Non diamond e-ring? No e-ring at all?

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jordanjordan

jordanjordan

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#1
Yesterday was my birthday and BF and I were out shopping so we decided to finally go and take a look at rings just to get a feel for ct sizes and stuff. I have always been on the fence about having an e-ring because I'm not a very traditional girl, I don't really LOVE diamonds, and I don't really like wearing rings. That being said, I thought that maybe if I actually started looking and trying them on I would warm to the idea. Well, after I left the store I felt really weird and anxious like I could cry and I realized that a traditional ering is NOT for me.

Anyone else feel this way? Any of you gals have a gemstone ring, or even a pair of engagement earrings or other jewelry? Anyone not use any jewelry to signify their engagement?
 
#2
Maybe you can go for a sapphire (any color you want- blue is traditional). Sapphires are the standard stone in Europe for Engagement. Plus, they come in a variety of colors, so you get to choose which one is the best for you. :)
 
#3
You can get whatever you want. I'm not married, but lots of women do non traditional rings by US standards. Colored stones are more common in Europe from what I understand. Sapphires are a great choice b/c they are a durable stones and have tons of natural colors- look at the Natural Sapphire Company.

Even if you wanted just a band ring w/ small colored stones or diamonds and then a plain wedding band that would work- or a trinity/rolling ring (like Cartier does, although other companies make them for less) would work as a combo engagement/wedding ring. You don't have to have anything if you don't want it either.

You might get used to a band ring that was really comfortable and forget it was there as well.

There is a really cool Cathy Waterman ring on Jewels by Erica Grace that would be a neat combo ring too: http://www.jewelsbyericagrace.com/modern_and_estate_rings
 
#4
hi jordanjordan!

i'm from the Netherlands (small country in Europe), and you would so fit in here! almost no one here has an engagement ring when they do get engaged. and if they do have an engagement ring, it's just a plain band.

all i want to say is, it's not weird if the traditional engagement ring is nothing for you, here in Europe, almost no one has the glamorous e-rings that is traditional (i think) for Americans.

Good luck with your decision!
 
#5
Thanks ladies! I'm glad I'm not totally alone in not wanting a diamond. What do you all think of getting no ring at all? My boyfriend said he feels weird not getting me any jewelry to commemorate him asking me to be his wife and he thought maybe "engagement earrings" would be nice because I really like earrings. Would that be totally weird? Or maybe a really special necklace?

I just really don't think I'd wear a ring of any kind... but maybe a simple band with gemstones like someone suggested might be okay, I'll have to try it, though it's still a ring.
 
#6
I don't have an e-ring; at the time we could get a e-ring and two plain bands or two really nice bands. Since it takes two to get married, we opted for the really nice bands. They are 14k yellow gold with our names in platinum and five diamonds.
Dh has offered a solitaire over the years, but I never wanted it.
I did get a five stone band in diamond and tanzanite for our twenty year anniversary!

So it's not necessary to have traditional for a happy marriage!
If you are not a ring girl, figure out what WILL have meaning for you.
It is a symbol of commitment between you and your partner, so those are the only opinions that really matter.
 
#7
I have known several people who weren't into e-rings and who were proposed with different gifts. My mother never had an engagement ring, just a simple gold wedding band. My friend's Mom wasn't into them, so her Dad bought her a painting as an engagement gift. Another guy friend of mine recently proposed to his GF with a Rolex watch (after she had mentioned that she didn't want an engagement ring, only wanted a wedding band). It's totally your preference.
 
#8
I know a girl who recently got engaged and both her and DF had issues with e-rings, like they indicated ownership or something. So, no e-ring for them!

I think you should just wait. There will definitely be something along the line that catches your eye BIG TIME, and you'll know it's right for you!
 
#9
i think its ok, one of my friends just got married and decided she wanted no e-ring, so her husband gave her a watch which she wanted. i think whatever is meaningful for the couple works!
 
#11
I dont think it's necessary! I think couples are now realising they dont have to be pressured into societal norms anymore. do what works best for you and your fiance.
btw congratulations! :D
 
#12
The watch is a good idea except that I don't wear a watch and don't want to! I guess I just don't want one piece of jewelry that costs as much as a car.

Hopefully something will just hit me and I'll like it whether its a necklace or earrings or something not even jewelry. We've been putting off getting officially engaged until we could afford a nice ring but since I don't want one now it makes things that much easier!

Thanks for all of the input! It's nice to know I'm not crazy for not wanting a diamond, I feel like they are very prevalent on this board so sometimes it can be intimidating to go against the flock!
 
#13
The like the gemstone idea. Blue sapphire is stunning. I love blue sapphire. If you don't like blue sapphire, maybe choosing your birthstone color.

I just bought 3ct citrine solitaire(that is my birthstone as well), i will use as my ering and wear it eternity band.

If you don't like solitaire or larget stone, maybe you want to eternity band w/ the color stone that you like.
 
#14
Here is the pics:
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