Man friend yells at me for bag collection

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#16
I don't discuss my stuff with my friends who cannot afford the stuff that I can. It makes everything awkward. He clearly cannot afford Chanel and while I don't know what going on in his head, this kind of talking simply means his ego is hurt. With a friends who cannot afford my stuff, I just don't use it around them, or if I use, I'll just simply tell them I forget the price or just make them know it's not their business in a funny tone, but very firm and if they still insist, I make them know it's my money and that thing bring me joy and it's not their business. But most of the time, I take my more expensive things elsewhere. I've been in this situation before and I feel really guilty on spending such amount of money, but well, I also actually can and love to spend, so I just spend it somewhere else they're not there to judge. And I dress accordingly to the situation and people that will be around me for the day.
 
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#17
It all depends on how close you are with this friend; if I were the one he yelled at, I would tell him of my relief at not being his wife. Life is too short to worry about stuff like this, and it's not your fault that he can't afford expensive things for his family.
 
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snow0160 said:
It is ok we joke around a lot but it was offensive. I do want to say something which is I never look down on him for his choices because I know he is less financially stable but he gives me a hard time. It is ok to discriminate against the wealthy but not the other way around and I totally get that. But this is the exact reason why my mother chooses wealthier friends but I like to have friends from all walks of life.
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Honestly I think you hit the nail in the head with this sentence. Although, I would disagree that it's ok to discriminate against anyone. Discrimination / commentary against the wealthy is based in jealousy, judgement or both. It kills me how people feel they can snark at someone for having but no one better say a peep about them not having.

I have had friends who have tried this silliness with me but they were firmly dismissed. Friends should be happy for my financial (personal, spiritual, whatever) success just like I'd be happy if they have warm relationships with their siblings, earn a military commendation, or win a bowling tournament. I don't have siblings, I'm not in the military and I don't bowl. I don't have to "get it" to share my friends' joy.

I don't keep frenemies. And any friend who says something to hurt vs to help is not acting as a friend. If I were you, I'd have a direct conversation with my buddy and let him know his comments were upsetting and inappropriate. If he's a good guy, he'll hear you, apologize and you two can move forward. If not, you can spend more time with your more mentally mature friends.
 
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