces for mom/wife + daughter?
I love the thought of getting something for your wife as well.
Also the idea of gifting it to your wife now and she will hand it over to your daughter at a certain age.
D. Last question, I am leaning towards Cartier, but are there other recommended options/brands (at a similar price & quality level)?
Maybe something from Tiffany? But - only my personal feeling- I think Cartier hold its value better over time.
I am wishing you and your wife much strength for the coming time and sending you lots of positive thoughts!
+1 I love AntiqueShopper's idea.
I think Tiffany's DBTY would also make a wonderful gift. I bought one for my mother and myself the matching ones last month.
Cartier love necklace would also make an amazing gift. Maybe have it engraved? I am not sure if it could be done at the back of necklace. My parents bought me a love ring with "Mom & Dad
you" engraved. I love it so much.I hope your daughter gets better soon. Sending your family lot of strength and prayers.
I feel for you and your wife, and I hope your daughter will go through surgery with no issue.
Necklaces look really long on little girls. Earrings are easily lost by a 4 year old.
I think that in your position, I'd choose something to be enjoyed as a kid rather that jewelry. For instance a really nice blanket. "Tartine et chocolat" is a really French luxury children's brand; they have cashmere blankets that keep babys warm and are almost decorative items by themselves.
Necklaces look really long on little girls. Earrings are easily lost by a 4 year old.
I think that in your position, I'd choose something to be enjoyed as a kid rather that jewelry. For instance a really nice blanket. "Tartine et chocolat" is a really French luxury children's brand; they have cashmere blankets that keep babys warm and are almost decorative items by themselves.
The trinity children's line is really nice. Mom can wear the necklace (there's 2 styles) and DD can wear the bracelet. What's really nice about the bracelet is that when adjusted on the jump rings the chain does not dangle. If you look at the pics online you can see how the chain is doubled. I hope I'm making sense. I'm not sure what age she'll grow into it but if you would like I can try it on my 6yr tmrw.
Van cleef is great too. A sweet necklace for DD and vintage size for wife. Van cleef will resize the necklace for free within a certain time frame. You can get the sweet shorten and the vintage lengthened.
Tiffany diamond by the yard would seem nice too, I do not own one by t&co but from the pics the chain is on the thin side.
Cartier and van cleef chains have nice thickness. Keep that in mind.
Hope all goes well.
Van cleef is great too. A sweet necklace for DD and vintage size for wife. Van cleef will resize the necklace for free within a certain time frame. You can get the sweet shorten and the vintage lengthened.
Tiffany diamond by the yard would seem nice too, I do not own one by t&co but from the pics the chain is on the thin side.
Cartier and van cleef chains have nice thickness. Keep that in mind.
Hope all goes well.