Not Letting Purse Changing Control Your Life

[Antigone]

Very helpful tips in this thread! I was (and sometimes still am) struggling with compulsive shopping and the past few months, after a lifetime of not caring about bags, I've been very into bag. During the period leading up and throughout the holiday season, my mind was focused on bags. Thankfully it seems the "fog" is calming and disappearing now.

I think what helped me greatly was stopping myself from watching bag vloggers on youtube and browsing on IG. Herd mentality is something I am prone too, and deliberately avoiding triggers help.

 

[ddchicago85]

This is hard struggle for in the sense I’ve always been an over spender, lived some great times in the moment that caused some not so great times at points too. 3 years ago
I walked into Louis Vuitton after spending about 8 years from that store. Bam I turned 30 causally walked into the lv store right down from my office, met my SA and it was my start of stopping into lv at least 1 once a week and shopping lv.com and fashionphile weekly, that I ended up with over 40 bags, 20
Wallets, charms, scarves etc. for days.
Like I’m haivjng a bad day, I’d love another speedy b and just go buy it.

Well after I cleares out my savings to pay down most of credit card bills I still have some that I’m aggressively paying down and for me the only way I can not buy and believe
Me it was a struggle as sure leave credit cards at home, but I remember all the numbers by heart. I really had to stop using credit cards and pay with debit cards if I buy something. Even if I’m going to pay that credits card bill parting with my cash at transaction point makes me think twice. Sure it’s really nice to have a PenFed Amex with a 30,000 dollar limit on a single persons good income but if I take those cards out with me I know I’ll use them lol. And I won’t close them cause I have good credit and not In an out of control place but I can see how easy easy easy it can be to trap myself with 1000s and 1000s of debt so I debit these days. Sorry for the rant

 

[uclorox]

I’m trying this thing called time constraints between purse purchases. Possibly, every three months I will allow myself to buy a purse or purses and just window shop for the remaining time frame in between. Why, because I am not a millionaire and love so many purses so much. I will keep you updated on how this works out for me. Kudos, everybody. Hopefully, we all will have more money in our wallets than spending on purses.

 

[CashmereCouture]

I think this thread is really more about shopping than purse-changing. I'm lucky to have never had an overspending habit, BUT I have spent lots of time browsing online. So the question is: why are we so attracted to new shiny things? We need to deconstruct our own materialism. One thing that helps me do that is estate-shopping and thrifting. I can afford to buy new, but nowadays I really prefer the hunt for something used. The payoff is worth the initial ick factor. Seeing all those once-new items at a Goodwill really puts things in perspective by reminding you that everything ends up losing its value once the tags are off. It also saves you a ton of money and is better for the environment. The next thing that helps is DIY. I think people shop because they're bored and want to feel the "buzz" of a new acquisition. You can still indulge a love of fashion and get that buzz by refurbishing or upcycling an existing item. In fact, it's even more rewarding because it's something YOU made.

 

[Senf]

Found better ways to spend money. Love to travel so instead of buying stuff I prefer to have a good time. Still love bags, but they are no more a reflection of how I‘d like to be but rather a useful object.
This helps me to put things in order. I‘d rather spend a holiday with my family exploring a new continent than buying an expensive bag.
This is just me. Actually just bought a 20 Euro bag and love it to bits. More than my store bought Mulberry.

 

[Emily1830]

My husband keeps me in check lol. Seriously he hates my bag obsession so I limit what I buy.

I am also trying to be more mindful of saving now and buying only what will truly enrich and help my life. For example, I finally got a LV tote (Iena MM) since I needed a lightweight tote for work. I have that and my Chanel GST and I'm good on that front. I have plenty of weekend bags and rarely get to wear all of them. So I tell myself that getting more will not really improve my life. If anything, it will hurt it as I could use that money elsewhere.

For now I am trying to vicariously enjoy other people's bag reveals and for me to enjoy what I have. I have a wishlist and I try my best to stick to it.